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[Coffee20]

Wow I am starting to believe you knew all the time what you had been doing to me, all the bad things and blaming and putting me down. I truly believed you were just confused and selfish and spoilt little boy, who didn't know what he wanted and I almost forgave you. Now I think you have to be out of your mind, that you must have some big psychical problems or you are a complete idiot.

 

ah yeah it felt good to write it

[barese1]

I was so infatuated with you, so in love with you. I really thought you cared. You didn't, you were a selfish immature bi&ch. You will one day be played around and used and I hope you feel this pain that you gave me.

 

You were not the one, you were just practise. Thank you for never calling or never caring, it showed your true colours. Well done for not even giving a chance to something that could have been so good, really well done you absolute idiot

[Coffee20]

you don't even know how much I wish you to be with someone else right now and yes you should give her all the good things and respect that you didn't have for me at least I would finally know I was just a stupid toy for you and you would disappear from my head

 

and please take all your problems and all your friends back to your life, I don't want to deal with them

[kindest]

I see right through you now. You are a selfish immature boy who sometimes thinks too highly of himself but deep inside you know you are not even half the man you dream to be. I could have helped you be that man, but you chose to stay selfish and immature, well, that was your choice and boy do I have news for you... because of that you're not my f*cking problem anymore.

 

Good luck in finding someone better than me, good luck trying to forget me, as we both know I am not like the usual girls you dump. I will stand up for myself and will not let you walk all over me.

 

A**hole.

[billythefish]

i see you at least once a week at work now & when you phoned my dept & asked me to phone you on your mobile when a document was ready,ii was in hysterics...

 

i pretended i had forgotten your mobile number (even though i know it off by heart) & i asked you to wait until i got a piece of paper & a pen to write it down as i said i had forgotten it...i deleted your mobile & email address months ago & i hope it hurt you.....sad i know but it felt ****ing good

[MyHeartTakesOver]

You strung me along. You lied to me. I loved you and you knew it and used it against me. You lied to me. You LIED to me. I hate you with a hate that can only be born of love. I hope and pray that the easy girl you now have in our home leaves as quickly as she arrived. I hope that every lonely night you have you think of, and know fully, what you lost. You lost the love of a person who you'll never have again. I hate you for doing this to me. I hate you for not treating us with the honour that we deserved. I hope you suffer. You will suffer.

[coltsfan1]

WTF!!! Jeez sometimes a fella can't catch a break.....

[Tallblueyed]

Why on earth do I feel like reaching out to you? You have shown only self-empathetic guilt and no remorse for what you have done to me. It is my fault for catering to your needs for 14 years – it only makes sense that it remains all about you, even in the darkest hours of my life. I took you and your children into my home, gave you everything you ever wanted, loved you through so many trials and tribulations – all while remaining a 110% faithful loving devoted husband. Fourteen years later and three confirmed affairs and *I* want to reach out to you right now? How can I be so messed up to miss you? How can I miss someone who has such little regard for such a devoted partner? When does it stop being about you? When will you give me a real apology for what you have done?! This is not the life that I wanted and worked for!

 

PS. There are some Netflix that came in for you – I’ll put them under the front doormat in the morning.

[rhw]

i love you fiercely, deeply, passionately. always have, always will. but your passive-aggressive behavior as of late ****ing *destroyed* me. you cannot even begin to know the very deep pain you have left me to handle. you and i had a friendship over 11 years that meant everything to me. you meant everything to me. but no friend of mine would ever do what you’ve done and still be called a friend. i am neither stupid nor a doormat. furthermore, how can you call me your friend when i am not in your public life? you hide me from everything in such a digital world. no facebook, no skype, no twitter; it’s as if i don’t exist. and the reason you hide me is that you don’t want your family to know about me. what kind of friendship is that? are you ashamed of me? or were we never really friends? i don’t buy the latter because i know we were. so, what then? is your friendship with me something you need to hide? everyone i count as a friend, particularly men i’m just friends with, is proud to have me in their lives. i know parents, i know siblings, i know children (if they have any) and i know spouses if my friends are married. not a single one of them would ever think to throw me under the bus the way you have or compartmentalize my existence. or is it that you realize we have never been “just friends” and that the chemistry between us has to be hidden because it’d be obvious to everyone and that would destroy your perfect little world? so of course it would be easy for you to destroy me and not give it a second thought. i was so happy when i saw you again and i know--i ****ing know!--you were too. you can’t fake that kind of joy. we fell into place as if no time had passed and the powerful chemistry between us was palpable, so palpable that *you* wanted to be near me again as much as i wanted to be near you. whatever happened between then and now suggests two things: 1) you don’t give a **** about me or 2) you knew exactly where we would’ve been heading and while you come alive in my presence, you lack the guts to stand up for what you want, which i’ve always known anyway. It can’t be the first one because in no way would I choose to be with someone who didn’t give a **** about me. i’ve been around you too long to know the truth. you care and you love me.

 

your wife is not the person you think she is and sooner or later, she will obliterate everything you thought you worked hard to maintain. you will be left broken, betrayed and hurt. this is a guarantee, not a warning. it is the last thing i ever want to see happen to you because of how deeply i care for you. and if you came to me, hurt and broken, against my better judgment i would take you in but only under one circumstance: i would need to see that damn ring off your finger and i would need to see signed divorce papers. i’d even go to the post office with you and then i’d heal you in bed all day long. >~ my door will always be open to you but you need to know that you hurt me so deeply that i’ve hit rock bottom. fortunately for me, i am strong and sane and have figured out the most painful way ever that i’m not gonna get any answers from you, any consoling from you now so i rely on family and those friends who would never throw me under the bus like you did, and on my own strength to pull me up again. i guess it was easy for you think, “oh well, she’s strong, she’ll deal” as you, the one man i never believed would, walked away?

 

like i said, i still love you. i have always known i am better for you in so many ways: emotionally, spiritually, physically (meaning fitness compatibility) and sexually. but i can’t go on like this. you need to make a choice or take a stand or something. there will never be anyone else for me; your name is etched in every chamber of my heart and courses through my veins every time my heart pumps blood. I wouldn’t even try to settle for anyone knowing I’ll never fully love them. but i’m so completely broken right now that it’s going to take everything i have in me to build myself back up and i will never allow you to do this to me again. so when you come back around, you need to be sure you are free. If you aren’t, I can’t be there for you, no matter how much I may want to. I just can’t. Dammit, you *hurt* me. YOU hurt me.

[kindest]

I hate you so much. I F*CKING HATE YOU.

[CopingGal]

I'm so glad I continue to stay away from you. You are such a loser.

[MyHeartTakesOver]

Yesterday was the first day I started something which I know is going to deeply hurt you. It's not about revenge (I've given up desire for that - though I'll smile when your new "relationship" collapses), it's about me repairing the damage you have done to me. You won't be hearing from me again. You won't get an email reply or hear my voice over a phone line. I wish I had done this earlier, after you decided to reject love in favour of a superficial feeling of peace and acceptance. How you could do that is still confusing for me but it says a great deal about your values and character.

 

That you are more interested in saving face in front of the people in your life rather than in finding me and doing all you can to put things right tells my head what everyone else is telling it but which my heart can't feel; You don't love me. I know that you did, everyone knows that, but you don't anymore and that hurts me deeper than you could ever know. You fell short of "us". I would have fought to the death.

 

I so wish I could make you know how that feels. Maybe in my absence you will. Maybe you'll realise that our house is empty without me and no one can fill it with their presence like I could. Maybe when our cats look at you and you know they miss me you'll feel it again. I so hope you do and I so hope when that moment comes you'll realise what a fool you've been and will write to me to put this right.

 

I love you and I always will.

[kindest]

I do not believe you can be as heartless as you are acting now. Is this an act? The you that I knew is kind, gentle, has a big heart, and doesn't care about being an 'alpha male' just to stomp on a girl's self-esteem. Where is he? It's him that I want, I miss, I love. He's no longer you. I care about you, and I know that there is a better version of you. Where is he?

 

I know I am in your heart, still. It doesn't show, but I know I am in there. How could I not be when we've waited so long to be together and put so much effort into building our relationship? When you realize that, you will realize what you've trashed: true love like no other, a person to share life with, a friend that could've been forever, a chance in one lifetime that you might never get back.

 

We were more than just sex. Oh, so much more, and I am not kidding myself. We waited so long, didn't we? We wanted it to be special. And now what do you have... someone to pacify your sexual needs to fill a void in your heart? You damn well know that what you and your casual partner have can never replace what we shared.

 

All your efforts, and mine, you've wasted. You hurt me so much, when you knew I would never hurt you the same way you hurt me.

 

You emptied my heart. You drained my spirit. You buried me alive.

[InAFog]

Almost three months. You're doing fine. New job, new friends. Thanks alot for checking in with me, just to see if I'm doing as good as you. No, I'm not. I am totally drowning in my pain and hurt and confusion and hatred and love. But I wil NEVER let you see me down. NEVER.

 

Five and a half years. Wasted. And it seems like it was absolutely nothing to you. Can you even imagine how that makes me feel?! I've lost everythhing, and you get to merrily go on with your life. God how I hate you. God how I wish I could make you hurt like I do.

 

But how do you hurt someone who has no feelings?

[Coffee20]

Why can't you disappear from my head, why can't you live far far away from me....

I can't believe you lied to me and under this smiling and kind guy is just spoilt and ugly small man with big ego, I can't believe what you did to me, I thought about it a lot and tried to look at my mistakes but there is no excuse for lying, using me whenever you needed to be shown with a girl, putting me down and ignoring me from time to time, telling bad things about me and leaving me when I needed you the most.

[lovejoy41]

All I ever gave you was my love. Even when you didn't even love yourself. I listened to you whine about your problems, your ex wife, your debt, your kids, your insecurities, your ex gf's, all of YOUR FREAKING ISSUES! I listened! What about me? Huh? What happened to you when I needed you?! All you gave was excuses about what you COULDN'T DO. You CANT commit to a relationship, You CANT support me financially they way i need to be. The NERVE OF YOU to say you couldnt support me when I NEVER even asked you for a DIME! I have my own home, job, and car, I didn't NEED your SUPPORT! But yet you take this woman into your home and SUPPORT her. A woman who's never had to listen to your whining. I was there before you got your shiney black 2008 Charger with all of the chrome and accessories, she wasn't. I was there when you were riding in a 4 door Sierra truck! NOW you come up, screw her, move her in, & give her everything you should've given me.

 

You are a coward. You are weak and a liar. You use women to validate yourself. You need a woman to want you because you have no identity. You can't face the insecure man in the mirror. You have to stomp on women so that you feel better about yourself. Everything that you've done to me will make its way back to you. What you have done to me, SHE will do to you and you won't have my shoulder to cry on anymore when she does. Your gf is a fool. You don't have any more respect for her than you did me. You lie to her and still screw other women behind her back. You lied to me for 5 years and she's lived with you 1 1/2 now, so that makes you a lying no good cheat! You were even low enough to stay out the whole night when you did, so my hats off to her. She can have you, you loser! When she wises up to your cheating a** and leaves or when she cheats on your weak a**, find another shoulder to cry on because you no longer have mine! Enjoy the pics you have of me in your phone cause it's all that you have to remember me by. AND if you didn't get the memo..... the reason why I turned down your date and ignored your text is because "I'M DONE WITH YOUR A**!!!! She did me a favor when she moved in with you because now I'm FREE & she has to deal with your cheating a**! DEUCES!!!

[lovejoy41]

I'm just so angry right now. I won't hate you because hate for you will block my blessings. The things that I've learned about you in the last month crushed me but you know what? I'm blessed. Why? Because now that I've walked away from you, the man who is for me can come in. And you know what else.... you can't have my power! I might be angry, but guess what I'm STILL STANDING!!!! You thought I would stick around because I'm weak, I looove you, & that I was blowing steam like I always do and then run back to you. This time you were wrong. Just like you've went on with your life, I'm going on with mine. I'm woman enough to say that I enjoyed your company and enjoyed that things we did together BUT I NEVER enjoyed being your option. I know that you won't bother contacting me again. There was a part of me that waited for that apology but I know that won't happen. I don't even know why I would ever want it anyway because you have been blocked on my phone.

 

Besides you think that you're so attractive and you've got money, and you say lots of other chicks are waiting to get on "the team". That it's way more women out here available to you than there are men to me. HA! You say "you don't care about us b**ches". Hopefully you got the msg & will be smart enough to not contact me again. It's what's helped me get this far. Out of sight, out of mind right? Works great for me! One day you'll look up, you'll be 45, sad and lonely. Waiting for a woman like me to somehow cross your path & it won't ever happen. The only person you're hurting is NOT ME, not your gf, but YOURSELF.

[Blastoplast]

A... I've changed SO much already since we've broke up. I hope you've been taking this time to better yourself like you said, but last we met it didn't seem that way. I talked to my good friend and he pointed out how he got back together with his girl 6 years after they didn't work out originally and now they're both the happiest I've ever seen them, so it does give me a shred of hope for us. Honestly, I am enjoying being single -- it's given me perspective that I may have been lacking when I was with you. Let's both take this time to be single, experience things differently, and get ourselves in a position for long-term future success. PLEASE do what it takes to make you the woman you deserve to be, but has spiraled out of control lately. I still love you.

- J

[rhw]

you could've said something to me.

 

"i'm sorry."

"we can't do this."

"please do not contact me."

"goodbye."

 

i got nothing from you. *nothing* after 11 years, nothing. had you said any of those things, i'd have crawled into the darkness to lick my wounds but i would have respected that and then we would be done. in 11 years, i've never given you cause to believe i would come unhinged if you decided not to stay in this. so why you felt you had to slink away w/o a word to me, without anything after all these years, i will never understand. you told me you'd never walked away from me even in the times we weren't talking. why now? and why without a word, without a goodbye? do i mean that little to you? fine, you want me out of your life, you accomplished that. don't you dare walk back into mine.

[LostJustLost]

WHEN will the phantom you left in your wake get out of my head?? Its been a year since you told me you would be back as soon as you could, that you loved me and missed me every moment of every day.. and vanished, leaving me waiting..

 

Day after day, week after week I held on to hope I would hear from you, after all, we had been together for years, you loved me, we were set in stone, you were not the kind of man who would do something so cruel..

 

You destroyed all that lived inside of me. If thats not enough, the phantom of you still lurks inside, suddenly appearing in my mind without warning, exploding what little bit of my heart that I have left.

 

How did you do it? How did you push away everything we had? When can I get me some of whatever it was that changed you into a cold hearted monster? When are you going to take the phantom of you away so I can finally be free of the memories and the pain and stop caring about you, stop wondering about you, stop missing you.. god I would love to stop missing you. I really would.

[Headintheclouds]

Really thinking about you today. Has it really been 6 months? I wish I could remember what you feel like... What you sound like... What you smell like...

 

I saw a photo of us from way back in 2007. I can remember the day and the moment vividly. I had never been happier. I had never felt something so strong towards anyone. I knew I had what I wanted and what I had needed for so long.

 

There are days where I still am in disbelief. Days where I wonder where you are. I wonder if you think of me. I wonder why.

 

My life is awesome at the moment. I just wish I could share myself with you as the person I am now. I wish I had you to hold. I wish I had another chance.

 

I now go through life for myself. So much has changed. Things are great for me, but it all seems so insignificant without you at my side. There is this dull pain that stays with me no matter how much time goes by.

 

I wish you were here. I miss you.

[kourix]

i miss you, i miss you, i miss you. i wish we didn't have to end, but this is better for the both of us.

i wish i could text you silly things and make you, us, laugh. i miss you. i won't tell you but i do. we were almost perfect together.

[weallfalldown]

i ****in hate you, i hate everything about you......you wrecked all my stuff, you phsycotic freak........your plastic like your tits, you have 0 personality...

 

You over emotional wreck.....you horrible annoying little twat as i once called you!!!!

 

Please feel free to step out in front of a train...........like tomorrow!!!

[aanderson088]

I cheated on my ex and broke her heart multiple times. I'm on this site because I didn't realize I could stoop as low as I did. We tried to reconcile because she is a very forgiving and generous person but it still didn't work out. I would get impatient with her distrust and start walking the same path of infidelity because... Well if I wasn't innocent, even when I was innocent, then what's the point?

 

I feel absolutely terrible for the things I've done. She's seeing someone else now and I'm happy and sad at the same time. I do want her to be happy and I'm seeing now that she'll be better off without me. I'm just having a hard time letting her go.

 

Should anyone care to comment on this, please be gentle. I have quite a few other issues that have piled up this year and this just seems to be the icing on the cake.

 

I will say that I am so sorry for anyone else's pain due to people like me. Our actions are despicable and shouldn't be forgiven. I love this girl very much and I would do anything for her. I just think that it's time that I let her rest so she can heal from all of these horrible things I've put her through.

 

As I type this, I'm at work tearing up and afraid that someone will see me. I don't have a computer at home so I wanted to just get this out really fast.

Should any fellow remorseful cheaters have advice or stories with a happy ending, please do share. I could really use it.

[CopingGal]

I don't love you. I never did. Now that I know the real you I know that I never loved you, could never love you, and don't even like you. I was looking at the sky tonight. It used to hurt to do that because I thought of you. But I can look at the sky and have it not be about you.

 

My roommate and I were discussing how dysfunctional and how sick you are. You are mentally ill.