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[Blastoplast]

You've made this Summer the most miserable in my life. Thanks.

[someone12341]

it's kinda funny how you tell me how much fun you have going to the bars when I really don't give a ****.you know I thought I knew you but I guess I was wrong you are not the girl that I fell in love with, glad you broke it off with me.

 

don't come to me when you realize that the bar scene and you new found friends are not there for you like I was when the tough times come, cause believe me i have been there and know what kind of friends they are. You think your hot **** cause when u talk to me i act like I care about how u call into work to go to the bar. you think u have me wrapped around your finger I think not I'm not a stage 5 clinger and don't need anyone to make me happy.

 

you want to see what kind of mean person I can be to someone well you got it starting today I will be a dick to u and your new guy friend at work. I have had enough of being the nice caring guy I was to u. I have spent to

any nights crying and now it's time for me to build a bridge to get over it. so long and may you realize what you have lost to drinking.

 

and one more thing u wear to much make up

[coltsfan1]

Seriously, shoot me already..

[msfreebyme]

Hmmm I think I have given you a little too much sympathy and credit.

Sooooo Monster...my bestie has notified me of your current state...you pretty much have pulled a middle finger to me, my best friend, and your "close" friend, even your girlfriend. It seems your actions are that you like to hang with a girl who is into drugs and you seem to be ready to screw her while you have a girlfriend. Also you completely want to tell my best friend that you would cheat on your girlfriend with her. You are a sick puppy dude....I call you dude now because any small inch of respect I had for you is GONE......you pathetic low-life.

I recall you saying that I can't do any better than you when I ended this hell hole of a relationship we had....but truly I am the one who got away....I feel I can do WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY better than you.I mean COME ON! I am beautiful inside and out...I am such a great lover, I am probably the only one that believed in you, I treated you like gold. And my payment was you...I could have had anyone...but I chose you....just pure ungrateful.

You are a disgraceful person and I am regretful for having a crazy, neglectful, controlling, manipulative, butthole of a ex such as you as my first lover....remember that you were my first....so ungrateful. If you do drugs I won't be surprised now and I can guess now you have some sort of STD. BLEH just so disgusting. I can bet someday you are going to look yourself in the mirror and just know what kind of person you are...either way I DON'T CARE...not anymore. You deserve every punch slap and kick in the face that is coming to you.

 

Screw you Monster...screw you!!

 

P.S. Don't even try to say you never loved me....thats just a lie you keep telling yourself. Like the many lies you tell the ones you care for. Your life is your life and good luck living with yourself because I thank god every single day I don't have to see you, be with you, or even deal with your ugly personality anymore.

[Dreamless Sleep]

Hey K, Please stop texting me. I don't care how interesting you think your day or latest event would be to share with me. And no I'm not on a date-I'm working so I can pay you to live the lifestyle you've been accustomed to.

I can't be your sounding board. The relationship we had is gone. You've hurt me beyond repair. So please don't try to make me watch you blossom with another.

Don't call me about the house and property. You figure it out.

If the kids need me I'm available anytime.

Otherwise I need more distance from you.

[Follower]

weird mixed emotions day...

[CopingGal]

L,

 

It's been over a year since I left you. It's been about 7 months since I've seen you and over 4 months since I started NC again. I'm doing okay. I never think of you as soon as I wake up. I'm so grateful for that. My life is very meaningful. I do so much to help this world. I'm so glad that I am the way I am. I could have never been happy with you forever. I realize some basic things about myself: 1- I don't do well in relationships with selfish people. 2- I don't do well in relationships with controlling people. 3-I don't do well in relationships with insensitive people. Before you and with you, I tried, tried and tried...to be understanding, to be patient. Those days are over because I don't want to date men like that any more, no matter how charming they are. And I'm SO glad I realize that. I don't want someone who is a taker. I want someone who is a giver. You are a taker, user, manipulator, and compulsive liar. I'm glad I left you. I could have never, ever been truly happy with you in the long run.

I can't be happy with a sociopathic man. I honestly don't know who can. Good luck. Maybe one day after getting dumped by woman, after woman, after woman, you will finally realize that you just can't treat people horribly. But I doubt that will happen.

[Squidoo]

I split from my ex 10 weeks ago, we dated for 9 months but prior to this we we're friends with benefits for 3 years. it was my doing to finish the relationship but regretted it immediately. I apologized but he didn't want to know. I let him be & he did contact me every so many days via text, I played it cool until he wanted me to go to his for a coffee. He was making comments about how my sexual drive was & I guessed what he was after & said I didn't want to be a part of that...... But stupidly I did and ended up having sex. He said he wanted to go back to fwb, but I said it was unfair on me, & he couldn't have his cake and eat it.

 

Fast forward to 2 nights ago, i had been speaking to him via text & he was being suggestive & I was playing along a little. I did meet up with him & we did have sex, but he was different, he was quite aggressive, he slapped my backside so hard i have a hand bruise there. He also urinated on me & then when i went to give him a bj he urinated in my mouth... I was so shocked! But then he told me some things that surprised me, he told me he has been wanking in public and getting a big thrill from it and that he also wants to go dogging and do golden showers more. He seems quite perverse all of a sudden and not the person I've known in the past. I have missed him and was wanting to go back to fwb, but yesterday he said that we should just be friends & that he thinks I need more but doesn't want to burn his bridges. I am being over sensitive or is this guy perverse? But what worries me more is has he just started being like this or has he always been like it? I also feel so humiliated after saying I wanted to go back to fwb and he has said no. Opinions would be appreciated .

[outofgoodbyes]

sigh.

 

i hope you are having a great day. hope everything is running well with the car. i bet youre working on the car right now. do you want to go to dinner tonight? im thinking shabu since i have that groupon that YOU made me buy... wishing we could watch a movie tonight... and cuddle like old times... and you keep waking me up because i could never stay awake to finish the movie...

 

i absolutely miss you. i hope you are having a great day.

[BigBear]

M,

 

Today was our last day in the house. Well you've been out for a while, but I got the very last of my possessions out today. I thought I would feel sad, but I think I have already moved through that. Our home ownership dream ended weeks ago, and I've accepted that and moved on. You seemed surprised by that; you were expecting me to be upset today I think but I really felt very little.

 

I know you're trying to keep it all together but you look like you're a bit of a wreck. Well I guess I would be too. You're broke and you've maxed out your credit and not only are your entire proceeds going to me but you owe me another $4Gs too by next Wed and you don't have it. What a complete mess you've created for yourself. That was a very bad and stupid gamble you made, assuming I'd let you walk away for free. You try to make me feel like I'm less of a man for taking your money, like I should have been "big" about it and let you off. WTF, nice double standard. Any woman in my position (including you) would have exercised their rights just like I have and taken what they are entitled to by law. You think because you are a woman you should get different treatment? Ha! Men have been taken to the cleaners by women in divorce settlements for years. If one finally goes the other way, well it's about time.

 

You made 3 (minimum) huge mistakes in all of this:

 

1-You didn't know the law

2-You came unprepared

3-You assumed I'd just be a nice guy

 

Ya, sorry, you lose. I am not your doormat anymore. I am standing up for myself and taking everything that I'm entitled to. Burn baby burn, ha ha ha!

 

You don't treat people like you did me and experience no consequences. You are going to feel this financially for a long, long time. And still I am hearing from your friends and family, and they haven't heard you left me. You're not talking to anyone? I'm amazed every time I have to break it to another one of your friends. You say you feel embarrassed by it all. I don't get it... I have felt all sorts of emotions through this but embarrassment is pretty far down the list. I've been in pain, but not consumed by what others think of me. What an odd reaction. You think you'd feel lonely or sad or scared or angry, or whatever. You are weird.

 

Anyways, I'll wrap this up by letting you know that K has some talents that you will never have, primarily because she is actually enthusiastic and kind and wants to actually please her man. I'm having the best sex I've had in a long long time and I have you to thank. You encouraged me to find someone else and glory be, I did!

 

I hope you find that missing $4G by Wed. I'll be busy between now and then having mind-blowing sex. Hahaha. Karma!

Edited August 10, 2012 by BigBear
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[CopingGal]

I heard the song Womanizer today. I reminded me of you. I was thinking about the last time I ever contacted you. The last words I ever said to you is that you were dead to me. I've never met anyone in my life before that brought out such rage and meaness in me. But that's how badly you treated me. You expected to walk all over, treat me soo very badly and for me to put a smile on my face and forgive you. When that didn't happen you tried to force me to be your friend.

 

I hope that now, now you finally understand when you treat people like garbage, they strike back. But knowing you, you did not learn this lesson.

 

Lately when it comes to you, I've been feeling a certain calmness about you...acceptance of what you did to me. The more I keep straight NC going without breaking it, the better I feel. Straight NC for four months has been very, very, very good for me. It really has helped me a whole lot. I'm so glad that we have absolutely no contact at all. You held me down for three years. But I'm free now, and I'm never going back into that phony relationship. I'm not sure what we had. I can't smile at good memories. That's what happens when you consistently lie. To this day I don't know what we had. I do know this, I will never have this kind of long term relationship again, because once I get wind of it, I will leave and NOT stay and make excuses. I know you didn't ask to be born without a conscience, but that's not my problem...it's yours. Good luck with that.

[Follower]

So im going back and forth about trying to reach out to you, i miss the friend you were to me these days more than anything.

[jennisfora]

my mom told me you were dating, she heard from the girl who does my brother's hair who is a facebook friend of yours. first time in months i have news of you, and at first it shocked me, then angered me, which i know is irrational. like i told my mom, i know you arent dating me, so of course you would be dating someone else.

 

but part of me was saddened because it proves that you lied to me. you didnt really want to be alone. you just didnt want to be with me. and the pain came back all over again. i wish she hadnt told me that. i didnt really want to know what was going on with you. ignorance is bliss. and i have missed you every day, and i still dont understand why you left, or how you can stand it, i dont think i ever will. i guess you never truly loved me. and that should be enough.

 

*hugs & kisses*

[Mad Meg]

Dear Brandon

 

I just wanted to let you know that I HATE your guts. Youre a lying, C***Sucking douchbag and I hope you get what you deserve from your new girlfriend whose an ugly whore. I hope you f*** her and get stds while youre at it since youre obviously ruled by your d***. Its been three days since i talked to you and you told me you wanted to be with me and marry me. Today youre already dating someone who you JUST met yesterday!!! Nothing to say for youself? Cat got your tongue??? I bet u didnt think i would find out did u? Stop it with the good christian boy act talking about god everyday and your "i wanna be a preecher" act but turns around and f**** someone else's wife. I hate you and I love it that youre dating an ugly slut. No wonder you couldnt get the other pretty girl to date you. She was obviously way smarter than I was and saw your lies for what they really were. You deserve to rot in hell for all your lies and sins youve committed. I can thank you for one thing tho, i now understand what i have in front of me. A REAL man who stays with his woman even though shes done him wrong. You will never come close to being one tenth the man my man is. I will never take him forgranted again. I know youre just using her to f*** so I hope you get caught for having sex with a 16 year old girl whose had sex with every guy at her school

already. Go to hell Brandon. By the way, i wished i wouldve seen how ugly you really are but now that i have, i loveeee it that you left me for someone thats as butt ugly as you are. (It was a long distance relationship and i only saw the cute pictures he sent me instead of real pictures of how he really looks like) haha Brandon, jokes on you!!! Dont cry for me when u finish fu***** your wh*** cuz I aint gonna be here no more. have a fun life with your sixteen year old girlfriend whose gonna be pregnant soon which means YOURE gonna get to be a daddy soon, just like you always wanted to be. I cant wait to hear about how things turn out for u!!!! Haha

[Raegis]

Hey Reina.

 

I know you'll never come to these sort of places, but I thought I'd use your nickname one last time.

 

I don't feel much anger, or resentment anymore. We've both screwed up - you in how you tried to hint to me that you didn't want the relationship anymore instead of telling me flat out, and me in asking you for sex right after we broke up.

 

Getting drunk and listening to the man who had manipulated me was not smart, and I know. I can't turn back the clock. That's on my end.

 

On your end, you basically started ignoring me and barely talked to me. All the time you were playing games with your new found friends. And them being males only made it much worse. In a short span of time, you had dumped nearly all your female friends and got together a new batch of males. And I wasn't just jealous - I was worried.

 

So in the end, it was an act. You wanted to make me break up with you. But when I refused to obey my instinct and convinced myself that I could put up with this as well and learn to love you, you finally threw in the towel and told me. After one week of this torture.

 

I know the distance is why you broke up. I knew it would have to end like this. And this is why I'm still slightly pained today, even though it's been about 2 weeks till the breakup.

 

We were awesome friends prior to the relationship. And we had known each other since the pre-school days. And I really wish I hadn't asked you to become my girlfriend right after high school. Knowing that in the end, I couldn't uphold a long distance either. Knowing that I would lose this friendship and everything I had with you if I went forward. And I did.

 

But in a way, I'm glad you were my first. It could have ended a lot worse, but in suffering through this, I had one month of utter bliss. I had a taste of what it was to truly love somebody, and be loved in return. Although it ended in shambles, both of us were mature enough to keep in contact, and wise enough to keep that contact to a minimum.

 

We're both going to college in the next month. And I hate to admit it out to you, but I am avoiding you. I still have strong feelings for you that I can't erase. And I foolishly promised to you that I would continue to be your friend, even though that was something I should never have done.

 

I remember telling you that if we were meant to be together, we would. In 4 years, in 8, if ever. I still go by those words. But at the same time, I need to let go. I remember that you told me that you wanted both of us to enjoy college and live life instead of waiting for each other, and that you weren't the long distance type of person, and me vainly trying to persuade you. But deep down, I'll admit that I wanted the same. I wanted to live life, and enjoy college for all that it had to offer without all this stress and emotional tension of not being able to see each other, having to worry about cheating, new problems, etc.

 

So, I'm glad that we broke up. We're still on ok terms, to the bizarre amazement of my friends (who used to be your friends too.) They came and asked me how that was possible. Why haven't I just blocked you from everything?

 

I'm weak. I should have done that. But I wanted to challenge myself to do the impossible as well. Is it possible to remain in contact with an ex on good terms without ever breaching the forbidden subject?

 

I'm remarkably stupid, trying to live in a fairy tale. But, Reina, I guess that I've always been a knight, if you'll allow me to indulge in a moment of vanity. I felt hopeless for a long time after we broke up, because I no longer was committed to anyone. I had nobody to protect, nobody to depend on for kind words, nobody to turn to for advice, nobody to live for. I realize now that my entire life, I've been searching for a person to follow and protect with my life. I don't do what is best for me, but what is best for the person. I know that if I cut all contact, you'd go insane as I'm pretty much the last person you have who can listen to you. So at the expense of my pain and time, I allowed this "friendship" to now endure. Partly so I can still feel fulfilled, that I feel like I'm someone useful. And partly so you don't have to feel pain.

 

I know it's wrong, in every freaking aspect. I know I should be turning by back on you and looking for a new life. And I've tried to do that, and I will find one.

 

I really miss you. I miss the days we spent. But it's time for that all to end. I know that I'll never have them back, and things between us cannot be the same again.

 

As the guy in the relationship, I feel this much pain. I don't know how much you've felt; I've never asked.

 

But it's over. You broke up with me. And as a wandering knight, I've made my choice to go with your request that I remain friends with you. I'll obey it. For the time being however, we will be under this pretense of "friendship". Until I can muster the strength to make a decision not as a knight, but as a man true to himself. So, what calls to me?

[libraamour]

Hey W,

 

I know things aren't going great for you. Too bad the person who has always been there can't be there. Want to know why? Because you left her for a girl you barely know. I must admit, I was devastated. Hurt. I felt betrayed, but you didn't care. So I shouldn't neither. You said that I would never stop loving you and I know you think that whenever you're ready for me, I'll be there. Ha, funny. I look at you with such disdain it is not even funny. You're a nasty person. You're mean and manipulative. And despite all that, I'm never going to stoop down to your level. Me not talking to you is getting easier day by day. I have my days where I struggle, but I will overcome it once school starts. It will be so unfortunate if you were to crawl back to me. I would never take you back. I won't trust you. Psht. Next time some Spanish girl comes by with long hair, you're ready to leave. So bye. You made your choice. Deal with it. I promise you that's what I will tell you if that day ever comes. Have a good life and hopefully we can be friends in the future. By the way, your new girlfriend is clingy as hell. I'm sure you know she's somewhat psycho. But you know, who cares? You preferred a spoiled college dropout who plans on becoming a tattoo artist over a hardworking college student who you've known for 4 years. Cute. Enjoy it!

Edited August 12, 2012 by libraamour

[jgregory4614]

Geeze....I never would of thought of posting something here but that urge to contact her is really strong right now! Damn i almost did it! My ex and 3 kids have been out of state to see her side of the family for the past week. I haven't been able to talk to my childeren for the past 2 weeks. Its killing because I have to go through her to contact them. Part of me can't stand to hear her voice but sometimes I just want to find out how she's doing . Oh well...it was nice to get some of this crap off my chest.

[Raegis]

Why am I hurting myself like this?

 

Why did I even talk to you today?

 

You whined and said how come I haven't talked to you for so long.

 

Whoops. Well, I'm sorry. Didn't YOU break up with me?

 

Kept my space, seems that it didn't change much.

 

Eff this, who am I kidding.

[kindest]

Dear ______,

 

We had something, I'm sure you know that.

 

Sayang.

 

Love,

I

[SeventhFloor]

happy birthday, i love you

[Ang.gg]

It's my birthday today.

 

I hate that I was hoping I might hear something from you.

I envisioned replying, thank you How have you been? How has your summer gone?

 

I haven't heard anything yet and its almost 3pm. I know I wont. I hate the fact that I cared more than you did.

I don't like missing you because you treated me worse than the ground under your feet. I loved you. I would have, and did, done anything you wanted.

 

Are you thinking of me today? I'm thinking about you. I don't like that your the only one that can stop me from being sad when you were the one that caused me so much pain in the first place.

 

I want to stop missing you already

[Blastoplast]

Where did we go wrong... I thought i came to grips with how we ended a month ago and now i hurt more than ever. I still feel we're meant for each other... Its not false hope or yearning for what we had. I know we weren't perfect, but man did we work well and have some great times. I hope we have more great times ahead of us and that youre doing everything to get yourself where you need to be. Ill never stop loving you or give up on you.

J

[msfreebyme]

So after months of no contact from you I get these texts at 3 in the morning. Pretty much you apologized for the way you have treated me and all of the childish things you have done in our time together. You are at this point apparently where you are realizing that you aren't this perfect little angel. You added into that text "feel free not to reply" I will take up that little invite. I am stronger than that.

 

Here are my reasons. Theres no reason to be saying anything to you. Also all of my response would be is of alot of cuss words. Honestly monster when I heard you are now freshly single "big shock" you come crying to me. I hope for your sake you realize how much pain you've put me through. I hope you can go get some help. The years of trying to believe something could come out of nothing. Giving you all my love when you did nothing but put me down, manipulate me, drove me up the wall. I have put so much energy into you because I believed in you. It was all a big slap in the face at the end. Especially what you did to me after the relationship ended showed your true colors. I can at least say you apologized. But if it was true. I don't know. But I will not....shall not....be in your life to figure out.

 

I have forgiven you in my heart but will never forget that pain and I am doing pretty good at moving on and being happy. Have fun with that regret and yourself. You lost a good woman who put up with you...good luck finding someone like me.

[msfreebyme]

It's my birthday today.

 

On the brighter side...Happy Birthday! =)

[SoConfusedAndInShock]

honestly, at this point i know how much i meant to you..pretty much NOTHING. the 2 yrs spent together were all a lie to you. well, it meant the world to me. im going crazy here w/o you. i still love you so much and think of u with every passing moment.

 

i wish i would get that one awaited text/call already but its probably way past that stage. i miss u so much. i really wish i meant something to you, just a little. this has been the worst summer ever but im sure you are having a blast. i pray that i get to hear from you someday. i wanna tell you how much u meant to me and how much i truly love you.

 

p.s. i do pray for u every time i pray for myself. i do care about you more than you'll ever know.