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CopingGal Established Member

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I wanted to call you big-time last night. But I could tell you over and over again about what you did to me. That won't make you grow a conscience. So I did not. I made it through the night. I just have to take it day by day.

Edtheduck Established Member

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For every probably 30-40 texts I sent you daily, and the phone calls, I'm here writing a message I could have been sending to you right now.

 

Why is it that I've started to really miss you, your kids, your whole family and life up north? 3 months on and good memories are starting to surface again.

 

Do you even miss me? Do you even think of me any more?

 

Goodnight J, if only you knew

DuchessKaye Established Member

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Get some rest darlin'. Stop thinking about me! Nite :laugh:

CopingGal Established Member

CopingGal

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Tomorrow is July 4th...remember that? Just another excuse to push me away by saying it's a tradition to spend with your son. You never spent July 4th with me ever and then after you spent one with your son, you used that as yet another reason to push me away. You said it was now a tradition with you and your son to be together on the 4th...without me of course, just like Sunday's were a tradition with you and your son...no me, just like his half birthday was a tradition with you are your son, and not me, just like weekends were for you and your son and not me. Weekend after weekend you told me you didn't have time for me because you were with your son. I was never invited to any place you went with your son, except for 3 times in 3 whole years.

 

You held your son up on a pedastal...remember? Remember when you didn't want to get a car that had a passenger side air bag so that I could be safe? You said it would hurt your son, so instead of telling your son to ride in the back seat, you just wanted to get a car with no passenger side air bag...remember?

 

Remember how you let your son, eat and eat and eat in the car, then made me sit in all of his crumbs wherever we went? You couldn't understand why I would not want to sit on a seat that was covered with crumbs. Remember?

 

 

You believed that I couldn't measure up because I was not your son...that I wasn't a good enough person because I was neither you nor your son. You alienated women because of your son and then whined to me telling me your exes were jealous of your son. You plastered your son all over your facebook page, but kept me hidden...remember?

 

You have personally groomed your son to be a future, selfish, jerk and you have no one to blame but yourself. It's just so completely sad.

 

July 15th is on a Sunday. Great! My roommate is taking me out to dinner so we can celebrate the day I left your weak, pathetic ass. I'm looking forward to it.

 

I don't believe the song and dance you gave me about your legal troubles. I believe you did what you were accused of and you just made arrangements to make amends over time.

 

When I think about all of the dysfunction, it's hard to believe that that much dysfucntion can reside in just one person. One day I will pray for you again. My God, you really, really are sick.

BigBear Member

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Sometimes things just get really difficult, really quickly. I was working out today and then watching the ball game afterwards and I was fine. I went to the changeroom to get my stuff to leave, and all of a sudden a wave of anxiety and sadness came crashing over me. This happened last Thursday night too, but this time it was less severe. I just get so anxious and unhappy. I am fighting like hell to not go into that pit again. Thursday was scary. This time I managed to climb out after a couple of hours and I think I will sleep tonight.

 

I just hate this life you've left me with sometimes. The way these thoughts come out of nowhere and just hit me like a ton of bricks...god...I've never felt anything like this.

 

I love you hopelessly but I have a TON of anger. If I saw you now I don't know if I'd want to hug you or scream at you. I'd probably hug you. When I see you in person I always soften.

 

I miss you. And I hate your ****ing guts.

DuchessKaye Established Member

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F-CK!

 

You want me to see you and hug you and kiss you and make you smile and make you laugh and just lie on the couch next to you and then just fall asleep beside you? It'd be nice :) Right?

 

 

Okay, Dream ON! :p

Mariana345 Established Member

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I hate you soooo much today!!! I've been missing you and you don't even care!!!! I want to see your facebook page so badly, to see if your dating someone or if your sending "lovely" messages to your "friend" ... I still can't believe that you added her!! You really truly doesn't want me in your life!! You knew that if she returned to your life I will never ever be back, and you give a damn!! I don't know that you did it with that purpose!!! OMG!! I hate you!!! I loved you so much, I give up my dreams, I give up what I most liked since little girl and you... I don't know why I still care about you this much... It will be easier to just forget everything about you... Good and bad stuff... I wish you weren't in my life at all... I hate you

marqueemoon4 Established Member

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The most disrespectful thing I've ever done to myself is involving myself with you when my head told me not to, and I knew better than to trust you.

Edtheduck Established Member

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I made it through the day without reaching out to you again. It was one of the hardest days I've had since the BU. I cried again at the thought of you.

 

You were my everything, now you're my nothing.

 

Sad day. And I miss you more now than I ever have.

rippedapart Member

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I can't get you off my mind! Been only few weeks.

How can you dismiss me like I'm nobody?!

 

I wished you had communicated your issues with me.

You just took the easy way out instead.

You are in such a hurry with your BF and the fog will bring you down eventually once the honeymoon is over.

 

As someone else posted before me "I hate that I love you" !!!

 

You shattered my dreams and ripped me in half.

 

I hope I haunt you in your dreams.

CopingGal Established Member

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July 4th came and went and I am okay. I didn't have to deal with you using your son as a weapon to reject me once again. I'm fine. I'm safe. I'm under the emotional protection of my roommate. My roommate once texted you that I was off limits to you...that to get to me, you would have to go through him. That you were dealing with him now.

 

You witnessed first hand the friendship my roommate and I have. You assummed that after you and I broke up, we would be friends, since my roommate is my ex-boyfriend and best friend. When that didn't happen, you tried to force me to be a talking buddy so that you could talk about the person you cheated me on with. That alone is an illustration of your blantant narcissism and your mental dysfunction. Through a snail mail letter, numerous phone calls, voice mails, and texts you tried to turn me into a best friend for you. I was broken, shattered, damaged. But that didn't matter to you. You kept coming at me with information about her, your dates, your relationship, the trips you took with her, your bogus upcoming marriage, and your grief over her when she dumped you.

 

I felt like I was dying, the pain was so bad...but you kept coming at me about her. We had just broken up, but you didn't care. You came at me and you came at me and you came at me. It was in November, when you ignored my pleas to leave me alone and called to wish my roommate and I a Happy Thanksgiving that I relized just how sick you really, truly are.

 

You thought that no matter how much you lied and how badly you treated me that I would be your buddy. It saddens me that you are so incredibly sick. We broke up July 15th 2011. A week later, you were pushing this info about her on me. Something that never stopped until the end of December. You said you didn't grieve for me. That your reaction to me leaving you because you were treating me badly was simply this..."Well that sucks...Okay." But then you grieved and grieved for her and you cried and your son cried, blah, blah, blah, whatever.

 

And so here's the 5th of July 2012. Another 4th came and went without you. But I'm not lonley for you. I'm not frustrated. I'm just glad you're out of my life for good.

 

It makes me sad that someone I loved is so mentally ill, so dysfunctional, so sick. I tried to tell you how sick you were and you burst into laughter. You are a very, very sick and dysfunctional man and you need help.

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rippedapart Member

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Here I am trying to keep tears at bay.

I hate being so lonely, keep looking at the doors as if you would

magically show up.

 

I hate that I have to go to bed now by myself and you showing up

in my dreams. Feel so tormented.

 

I wish you knew how much I miss sitting beside you and touching you.

I took you for granted while having you on a pedestal at the same time.

 

I adored you so much.

 

I hate that this happened to us.

 

I will always love you regardless, you were my first true love.

TheBetterPerson Member

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Hey thanks for ignoring me at work for 3 weeks,

Thanks for getting with a girl at work that i sit opposite,

Thanks for letting me go through torture every day for a month so much so i couldnt eat, sleep smoked like a chimney!

and started really drinking!!!!

Telling me you love me and that i was yours forever!

then telling me im a liar but not telling me what i apparently lied about!

thanks for truly screwing my brain!!!

 

Now i have a new job you dont stop there, ignore me for weeks and now just emails but you wont meet up with me!

 

Iv seen you with that girl at work and it hurts!

i hope one say you will get to feel what you have put me through!

shes a rebound and your a horrible person! i would never do what you have done to me!

 

im not over you but i will be!

LOSER

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CopingGal Established Member

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Hey thanks for ignoring me at work for 3 weeks,

Thanks for getting with a girl at work that i sit opposite,

 

 

GEEZ...awful. Sorry.

Blastoplast Established Member

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It's been a little over 2 months since we broke off our 7 year relationship, and I'm still left with more questions than answers. You say it's nothing that I did, that you need to "fix" yourself before we can have a future together -- but whatever happened to communicating any problems with each other? Isn't love supposed to be blind? I would have done ANYTHING for you, I would NEVER stop fighting for you, but I can't help but feel that you stopped fighting for me. You say that the "spark" was gone, and I could feel it too -- but it's not like we were only seeing each other for a year. We're talking 7 years here, love has it's cycles, and that spark comes and goes sometimes. I just hope that you find whatever you're looking for, and that you find happiness so that you can love yourself again. Life is just a system of road blocks and routines, sprinkled with bills and deadlines. Money can't buy you happiness, understand that no matter how unfair it was that I was carrying your load of the financial burden, it didn't make me love you any less. Love is a two way street, and I'm sorry your shortcomings made it hard for you to love me back -- I just want you to love yourself again so that you can become the person again who you were, and who you were meant to be!

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BigBear Member

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It's been a little over 2 months since we broke off our 7 year relationship, and I'm still left with more questions than answers. You say it's nothing that I did, that you need to "fix" yourself before we can have a future together -- but whatever happened to communicating any problems with each other? Isn't love supposed to be blind? I would have done ANYTHING for you, I would NEVER stop fighting for you, but I can't help but feel that you stopped fighting for me. You say that the "spark" was gone, and I could feel it too -- but it's not like we were only seeing each other for a year. We're talking 7 years here, love has it's cycles, and that spark comes and goes sometimes. I just hope that you find whatever you're looking for, and that you find happiness so that you can love yourself again. Life is just a system of road blocks and routines, sprinkled with bills and deadlines. Money can't buy you happiness, understand that no matter how unfair it was that I was carrying your load of the financial burden, it didn't make me love you any less. Love is a two way street, and I'm sorry your shortcomings made it hard for you to love me back -- I just want you to love yourself again so that you can become the person again who you were, and who you were meant to be!

 

I relate to almost all of this, I could have written this to my ex. Good luck.

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It's been 3 days since you decided to end our 8 year relationship and chuck me out of our home, I am now homeless, the house we brought together 12 weeks ago and now you say you do not know yourself, I will give you space and time but you are a coward. You say you are at your very lowest at least you have a home! We have been together since we were 18, experienced so much together and now you say you need to find yourself. I'm so upset with you my heart is breaking you have broken me, and not to even fight for our dog who you claimed was your child, well I have him now, and I have emptied out our bank accounts since you left me with NOTHING at least you can sleep!! You f*cking bitch!!!!

CopingGal Established Member

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It's been 3 days since you decided to end our 8 year relationship and chuck me out of our home, I am now homeless, the house we brought together 12 weeks ago and now you say you do not know yourself, I will give you space and time but you are a coward. You say you are at your very lowest at least you have a home! We have been together since we were 18, experienced so much together and now you say you need to find yourself. I'm so upset with you my heart is breaking you have broken me, and not to even fight for our dog who you claimed was your child, well I have him now, and I have emptied out our bank accounts since you left me with NOTHING at least you can sleep!! You f*cking bitch!!!!

 

 

That is why....I don't care if your marriage was like it was made in gold...we all need to have an account for ourselves and have our own money, because you never know when something like that is going to happen. Sorry that happened to you.

BrokenMirror Established Member

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**ring ring***

 

"Hey E,

 

I guess you're still expecting me to be hung over you and have been wondering when I will come back to you?

 

Well, the answer is truthfully never. I am done with you. I kept thinking about all the happy times you and I had with each other and was blocking out the bad times.

 

Remember that time you grabbed me when you saw me talking to a friend you didn't like? Yeah, you left a bruise on my arm.

 

Do you remember all the times you told me to rot in hell, and that I was a bi*ch and a tramp? It allowed me to see who you really were and how you treated the people you "loved."

 

Do you remember all the times your mother insulted me and you stood by and let her while behind her back you told me you had my back? Well guess what, I guess like mother like son.

 

Do you remember the promise you made to me three years ago? To be with me forever and that we would grow old? Yeah, I don't want to grow old with you anymore. How do I know you won't hurt me like you have before?

 

Do you remember how you ignored every call I made to you? Every text I sent? I remember it and I remember how much I hurt.

 

Did you ever hurt for me like I did for you? Did you ever spend hours crying like I did? Did you ever cry yourself to sleep and not want to wake up in the morning because your dreams was where you were truly happy? I did. I cried to sleep and I hid in my room.

 

Did you ever get that feel of not being able to breathe? As if someone had put something heavy on your chest? I did. I still do.

 

Do you remember the time I forced you to go to the hospital, which saved your life because had you not gone, your appendix would have burst.

 

Do you remember the time I got your 400$ phone changed for free when you didn't know what to do?

 

Do you remember the stuff I put up with my family for you and how I ruined relationships with my mother?

 

I do. I remember every single vivid detail. I remember that you were the first guy to love me and you took advantage of me and shattered my virtue. I remember every single tear I have shed, and every moment I haven't been able to breathe.

 

You're almost 300 pounds now and you're getting bigger. You must be a real catch huh, babe? Sounds like every woman wants you. I don't know what I saw in you. The E I saw and loved changed and you have replaced him, with your cold heart. You may be smart, but that won't get you far.

 

No woman is going to love an abusive man like you. Abusing me at the age of 18. I wonder where you will be 10 years from now.

 

I hurt for you. I miss you at times. And in the end I know I'm better off without you. I have people here, who don't even know me, encouraging me to leave you.

 

I'm done with you. I broke NC after five months and it hurt to do so. Because in the end, it hurt me more.

 

I will always love you. You're the first guy I loved. But I will never ever come back to you. Because somewhere out there, there is someone who is waiting for me and who will love me and cherish me.

 

I always thought that was YOU. But I guess I was wrong.

 

Goodbye.

 

Have fun with your 300 lbs of blubber and small organ.

 

*click*

jmjacobs31 Established Member

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It's been 3 days since you decided to end our 8 year relationship and chuck me out of our home, I am now homeless, the house we brought together 12 weeks ago and now you say you do not know yourself, I will give you space and time but you are a coward. You say you are at your very lowest at least you have a home! We have been together since we were 18, experienced so much together and now you say you need to find yourself. I'm so upset with you my heart is breaking you have broken me, and not to even fight for our dog who you claimed was your child, well I have him now, and I have emptied out our bank accounts since you left me with NOTHING at least you can sleep!! You f*cking bitch!!!!

 

I can so relate to this. my Bf of 12 years broke up with me and kicked me out of the house we bought together. I had to live with friends for 2 months while trying to find my own place. He tossed me aside like we dated for a year, no 12. we also had two dogs he had problem losing..while I'm.hurting he's out with other girls. he's a pig.

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CopingGal Established Member

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Made it through another day without my anger overtaking me and calling you.

 

Still feel sorry for you....I feel very sorry for you. I don't think I will ever see you again. I wonder what it's like to go from an intelligent, kind,

moral, upstanding woman like myself to an uneducated red-neck who sleeps around and has a history of alcohol abuse. You liked it. She was nasty and amoral and you liked it. It was nice being nasty and dirty with her until she left you and threw another man in your face and then left you again...eh?

 

You don't regret losing me as a girlfriend because you bounce around from woman to woman and bed to bed. You are nasty and depraved and you pretended...PRETENDED to have morals.

 

You can only get but so far by pretending. Have fun with your many trips to the hospital. I suppose you use your time to dream up plots against people while you are in the ICU.

 

Oh gosh, thank gosh you are no longer in my life.

Edtheduck Established Member

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I shed tears for you almost every day. I miss you like mad, every day.

 

I think of you, everyday.

 

Weekend coming, I know I'll be thinking of you. 3 weeks until my birthday too, will you even bother to acknowledge it?

 

Time will tell.

 

I really do miss you J

CopingGal Established Member

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I learned a lot of bad things about the world while dating you.

 

Thanks for showing me that there are people in this world who really, truly do not have a conscience. This is not a myth. These people have to be avoided at all cost. It's been October since I've seen you but I saw a picture of you in the begining of April. I looked at you, and it was like I was looking at the devil. Behind your cold blue eyes and your natural blonde hair I could see the inner workings of a madman.

DuchessKaye Established Member

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You are a player. Nothing else.

DuchessKaye Established Member

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Oh well, I have to add.

I really have a feeling that you are a gay. :lmao: So go f-ck yourself! :p

 

PS: I have moved on. I'm in-love with someone else.

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