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0hpenelope Established Member

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I got my degree confirmation today. I wish I can share this with you, but I honestly believe you won't care to hear about it.

 

I miss you a lot today. I hope it goes away pretty soon because I don't like this feeling at all.

SimonSerenade Established Member

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Did you really think it would help to tell me that your completely healed from us!? and what's worse is how you felt the need to rub it in my nose and be condescending about it, How you talked down to me like a sick little baby telling me I'd move on eventually though it might take a little longer, You just brought yourself down to a whole new low on the heartless front, You really know how to make me feel like I mean't absolutely nothing at all after all this time.

 

You know what though? You made me strong, You made me incapable of taking any crap from anybody ever again, Your email was cold and cruel, I could of done without knowing you were completely over me, I appreciate knowing you didn't want another man in that way, I appreciate your honesty about why you left, How you just didn't feel you was the relationship type, It make's sense now considering how crappy you were treating me for a good year.

 

Maybe you have g.i.g.s, Maybe you don't, I don't even know anymore but either way I can't just sit here and remember every great thing we had while you remember absolutely nothing at all, I loved you more than life it self, I gave you everything I had, What do I have to regret? Absolutely nothing, You've taken the blame of my shoulders now though you should of done it from the start, Now I have nothing left to do but accept that it's over for good and accept that your not coming back, You won't get a thing from me anymore and I won't break no contact for anything at all from now on.

 

I hope you one day regret what you've thrown away, We had so much to lose and it seems I'm the only one who's felt this loss at all, Maybe your holding these feelings down in your chest, I hope if they ever surface that you feel the pain of what you put me through, I don't know what the future holds but if holds an "us" then your going to have a lot on your plate to make up and apologise for.

havehope Established Member

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"hey baby. I'm thinking about you. Love you xoxo"

 

I miss getting those texts from you.

 

I miss hearing your voice every night before bed, saying the 3 things we always used to say before going to bed.

 

...I wonder if you said them to her...

 

Please call me back. Please tell me you want to see me in 3 weeks - I'm tired of bringing it up. I need more from you than the superficialness you're showing now. Otherwise I'm gone.

 

I just hope I have the courage to back that up

 

i love you

havehope Established Member

havehope

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your beautiful

 

i can't wait to see you

 

you make me a better person

 

you make me so happy

 

I want to be with you forever

 

your one of the most amazing people I've ever met

 

I can't help but smile when I think about you

 

I feel we still have that connection we've always had

 

 

 

Remember when you told me these just a month ago? Now I can't even get you to call me back. its like after (*) you changed your mind. WTF its like HIAQI.

 

i'm scared to bring that up to you and ask you about it. I wish you were more open to me when I talk about what Im feeling, and my emotional swings when we talk about what happened

SimonSerenade Established Member

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I woke up this morning and I didn't feel too bad, I thought I'd be feeling upset again like I have been doing these past couple of days but with no sign of emails from you or anything I've been fine, I suppose no contact really does work, That last image I saw of you is now fading in my head, It hurt a lot to see you looking so different, Far from the person who used to love me.

 

I'm assuming the only hurdle I need to jump now is knowing your over me and the chance for our family to work out is finally out the window, The only hope I have left now is that you one day grow up and realise what you threw away, Not just for Lucas's sake but for our sake too, The grass may look greener at the moment but I have a feeling once you feel the need for a relationship you'll begin to regret leaving me and by then I hope I'll have enough sense in this empty head of mine to say "no thanks, your too late".

 

It would be a tragedy should we never be together again and really give the family life a go, It won't be long until you become a burden on everyone and I guarantee you won't do so well living on your own, When that day comes you'll understand just how hard it is when your truly by your self.

 

I don't for a second believe your fully over me, I think your hiding your pain and you don't even know it until one day it bites you on the backside, It's too hard to believe that after 3 or so years and a child later that your fully over me in 6 months, By the way you was acting you was over me in a day, Nah that just dosen't wash with me anymore, If you want to sit around and find more and more ways to hurt my feelings then go ahead but I ain't standing for it anymore, It's not good enough for me, I'm going to find what is!.

bl22 Established Member

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stay out of my dreams!!!:mad:

 

thanks

marqueemoon4 Established Member

marqueemoon4

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stay out of my dreams!!!:mad:

 

thanks

 

x2!!

 

:mad::mad:

poopierabbit Member

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Hey Tonya,

 

I've moved on emotionally and mentally, but every now and again I give pause for what we had. I do often wonder who you are involved with and how it is going.

 

For five years you never gave me your heart completely. I hope that you finally find the serenity and peace with someone to give it to them. God knows I wanted it, and wanted it for all times. Whoever it is will be one lucky man.

 

The girl I'm with now is gentle on my heart. I am touched with how easy going and patient she is. As full of sunshine as she is, I'm trying hard not to treat her like a doormat in the aftermath of what we had. It is not the right thing to do and I genuinely like this girl.

 

So yes, there is life after you. Is it ideal? If I were to be completely honest with myself, I'd say the answer is 'no', however, what can I do? Remain in despair over something that apparently you were not completely in to?

 

Our destinies and paths crossed for a time, and one thing is certain - despite everything, you will not be able to forget me. The man that supported you through school both emotionally and financially - and helped you cross that chasm in a very difficult time in your life.

 

I'm sorry you felt the need to end things. I truly believe that we could have repaired things, but thats the difference of opinion between two people in a relationship where one cares less than the other. Of course it's easy to be flippant and look at things as disposable.

 

My only wish is that kharma does not dish out the same treatment to you in your next relationship, although I think it will. It certainly doesn't help that you pee when you orgasm (tends to ruin high thread count sheets you were so fond of) - sorry, couldn't resist to be just a tad bit resentful.

 

Ultimately though, I love you and hope you find what you're looking for.

 

Jordan

Maggotface Established Member

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I feel like I'll never get to that point with another man that I got to with you. Like I'll reach the point where I can start to picture a real distant future with someone I really care about and then I see your face and feel like I havent moved on from you at all. But that's not the case, I dont want to be with you I want to find someone to spend my life with and I want you to find someone and be truely happy. I want that for you more than anything but I cant picture me spending the rest of my life with anyone but you still. Like I just pause when I get to that serious stage in a relationship. I was so close to marrying ----- and I honestly believe you're what stopped me (and thank god for that!) Maybe it's not you after all maybe it's just gut feeling and I use you as reasoning, who knows I'll figure it out one day...

SimonSerenade Established Member

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I bet you don't really know how much you put me through, How much I have to live with now, You claim you don't feel a thing well one day you will and if nothing else it will be shame for how you handled this, You think I like the fact that you've left me so emotionally damaged I could never have the heart to look at you or talk to you again, This isn't good for Lucas, Not in the slightest bit.

 

The thought of you raising our child with somebody else and having everything we have absolutely kills me inside and if you can see that life with somebody else then you may have taken back everything you ever promised me to be true.

 

From now on I'm going to move on and not look back, You don't deserve me or my time, You don't deserve my friendship, You deserve nothing, Your not good enough for me anymore, This isn't good enough for me anymore, You changed and you messed me up more than I thought anybody possibly could, You put me in such a mess, You felt no guilt for how badly you treated me and easily discarded me like trash, There was no respect what so ever.

 

This your fault and you'll one day realise that, Getting an apology from you on that day would be great but I have my doubts, Enjoy your peter pan syndrome, Don't grow up, Just know 2 people your supposed to care about in the future will hate and resent you for it, Have a good life, Bitch.

Shadowburn Established Member

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Dear F,

 

Screw you. A couple days ago I deleted a folder from my phone that contained 38 pictures of your gorgeous self. And today I deleted your number from the phone book. It's been what, 2.5 years? And a month of total NC.

 

Done and over with. I hope you will rot in hell for what you did to me.

 

But in all honesty, you're becoming a fading memory, and I simply starting to care less and less. And that's how it supposed to be.

 

Be good and have a good life. I loved you, and deep inside I may still care for you forever. But it was time for us to part ways, and so we did. And cheers to that.

BlindRage Established Member

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I bet you don't really know how much you put me through, How much I have to live with now, You claim you don't feel a thing well one day you will and if nothing else it will be shame for how you handled this, You think I like the fact that you've left me so emotionally damaged I could never have the heart to look at you or talk to you again, This isn't good for Lucas, Not in the slightest bit.

 

The thought of you raising our child with somebody else and having everything we have absolutely kills me inside and if you can see that life with somebody else then you may have taken back everything you ever promised me to be true.

 

From now on I'm going to move on and not look back, You don't deserve me or my time, You don't deserve my friendship, You deserve nothing, Your not good enough for me anymore, This isn't good enough for me anymore, You changed and you messed me up more than I thought anybody possibly could, You put me in such a mess, You felt no guilt for how badly you treated me and easily discarded me like trash, There was no respect what so ever.

 

This your fault and you'll one day realise that, Getting an apology from you on that day would be great but I have my doubts, Enjoy your peter pan syndrome, Don't grow up, Just know 2 people your supposed to care about in the future will hate and resent you for it, Have a good life, Bitch.

 

 

Well said brother :) Your ex sounds like an @ss. She should be friends with my ex. They have a lot in common. You know what our exes are? People. Thats its, nothing more, nothing less. Walk out the door and what do you see? More people. We honestly spend too much time thinking about these cold hearted women when they are just people. We actually put them in this pedestal and shrine these b!tches while they go out and "enjoy themselves". You know what I say to that now?!?! Screw that!

suddendumpee Established Member

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Dear XXXX,

 

I hope you get a really bad yeast infection this week. The next time you go out with your new boyfriend, I hope you shart in your pants and the car fills up with sh*t odor so that he can never look at you sexually again. I hope when you go home, you find your Yorkie looking like a furry omlet from chewing on your vibrator cord. Finally, I hope you find yourself picking scabs off of your labia in the near future. With that being said, I love you and I wish you the best. If you ever decide to get back together, call me.

Sevenscars Established Member

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The one time you treated me like you really wanted to be with me was when you already knew you were going to be with someone else.

 

And you didn't even have the guts to say it...

 

When I gave you the chance, you

 

Got knocked off your pedestal

 

Caught wide-eyed

 

Good bye

bl22 Established Member

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Well said brother :) Your ex sounds like an @ss. She should be friends with my ex. They have a lot in common. You know what our exes are? People. Thats its, nothing more, nothing less. Walk out the door and what do you see? More people. We honestly spend too much time thinking about these cold hearted women when they are just people. We actually put them in this pedestal and shrine these b!tches while they go out and "enjoy themselves". You know what I say to that now?!?! Screw that!

 

 

Good advice, i like what your saying here :)

Stilicho Established Member

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i care less for you every day, all i hope now is that its not awkward 5 days from now when i see your childish face in class.

radiodarcy Established Member

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the indifference is sloooowly starting to come back now. i wish it would get here faster. so in an effort to move things along, i've come up with a list of benefits to NC. now that we're not speaking i no longer have to worry about the following:

 

*listening to you talk about your new found beer crew and how cool the guys think you are and how the girls (including the alpha female of the group you keep fawning over) are all fighting over you and how you hate the drama of it all :rolleyes:

 

*listening to you talk about how much you hate your job and how busy things are, only to go on your facebook and see flirty wall posts between you and other girls written during the time you were busy at said job

 

*inquire as to how your weekend was; you tell me that it was just ok or it sucked. only to see posts between you and your crew on fb about what an awesome weekend you had and how you can't wait to meet up again.

 

*inquire about your interests - cars, drum and bass, cameras, watches, sneakers. they're not my interests but i know how much they mean to you so i look at the links you send me, comment, ask questions. yet when i send you a link to a dress i'm thinking of buying or a youtube video of a band i like, you say it's not your style and i'm wasting my time and yours by sending it to you.

 

*listen to you wax poetic about your ex wife and all the girls you've ever loved before right after we had sex.

 

* listen to you talk about how bored you are and how you'd give anything to have a 48 hr romp with halle berry and monica bellucci.

 

my goodness, that's a lot of listening i did wasn't it? if you do miss me at all, no doubt it's your rapt audience of one that you miss - - not me. at any rate, thanks for the memories. i don't think i'll be inclined to make any more...

marqueemoon4 Established Member

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the indifference is sloooowly starting to come back now. i wish it would get here faster. so in an effort to move things along, i've come up with a list of benefits to NC. now that we're not speaking i no longer have to worry about the following:

 

*listening to you talk about your new found beer crew and how cool the guys think you are and how the girls (including the alpha female of the group you keep fawning over) are all fighting over you and how you hate the drama of it all :rolleyes:

 

*listening to you talk about how much you hate your job and how busy things are, only to go on your facebook and see flirty wall posts between you and other girls written during the time you were busy at said job

 

*inquire as to how your weekend was; you tell me that it was just ok or it sucked. only to see posts between you and your crew on fb about what an awesome weekend you had and how you can't wait to meet up again.

 

*inquire about your interests - cars, drum and bass, cameras, watches, sneakers. they're not my interests but i know how much they mean to you so i look at the links you send me, comment, ask questions. yet when i send you a link to a dress i'm thinking of buying or a youtube video of a band i like, you say it's not your style and i'm wasting my time and yours by sending it to you.

 

*listen to you wax poetic about your ex wife and all the girls you've ever loved before right after we had sex.

 

* listen to you talk about how bored you are and how you'd give anything to have a 48 hr romp with halle berry and monica bellucci.

 

my goodness, that's a lot of listening i did wasn't it? if you do miss me at all, no doubt it's your rapt audience of one that you miss - - not me. at any rate, thanks for the memories. i don't think i'll be inclined to make any more...

 

hey where in NoVA do you live? I'm in Ashburn.

SimonSerenade Established Member

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I'm loving how all this love I had for you is now turning to hate, You know what I realised today?, That I am and always have been worth a million times more than you and one day your going to regret leaving me and you know why that is? Your going to regret it because I'm no longer settling for second best, From now on I got the confidence to have every little best thing for me and I'll never settle for anything less, I let you trample all over me time after time, I set nothing in terms of boundaries, You never had any consequences to your heartless actions, You waltzed in and out of my life knowing you could so easily manipulate me and take advantage of my kind hearted personality time after time but no more, From now on you get nothing from me, You deserve less than that and if I could give you less then believe me I would.

 

You won't ever find anybody like me again who will love you unconditionally like I did and put up with the stupid stunts you pulled, You can take back everything you said cause it's clear it don't mean a thing any more, I used to hold a candle for you but now it's slowly dimming in my heart and when it's out believe me it'll be out for good, I could never go back to you, I put you first in every aspect of my life and only wanted the same but time after time you cut me out and placed me at the bottom of the pile.

 

It used to kill me to imagine you being used by some random guys and you being that kind of person who would let them but now I don't care and that's just what I needed to feel, You've ruined yourself to the point where I actually don't want to know you or ever want you in my life again.

 

If everything I mean't you, You could lick and seal and fold in two then I've been so blind, I've been so long without you now that I realise that I don't need you, If I did I'd be dead, I can only want you and you know what? I don't want you any more, Who could want somebody who's actually that fat headed that they get a brown nose from themselves?!, Well there's confidence and then there's delusion and I'll go with delusional cause that's exactly what you are, Rather than looking in the mirror and seeing the fat brown turd that you are, For some reason you see some little princess who get's her own way cause somehow you deserve it, Well look again!.

 

If anyone was to ask about you now I'll simply tell them your dead because to me you are, Your not the person I fell in love with 4 years ago and that's the person I grieved for all this time and I truly believe she's never going to come back to me, After all of this I thought I walked away with nothing but I've come to realise, I walked away with so much to smile about, We have a beautiful son together, Granted you may neglect what's best for him cause your a selfish coward but hey, Them's the breaks, I knew I did all I could to save this, Gave every ounce of my being to be with you so no regrets there, I can honestly say I'm standing on my own two feet as opposed to you mooching your way through life of your parents, Pretty much being a burden on everyone you know, I can walk away knowing those things, What have you got in terms of self respect?, Absolutely nothing, Your a pathetic petty coward with nothing going for you but your facebook page.

 

Any woman would be the luckiest woman in the world to be with me and yet for some messed up reason being YOU, You missed out on that, I gave you everything I had, You had it so easy, You had it all your own way and eventually I gave in to your demands, It was so easy for you when you ripped me off my manhood, GOT ME TO BEND OVER AND UNCLENCH!.

 

After all you did I can't believe you were the one who finished me, It's quite laughable really cause I should of never of taken you back once you moved out and left me for no good reason at all, You can have all your stuff back, You can keep your crappy one cell minded friends, You can have it all and from now on I'm going to look back and laugh at how meaningless your life is and how you will never live up to the potential I once saw in you and as for your silly little vampire book having a hope at being published, Dream on because it's never going to happen, You should advertise is now titled "POINTLESS" rated G----AY, Goodbye Sam, I'd wish you a miserable existance but I can already see that coming, Time for me to finally move on to bigger and better boobs, Boobs that don't look like they belong to an orangutan :)

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I don't know how you can like her so much after just a few weeks. We've only been over for two months and you've known her five weeks.. and you'd rather have her in your life than me. You'd rather protect her feelings than mine. You told me she can't give head to save her life and she is no good in bed but then what the hell do you see in her? What are you gaining from being with her?

 

Right now, I feel like I'll never get over you. I've been crying for a week non-stop until I throw up. I love you so much, I had our life together all pictured.. remember when you said you couldn't wait until we had little Dannys and Lucys running around? How I'd be the best mum. She won't be that. She has horse teeth. Horses are not good mums.

 

I know I hurt you and I am so so sorry and I would do anything to take it back.

SimonSerenade Established Member

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Are you dead yet?, Here's hoping you are =]

broken-and-lost Established Member

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why did you contact me again my ****ing heart in breaking every day i can't ****ing sleep and i know you are never coming back you tore me apart for contacting you last time with the same old record of i made a fool of you..... no i didn't you have to do something intentionally to do that and i never did. I was trying to move on best i could it's not easy knowing you've lost something you love i've tip toed around you trying not to upset and taking the blame for everything.

 

Please be fair if your never coming back then let me go as i can't take anymore pain it rips through my soul like a knife i'm broken and feel like i'm too old to ever start again you've taken more then just my heart :(

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I wish you could recognize how you've been acting. I wish that your greed would somehow disappear. I wish you would see how I am still taking care of anything and I wish you would help. I wish you knew how exhausted I get. I wish you hadn't lied to me for so long. I wish you hadn't lied to our families and our friends. I wish you could really see how much pain you're causing and have caused. I wish you would stop lying.

 

I'm glad that I'll never have to ask you to please not pee in my gardens. So strange, but it really bothered me. I put so much work into them. I wish you hadn't stood by the garden and told me, "Our garden is going to look like **** this year." I wish you had talked with me about my feelings and yours after the miscarriage. I wish you had come to the hospital to support me. I wish you hadn't been so mean to me. I wish you hadn't ignored me. I wish you hadn't told me so many times that I needed more friends. I wish you had picked me flowers from the garden for me.

 

I can't wait to experience new things. I do wish things could have worked out, but they didn't. I wish you were able to communicate your feelings. I wish you didn't just run away and hide. I wish you didn't talk so much. I wish you hadn't ignored me. I wish others had told me what they saw before you lied and left me. I wish I wasn't thinking about these things right now. I'm glad they're out of my head.

IfiKnewThen Established Member

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i wait and hope on the Lord for him to make you my friend again. for you to return as my friend

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