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[CopingGal]

It still hasn't hit me yet. My wait is finally over. All of those months of painfully living in my past...thinking of you...and being depressed with living in drama is over. I am moving. It's been a refreshing 9 months since we ended things. I can't believe how long it's been. Soon enough it'll be a year. Soon enough I'll find the love of my life. It's crazy how life works....moves on. I was tempted to look at your facebook tonight...didn't =). I'm so happy! But ready for bed after packing and getting ready. I've gotta go tomorrow! WOOOHOOOOOOO! **** YEA!

 

Congratulations.

 

I'm moving soon too. Looking forward to it.

[CopingGal]

I'm getting better and better. I really appreciate the fact that you are gone from my life. I think I'll dance.

[GlassParasol]

"You know, for all of the good times we spent together, sometimes I wish I'd never met you. I don't even know if you ever truly cared for me, or you were just taking a blind leap into our so-called 'relationship.' I don't understand what the **** goes on in your head for you to think it's okay that you suddenly did a 180 degree turn on your feelings towards me (if you ever had any in the first place) and left me in the dark on where I stood in your life. You're full of BS, you were always full of BS - none of what you were to me was real - and yes, I know what you said in that argument about me, really ******* shows your true colours there, doesn't it?

 

So go on, carry on living a life where the only way you can be is to be emotionally distant to people and act like you never really give a **** about anything. I don't think I ever meant anything to you - once you had me, you couldn't be assed maintaining anything with me anymore and you were always full of your own self-importance or sob stories. In the long run, I'll be so glad you washed your hands of me - in fact, it should've been me dumping your sorry ass and saying all of this to you on the day we broke up.

 

Have a nice life, D_____. Because I'm pretty sure if you continue this way, you won't get very far and will end up alone. Bye."

[Frank13]

It's been 10 months N/C yet last night I had a dream about you. I rarely every dreamt about you and if I did it was quick.

 

This dream was long and vivid. We were talking but it was only about work stuff. In the dream we both knew things were over so there was a coldness between us.

 

At the end of the dream I was walking away from you. I turned around and started walking back to you to give you a hug, but the dream ended before I got up to you.

 

I still miss you a lot but there is no reason to reach out to you. It isn't going to change anything. For a while you were the best part of my life, but you never will be again so I have to get over you. I can't do that with contact.

 

I have gotten better in 10 months and most days are better than others but I just can't seem to shake you for good. I wish I could just not care like you.

[msfreebyme]

Congratulations.

 

I'm moving soon too. Looking forward to it.

Thank you =)

This move is a big move for me...I have always wanted to move to the place I moved to (don't really wanna give out location) since I was young. Achieving a dream. Good luck and congratz to you and your moving too dear!

[CopingGal]

You're a disgusting human being, but I still feel sorry for you. Poor bastard, youre a waste of oxygen.

[robaday]

Well babe, we tried, we tried so many times, until there was nothing left, apart from arguments, insults, no respect, and a lack of love. A shame that we carried on so long. A shame we lost so much love for each other, a shame we were so weak, we held on so long, to something that promised so much.

 

Now, I doubt well talk again. Way too much damage. Two lovely people, who had so much going for us, so much to offer. Its sad, its devastating because I know deep down, the love had gone.

 

I wish we had left things a year ago, when you were going away, when we parted on beautiful terms and danced that last night, knowing it would be the last......I could look back fondly on us, look back on the most passionate experience Ive ever had.

 

I hope you find happiness babe, I hope I do too.

[not-a-drive-by]

H, I've been thinking about you a lot today. Random memories just keep popping in my mind. Happy memories. I miss you. I miss us. As the holiday season is coming up and my birthday, I really wonder if you will contact me. I wonder if I will be ready to contact you. And if I do, will you respond or ignore? At times, I really wished you called. I miss hearing your voice. I miss seeing your face. I was looking for your face at gym, but you weren't there. What are the chances that we'll meet again...

 

I really miss you, H. I wished I didn't mean nothing to you.

[Jingle14]

Am working in London today, it's a gloriously perfect autumn day - or it would be if you hadn't destroyed autumn for me. I wonder if you ever think back to our first trip away together, autumn in London and the weather was just like it is today. We'd only been together just over a month and were just so deliriously smitten and wrapped up in each other after thinking for 3 years that our feelings for each other were unrequited but then finding out, also in London, that they were not. I wonder if you ever think about sitting on 'our' bench (as it was always referred to) in Kensington Gardens on that autumn day, just sitting with our arms so tightly around each other, so happy and relaxed with each other, content, for what seemed like hours. I often think about it, but not by choice, it's another of those memories that haunt me and permeate my mind when I least expect it. Unlike you, I haven't replaced you - my own choice, I am not short of offers - and replaced 'our' memories with new ones with someone else.

 

It's ironic that you always felt you were 'massively' out of my league and punching above your weight - to quote you, and which made me laugh although I won't deny there is an element of truth in that, and you know I am not vain or conceited in the slightest - because it turns out I wasn't all that after all. You had my absolute unconditional love and adoration - from me, your 'vision' as you always described me - you wanted fun, spontenaeity, someone 'strong, independent, you know what you want and go and get it', you got all of this from me along with affection you had been missing but hadn't realised it, my absolute generosity and kindness. Does my replacement leave little gifts on your doorstep for you to find when you come home from work or first thing in a morning as a surprise? Does she chill your beer glass in the fridge or encourage you the way I did, support you in your business and in your hobby, the hobby which took up hours and hours of your time but did I ever once complain? Does she spend her salary on taking you out and spoiling you with surprise holidays like I did, despite you earning 4 times what I did? Do you ever think back to that holiday? You said it was the nicest thing anyone had ever done for you, the best gift you had ever been given.

 

Every day I get compliments from people, even strangers in the street, telling me I look fantastic. For me, I always make sure I am dressed well and looking my best, even though I know I wear my hurt, bitterness and mistrust like a shroud. I rejected a younger, stunning looking colleague earlier this year because I am simply not interested in anyone, not even 16 months on. You - tall, gangly, awkward, unconfident - captured my heart and no-one else could ever replace you, despite you being a compulsive liar, your hold on me is still a vice like grip and you don't even know it. You certainly wouldn't care. People think I am fun, vibrant, 'stunning', but it doesn't matter a ****. Because you don't want me. I miss you every day but the pain is even more heartfelt and deep on a day when the weather is like this. How can you be happy when I am so deeply hurt and scarred. Singlehandedly you destroyed my faith in human nature. I hope that, once day, you develop a conscience and that what you did to me and how you treated me cuts you to the core. Somehow I doubt it.

 

I don't want to love you. But I'd be lying to myself to deny that I do and I pray every day that this will be the day you come back to me. Stupid I know but I just long to hear from you. Will I ever?

Edited October 10, 2012 by Jingle14

[Blastoplast]

So I just realized I've had more sex this past month with this new girl I've been with than we did the whole last year of our relationship, and it's been phenomenal sex too! It makes me realize how little you cared about us and how little you tried. But hey, I'm feeling great and I really like this new girl and I barely think about you anymore. I wonder how much you think about me? Hope you're doing well, I still think you made a huge mistake!

[ladyabstrused]

How could you continue to live without feeling any guilt whatsoever? How could you take all those things from me and just make them yours. This is so f**ked up. Seriously.

[radishes]

I never realized trying to get over you would be this hard, I almost drove by your work place today just so I could take a peek at your car and see if my things are still there, if you still have thoughts for me. I really wish I could get over you just like that because you not bring here drives me crazy. I know I miss you. I just need to remember to give myself time, man I feel like a part of me has disappeared. No matter how unhappy I was with the fact that we ended somehow I can't bring myself to turn my back to you in my head. Please stay far far away for my sanity and sake. I hate having these leftover feelings because I want them gone.... Man I'm in pain.

[CopingGal]

How could you continue to live without feeling any guilt whatsoever? How could you take all those things from me and just make them yours. This is so f**ked up. Seriously.

 

Sounds like a sociopath or a person who has sociopathic traits

[CopingGal]

I've been sick so I haven't been out of the house. I left the house today. I'm so grateful I didn't see you. I'm so glad you're losing your job this month. Maybe you will go back to your city and stay out of mine. The last thing this city needs is another weirdo.

 

F-you

[not-a-drive-by]

I always knew that I loved you more. I do believe at one point in time that you did really love me. You loved me, so you stayed, no matter ho difficult it got. Why have you let go now? Why have I become so insignificant to you? Don't you miss me? Don't you miss us? Do you ever think of me during the day? Or night? Do I ever cross your mind at work. You used to call me at work. Do you ever get tempted to dial my number? So many questions that will be left unanswered.

[radishes]

Everyday when I come to work I remember how you work at that restaurant and I'm always tempted to drive by and maybe just seeing your car. I used to visit you so often and you would look so happy that I stopped by but now things are different. I can't do that anymore. I don't even think I can go there anymore.... Man you let me go and my heart aches terribly. Now some weird guy is hitting on me and I don't even know what he wants. And you're not even here to get jealous or protect me. My heart hurts I hope you know. Does yours too?i wish I was still with you. The truth is I would've loved you forever. I just know.

[CopingGal]

Getting better and better. I remain thankful that you are out of my life. I make it a rule not to have any bastards in it.

[radishes]

I drove by the street today. Maybe I caught a glimpse of you and our dog. Do you still see him as mine? We got him together. Maybe it was you. Maybe I'm just imagining it. I don't know. Late at night when I'm tired, my strength to hold these feelings back disappear. And the leftover feelings I have for you come flooding back. I don't think its the betrayal that I'm really hurt from. I don't think that's it. I think its the fact that I'm losing you, losing a love, someone that I could've been forever in love with. I wonder if you ever want to come to see me, or if you ever feel weak. I don't know how much I meant to you. Maybe it wasn't very smart of me to have watched a romantic comedy... it makes me think that its not how right we are for each other, but how willing we are to make things work. Maybe you just weren't that willing to put in the effort. Maybe I'm just deluding myself. I hate seeing you in my mind, because I'm not strong enough to suppress it. So how do I go about accepting it? When every little thing that was similar to something you had, like your car, drives by, I go crazy wondering if that was you. I'm always so tempted to just go down the street and see if you're around, or if you're already moving on. I can't recall it being this hard last time.... Maybe because I always kinda thought you'd come back. But maybe not this time.

 

You wonder how I know. But I wish I could tell you. I really could've seen a forever with you. I would've love you forever. Really. its the honest truth. I love you. I miss you. I hope you're doing well. I hope you're happy.

[not-a-drive-by]

I'm not coping at all, H. I'm not coping well. I've been trying very hard to keep busy and avoid thinking bout you. But on the days when I have nothing to do, like today, I just breakdown and start crying over you. I want you to call me. I want to hear your voice. I miss you so much. I want time to go faster so we can start anew. Or simply, to the stage where I no longer want you. I miss you H.

[CopingGal]

I'm not coping at all, H. I'm not coping well. I've been trying very hard to keep busy and avoid thinking bout you. But on the days when I have nothing to do, like today, I just breakdown and start crying over you. I want you to call me. I want to hear your voice. I miss you so much. I want time to go faster so we can start anew. Or simply, to the stage where I no longer want you. I miss you H.

 

Hi. Then find something to do on days like today. Maybe you should build a website. There's plenty of website hosts out there...many for free...many that are easy to build...or do one in html if you want to take time to learn the language. I like those the best, you have complete control of how you build the site. Build a site that makes a difference. That can be used to help others. Believe me, may get a lot out of it.

[CopingGal]

L,

 

I talked myself out of trying to figure you out. Why? It's a waste of time. Because you have sociopathic and narcississtic strong traits, your brain is completely different from most people. So I'm not going to sit here and put energy into figuring you out. I'll leave that for the next person for you walk all over.

 

Again, I'm glad...so glad you continue to stay out of my life.

[Jingle14]

I don't need materialistic trappings such as sports cars with private number plates and trendy - much too young - clothes and shoes, (even roller blades, really??!) unlike you. You are a joke, a walking mid-life crisis. I don't need to buy things to give me a personality, I already have one!

 

You were only interesting because of me, I instigated everything we did - finally figured that out, dumb of me hey, not to have realised before - it was me who brought the fun and spontanaeity to our life together. Enjoy your beige life, I hope you and the beige bitch who replaced me - who I doubt very much will take part in the 'dares' that I did! - bore yourselves to death!

[thembones]

Love conquers all.

You know what, I am conquering my love for you.

By default, I conquer all and you are nothing.

Stay the **** out of my life.

 

To think, I wanted you to be the mother of my children.

[Themrandres]

I am so so sorry. I really hope he can make you happy. I really miss you

[Themrandres]

I wish you would just believe me! I've never lied to you and you even admit it but you say you can trust me. Why can't you? Just be honest! I've gotten a job gotten my g1, I'm in the top of my class, I havnt drank or smoked or nothing I'm moving out and i deleted those girls from my contacts and I havnt even looked at another girl since you left.