james123 Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 when you meet a person at a wedding and you don't have your mobile with you, no pen or paper , how do you take the person's number to contact the person again? i was stuck in a situation like that at a Wedding. the inivitation said no mobiles and no cameras. do you think the bartender would have had a pen at the wedding? someone suggested 'you could have borrowed her eyeliner'?? well i dont think any lady would have got a pen to a wedding?! im asking because this is the SECOND time the same thing has happened to me!
alphamale Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 you ask someone around you for a pen, many people carry them, especially women in her purse. if you can't find paper then write it on your palm. she'll find that hilarious.
sb129 Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 Borrow her lipstick Presumably you both got invited to the wedding cos you both know the bride and/or groom? why not ask them for her details?
Topper Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 Her number isn't in the Phone Book? She didn't have any mutual friends at the wedding? Someone that both of you know that you could call to get her number? Ask a waiter, waitress, to please find you a pen and somthing to write on. If she is interested in you she will appreciate the effort you make in getting her number. Ask where she works and if it would be OK to call her at work. Plan a lunch date. Now this has happened 2 times to you? If it happens 3rd time you are officially an Idiot! You are an Idiot for not putting a pen in your suit pocket and a card with your name and number on it.
Author james123 Posted April 22, 2007 Author Posted April 22, 2007 Her number isn't in the Phone Book? She didn't have any mutual friends at the wedding? Someone that both of you know that you could call to get her number? Ask a waiter, waitress, to please find you a pen and somthing to write on. If she is interested in you she will appreciate the effort you make in getting her number. Ask where she works and if it would be OK to call her at work. Plan a lunch date. Now this has happened 2 times to you? If it happens 3rd time you are officially an Idiot! You are an Idiot for not putting a pen in your suit pocket and a card with your name and number on it. come on, who takes PENS to weddings? would you?
Author james123 Posted April 22, 2007 Author Posted April 22, 2007 Borrow her lipstick nah, that would be so weird!
sb129 Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 Presumably you both got invited to the wedding cos you both know the bride and/or groom? why not ask them for her details? Did you read this bit????? If you go to weddings as a single guy on the pull, of course you should take a pen! Everyone knows that the seating arrangement puts the single people at the same table! Duh!
Author james123 Posted April 22, 2007 Author Posted April 22, 2007 Did you read this bit????? If you go to weddings as a single guy on the pull, of course you should take a pen! Everyone knows that the seating arrangement puts the single people at the same table! Duh! yeah i read that bit,,,to desperate....she's the groom's cousin, he;s a friend of mine um, well it's not like I was going out clubbing that I would take a pen! I would have asked someone, but I didn't know anyone. Who else? the bartenders? lol
alphamale Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 come on, who takes PENS to weddings? would you? do you know why they put pockets on the front insides of suit coats and sports jackets? so you can clip a pen in there.
Author james123 Posted April 22, 2007 Author Posted April 22, 2007 do you know why they put pockets on the front insides of suit coats and sports jackets? so you can clip a pen in there. yeah they are there but come one its not like you always put one!
sb129 Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 yeah i read that bit,,,to desperate....she's the groom's cousin, he;s a friend of mine You musn't have been that into her then. Thats not desperate!!! You think the groom wouldn't have found out if you had gone out? Sheesh man. You are getting all these good suggestions. I have no more ideas!
Author james123 Posted April 22, 2007 Author Posted April 22, 2007 You musn't have been that into her then. Thats not desperate!!! You think the groom wouldn't have found out if you had gone out? Sheesh man. You are getting all these good suggestions. I have no more ideas! yeah, but i think i should have asked the bartenders or waiters or someone. never mind
sb129 Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 If you arent prepared to ask the mutual friend for her number, then let it go. Take a pen to the next one.
Author james123 Posted April 22, 2007 Author Posted April 22, 2007 such passion. well why are you being sarcastic? what would you have done if that happened? and you didn't know many people? who would you ask? the waiter? the best man? the bartender? ...
sb129 Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 If it was me? I would have asked the person we had in common for their number after the wedding, and not worried about looking desperate. I am being sarcastic cos you do have it within your power to get the girls number if you really are that interested! Its not an impossible task at all. Who cares what other people think?
Author james123 Posted April 22, 2007 Author Posted April 22, 2007 If it was me? I would have asked the person we had in common for their number after the wedding, and not worried about looking desperate. I am being sarcastic cos you do have it within your power to get the girls number if you really are that interested! Its not an impossible task at all. Who cares what other people think? now if i had managed to get a pen from somewhere, which was highly unlikely anyway, i would have taken her number for sure. but i dont know if i'll do that.
christian6 Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 yeah i read that bit,,,to desperate....she's the groom's cousin, he;s a friend of mine um, well it's not like I was going out clubbing that I would take a pen! I would have asked someone, but I didn't know anyone. Who else? the bartenders? lol best to not go out with a friend's sister/female relatives. he probably wouldn't like it
kepners Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 holly crap... you go PREPARED!!! write it YOURSELF! on your OWN PAPER ready to hand out!!!!!.......
Trimmer Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 now if i had managed to get a pen from somewhere, which was highly unlikely anyway, i would have taken her number for sure. but i dont know if i'll do that. James - I had kind of the same reaction as sb... From your comments, it sounds like unless everything happens to drop into place just right, you don't think it's worth any extra effort. Well then if that's good enough for you, then you have your answer already, don't you? However, if that had happened to me TWICE already, there's no way I would leave for another wedding without a pen in my pocket. And frankly, there's no way I would have missed finding a cocktail napkin and a pen from a bartender or the wedding planner, but that's just me. I tend to think putting a little bit of creative effort into solving the problem sends the message to the woman that you are actually interested. I don't believe opportunities come all perfectly wrapped up, personalized with your name on a gift card; I believe opportunities are found, sometimes in unusual places or conditions, sometimes hidden like diamonds in the rough, and being prepared (to the degree possible), and being flexible and creative, (to the degree that you are unprepared) can turn an unlikely possibility into a real opportunity. I wonder what women would think. How about some comments: assuming you had made some kind of positive connection with a guy at a wedding, and he went to the effort to find you by asking a friend or relative or friend-of-a-friend for your number, would you perceive that as desperate, or would you appreciate his effort to find you?
Author james123 Posted April 23, 2007 Author Posted April 23, 2007 James - I had kind of the same reaction as sb... From your comments, it sounds like unless everything happens to drop into place just right, you don't think it's worth any extra effort. Well then if that's good enough for you, then you have your answer already, don't you? However, if that had happened to me TWICE already, there's no way I would leave for another wedding without a pen in my pocket. And frankly, there's no way I would have missed finding a cocktail napkin and a pen from a bartender or the wedding planner, but that's just me. I tend to think putting a little bit of creative effort into solving the problem sends the message to the woman that you are actually interested. I don't believe opportunities come all perfectly wrapped up, personalized with your name on a gift card; I believe opportunities are found, sometimes in unusual places or conditions, sometimes hidden like diamonds in the rough, and being prepared (to the degree possible), and being flexible and creative, (to the degree that you are unprepared) can turn an unlikely possibility into a real opportunity. I wonder what women would think. How about some comments: assuming you had made some kind of positive connection with a guy at a wedding, and he went to the effort to find you by asking a friend or relative or friend-of-a-friend for your number, would you perceive that as desperate, or would you appreciate his effort to find you? to each his own, i guess in any case, i didn't know many people at the wedding, so I didn't know who to ask for a pen. now i don't know if i want to ask my mate so whatever
Author james123 Posted April 23, 2007 Author Posted April 23, 2007 best to not go out with a friend's sister/female relatives. he probably wouldn't like it yeah that's what I thought
Trimmer Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 It sounds like you think it's just too much trouble to bother. That's your call, but I bet the women you meet get that impression from you, too.
Author james123 Posted April 23, 2007 Author Posted April 23, 2007 maybe it seems like that to you, but really, I thought that if I'd asked the bartender or someone it would have seemed to obvious and would have made her uncomfortable, that's all.
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