Chrome Barracuda Posted May 6, 2007 Posted May 6, 2007 I hate blind dates. I need to see a picture first. damn. lol.
Author azianpride143 Posted May 6, 2007 Author Posted May 6, 2007 Believe me I didn't have that problem when we first met. We were both attracted to each other right off the bat.
mum2three Posted May 6, 2007 Posted May 6, 2007 about putting your picture up after your D is final! You may inspire others on LS to do the same and we'll need another section here.
Darth Vader Posted May 6, 2007 Posted May 6, 2007 Hey who said I was Japanese. hehehehe Oh well....... Misunderstood.
Author azianpride143 Posted May 7, 2007 Author Posted May 7, 2007 Anyways today we went to visit my grandma and I took the kids with me and my dad. We had a good time and when I was alone with my grandma told her that me and my STBX are in the process of divorce. She couldn't hold back her tears. She asked me what about the kids. I told her that I have and will take care of them. I told her I tried but my STBX insisted on her affair. Only choice I had was to divorce. She asked me for my mother in law's number since they are close. I guess she will be talking to her about this. I really don't care if this causes any more angst between me and my wife's family. I had to tell my grandma to make sure she understood why my STBX is never around and just to be honest with her. I don't need any help in fixing the marriage since I'm done. Well on the way back wife sends me a txt and asks me to call her regarding our baby sitter schedule. She was originally going to pick up my son after 7pm so we headed back into town. She got the schedule from me and sure enough told me she was no longer picking up my son this evening since she made plans already. I was pissed off. Then she told me she would pick him up in the morning and keep him there until wednesday. I said fine but I just wanted her to understand that if her intention was to dump my son at her parents while she has her son. Just leave him here instead. I really don't know if her intentions of taking care of him is for show or not. She told me that was not the case and she sounded like she was about to blow up on the phone. I told her ok and goodbye before she can even say another word. Gunny I picked up Taipan and Self Matters. I started reading Self Matters and do like the book a lot. BTW I re-connected with an old flame who's currently living in Canada. I told her I'll be visiting her soon and she seems very excited to see me. I am not expecting a lot or have set her expectation up. I just want to spend my time and vacation where I feel I'm wanted. Plus I just want to have a good time.
Sheba Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 AP - are you keeping a diary? You need to keep a record of all the custody and access arrangements. You should record things like the cancellation by your wife, all access requested by your wife and all access that actually occurs. Include notes about why planned access was cancelled and any comments made by the children. This is a "just in case" measure that may prove very helpful to you some day, if she insists she took care of the kids "half time" and you need to prove otherwise, for example.
Gunny376 Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 If I'm not mistaken, but I recall correctly you can't get a divorce in the Phillippines? Is that not corect? So telling your GM the news ~ would have hugh implications. Gunny I picked up Taipan and Self Matters. I started reading Self Matters and do like the book a lot. Be careful James Clavel is a most outstanding author. I've yet to read one of his books that I was able to set it down without reading it cover to cover in one setting. I don't buy a lot of fiction ~ but I've got eveyone of his books.
Author azianpride143 Posted May 7, 2007 Author Posted May 7, 2007 Thanks I will do that. Since I do have a diary I can keep track of her access to the kids. This will prove good in custody battle later on. Gunny yes there is no divorce in my country. But my plan is to get the marriage annulled once the divorce is final in the Philippines. AP - are you keeping a diary? You need to keep a record of all the custody and access arrangements. You should record things like the cancellation by your wife, all access requested by your wife and all access that actually occurs. Include notes about why planned access was cancelled and any comments made by the children. This is a "just in case" measure that may prove very helpful to you some day, if she insists she took care of the kids "half time" and you need to prove otherwise, for example.
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 Wow she sounds like a flake, I really hope you get full custody, she cares more about herself than her own children???!?!? WTF???
Gunny376 Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 Wow she sounds like a flake, I really hope you get full custody, she cares more about herself than her own children???!?!? WTF??? Fillippino women make some of the best wives, (in so long as your a decent guy) a man could ask for ~ but a per centage get to the States and just lose it in the land of the Big PX?! If it weren't for my children and DGS, and being retired Marine Corps ~ I'd move to the Phillippines ~ and live the life of a king! Everyday would be a holiday, every meal a feast! Ahhhhh! $20 ~ a four day pass and Subic Bay! Nothing but a good time! And Jimmey Buffet doesn' even have a clue!
Author azianpride143 Posted May 7, 2007 Author Posted May 7, 2007 Yes good ol Subic. Those were the days. A lot of retired military actually ended up staying there. You can live like a king on your pension. The population speaks English as a second language. Plus they have Tricare there. I would retire there if I was old enough.
Gunny376 Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 "Get Ye behind me Satan ~ lead me not unto temptation!" :p
Author azianpride143 Posted May 8, 2007 Author Posted May 8, 2007 Well back to my story.. My STBXW was off today running errands. She took our daughter to her dental appointment. She kept calling me asking me for my opinion on her furniture options. I told her I don't know since I have no idea what would fit in her apt. There is really no point in getting me involved in decision making anymore. She calls me back again for her address. I told her I'm in the middle of something and don't have access to a computer. I told her just call me when you pick up our son from the in-laws since I want to talk to him. Well she called in a panicked voice. She said her brother is on a rampage at her apt and is making a scene. He basically told her she was on her own and she should call her bf to help her with the tv. I'm like that is not really my problem. She told me to come over so I can pickup my daughter. So I did. She asked me if I can bring her tv in her apt since she's worried that it might get stolen in her car. So I complied. Then I was about to leave. I confronted her and told her that this is no longer my problem, stop bothering me, stop asking me for my opinion, your on your own, and go call your bf for help. She had this look of shock in her face and was about to break down and cry, I walked away, got in my car and drove off. I wanted her to understand that I am done. It's been over between me and her. I just want to be left alone. I don't want any part of her "love nest" or whatever she calls her place. She needs to stop injecting herself into my life anymore. Plus stop using the kids to get to me. She was even asking my daughter how am I doing, etc? Doesn't she get it. The doormat is no longer there. She opened the door for me and I'm running away. As far away from her as possible. She needs to come to the realization that I am not waiting. She is not on holiday and can come back home once she's done partying.
Gunny376 Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Well back to my story.. My STBXW was off today running errands. She took our daughter to her dental appointment. She kept calling me asking me for my opinion on her furniture options. I told her I don't know since I have no idea what would fit in her apt. There is really no point in getting me involved in decision making anymore. She calls me back again for her address. I told her I'm in the middle of something and don't have access to a computer. I told her just call me when you pick up our son from the in-laws since I want to talk to him. Well she called in a panicked voice. She said her brother is on a rampage at her apt and is making a scene. He basically told her she was on her own and she should call her bf to help her with the tv. I'm like that is not really my problem. She told me to come over so I can pickup my daughter. So I did. She asked me if I can bring her tv in her apt since she's worried that it might get stolen in her car. So I complied. Then I was about to leave. I confronted her and told her that this is no longer my problem, stop bothering me, stop asking me for my opinion, your on your own, and go call your bf for help. She had this look of shock in her face and was about to break down and cry, I walked away, got in my car and drove off. I wanted her to understand that I am done. It's been over between me and her. I just want to be left alone. I don't want any part of her "love nest" or whatever she calls her place. She needs to stop injecting herself into my life anymore. Plus stop using the kids to get to me. She was even asking my daughter how am I doing, etc? Doesn't she get it. The doormat is no longer there. She opened the door for me and I'm running away. As far away from her as possible. She needs to come to the realization that I am not waiting. She is not on holiday and can come back home once she's done partying. OoooooRaaaahaaahhhh! SemperFi ~ Do or Die! ~ F'ing "A"! Get Some! :bunny: :bunny:
mammax3 Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Wow AP! Good for you! That must have been hard, but felt so good!
Gunny376 Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 I think she is getting a dose of reality. Mr. "R" is in town, that's for sure and certain! Whoppppps? There it is! That Louville Slugger up-side your head! Life's a bitch for sure and certain ~ and she don't play!
Gunny376 Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 I'll probally catch some flak for this ~ but notice how much the women are givining you praise for "manning-up"!
ryanisfootdrums Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Wow AP, that is some respectable resolve you've got there!
surfnbro74 Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Hey AP sup bro! Man you are definetly the man. Ive been reading your thread and its very inspirational. I am also asian (laotian) and I our culture is also the same about divorce. That word doesnt even exist in our dictionary..lol Anyways, my situation is pretty much the same as yours, but mine started in december of last year. Im also doing okay with this whole seperation and I still have my ups and down. I figure its gonna be like this for a while so Im just gonna take it like a "Man" and continue to move along day by day. Yeah bro, Im gonna have to go up there and visit you with couple dozens of Balut and hmmmm...couple of cases of beer and just shoot the shiet until we get drunk. I always wanted to go to california anways, so when I do "its on bro!" LOL, well keep up the good work and just accept life the way it is. Plus, I heard cali got some good lookn and tan hotties. Good luck bro, Surfer
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Damn halfway round the word, and cheating knows no bounds, I always considered foreign woman to be loyal to their mates, damn what's going on? Are they being americanized by the images in the media? or is people just crazy?
El-Producto Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Yeah buddy!!! You rock. It's amazing how far some of us have come with these crazy ass WS's. I've noticed that when I take control of my participation in the relationship, things go much smoother for me. She freaks out, because she knows she can't control me... but I feel more in control. I have to keep telling myself that I can't, and shouldn't control another person.
Woggle Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 You need to teach some classes on how men can grow some balls.
Ladyjane14 Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 Yeah buddy!!! You rock. Ditto. Setting down your boundaries early is going to pay off for you as time goes by. I really do believe it. Nobody wants their ex in their business all the time, and by setting limits now, I think you'll avoid alot of hassle later. Way to go! I've noticed that when I take control of my participation in the relationship, things go much smoother for me. She freaks out, because she knows she can't control me... but I feel more in control. I have to keep telling myself that I can't, and shouldn't control another person. And isn't that just the coolest thing? :cool: It's soooo simple to understand once you've started applying it, but it sounds like some kind of Herculean task when you're trying to explain the concept to someone else.
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