BlueEyedSarah Posted April 21, 2007 Posted April 21, 2007 I am staying with my guy friend until August, he is a long distance friend which is why I am here for a while. He has been living in this new house for a few months since November of last year. Before he was here he lived with a friend, who is a girl, who I know has a crush on him, he has told me in the past that he is not intrested in her and has told me so many reasons why he does not want to be with her ect. I have a crush him too, he knows it, but he does not deny he doesn't have feelings for me, he just says, "keep the door open and see what happens in the future" (???) Anyway to get back onto the topic... Whenever this girl calls him and he picks up and talks to her I feel upset and jealous. I want to stay friends with this guy and was wondering if people could give me tips on what I should do to get rid of my jealousy. Should I tell my friend how I feel? Or should I push it aside? I think he likes her friendship because he has said to me in the past that she was nice to let him stay at her house for 2 years. If anyone can help I would be greatful because I dont want to be jealous every time I see her name on he's phones!
Ariadne Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 Well, Think of it this way. He lived with her for two years and nothing ever happened. He knows she has a crush on him and yet, gave you a list of reasons why he doesn't want to get involved. What are you jealous of? That he has friends? You have friends too I suppose, it doesn't matter if they are boys or girls, as long as you don't have feelings for them there's no reason to be jealous. Next time he talks to her I'd say leave the room and go do something else. (And since you are going to stay there for a while, you may try and meet her and she might turn out to be nice and you'll like her too) Ariadne
BlueEyedSarah Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 Well, What are you jealous of? That he has friends? Just the way he talks to her on the phone as he seems happy talking to her after all the stuff he tells me about her behind her back it just makes me suprised. Also on the phone I can tell she is flirting and saying certain comments to him because of the way he acts he acts that way too when I compliment him or flirt with him. (And since you are going to stay there for a while, you may try and meet her and she might turn out to be nice and you'll like her too) I have met her before about 2 years ago and she doesnt like me, I could tell she was jealous, he knows it too, so I don't think he wants us to meet again. Her attitude against other girls he is friends with is not nice at all as she shows possession, competition and jealousy. The way he has described her now she still seems to be the same. But yea, thanks for the advice, next time he talks to her I will go outside for a walk or something, this house has thin walls so no matter what room I'm in I can still hear the conversation.
Ariadne Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 Ah, So he gets happy when he talks to her but talks behind her back, you met her but she doesn't like you, her attitude is not nice, she is jealous, possessive and competitive. Yeah, I'd say it's too complicated. You have not a chance with this guy. Ariadne
Poboy Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 i think he enjoys talking to her considering she likes him so must be saying special things , flirty kinds and he's enjoying it ... since he talks behind her back to you shows he really doesnt want anything to do with her excepting the friendship and enjoying the attention ( i hope he isnt talking to her about you behind your back ) as for him and his comment to you , i dont think he is interested in dating you right now ( if he was , wouldnt he just ask you ? ) and either has options around or is not dating anyone for some reason ... he does a possibilty in the future though if things around dont work out with others im guessing ...
BlueEyedSarah Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 i think he enjoys talking to her considering she likes him so must be saying special things , flirty kinds and he's enjoying it ... since he talks behind her back to you shows he really doesnt want anything to do with her excepting the friendship and enjoying the attention ( i hope he isnt talking to her about you behind your back ) as for him and his comment to you , i dont think he is interested in dating you right now ( if he was , wouldnt he just ask you ? ) and either has options around or is not dating anyone for some reason ... he does a possibilty in the future though if things around dont work out with others im guessing ... Thats what I guess too. And I know he doesn't talk to her about me behind my back, especially since she does not know I'm staying here. If she did know I was here it would just make her freak out and to a jealous rage.
blue16 Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 This guy must be really good looking (and a great catch) considering he has two girls after him, and he just wants to remain friends with them. Probably has a lot of options going for him.
BlueEyedSarah Posted May 4, 2007 Posted May 4, 2007 This guy must be really good looking (and a great catch) considering he has two girls after him, and he just wants to remain friends with them. Probably has a lot of options going for him. I think he is good looking, but its not only that which makes me attracted to him, its he's personality which is why I really enjoy he's friendship.
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