Guest Posted April 21, 2007 Posted April 21, 2007 Hello all, I often check this board out and I see that there is some really good feedback given. I thought I'd give it a crack and see if I could get some advice on my current relationship situation. Currently I've been dating a girl for about 5 months. We are both in our mid-20's. Me and my girlfriend hang out just about everyday and we get along great DURING the week. And by great - I'm not just saying that - we cuddle up and watch TV shows together, we have in-depth talks, we are really respectful to each other, if we get in a disagreement they are for the most part civil. But then the weekends come. Now sometimes we have a good weekend - we will hit the movies up or go out to dinner. If we go out for drinks with my friends or by ourselves - we always end up having a good time. I am a pretty big extrovert and I guess I can moderate discussion and make sure everyone is included. Even though my girlfriend doesn't really know my friends - when we do hang out, I pay attention to her and make sure she feels included. The problem start when we hang out with her friends. She has a group of friends of guys/girls and they are very kliqish. I guess I've always expected my girlfriend to moderate discussion and talk to her friends with me so I feel included. But what happens is everyone will just talk to each other and I will feel left out. No one ever asks me about myself - which I find odd when they all know each other and no one seems interested in me. This makes me feel uncomfortable and I often express this to my girlfriend during some point in the night. She will tell me to leave if I'm not having fun and we usually end up getting an argument. Obviously in all of these situations - alcohol is involved so the arguments are a little more emotional. But because of these arguments - these same friends say I treat her bad and that they are worried about her. (not to me but to her) And this makes me feel like a real bad guy. Some other information about this group that adds tension: They are mostly male One guy constantly makes sexual references to my girlfriend when I'm not with them Now - I regret that I wasn't more social and didn't include myself when we first started hanging out with these people. I could have given off a better image. I also don't want it to be a me or your friends type situation. I don't want to be controlling. And this doesn't happened with ALL of her friends, some of her friends not in this group are really friendly and easy to talk to. These friends give her positive feedback about me. So basically - what steps can I take to fix this situation?
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