AriaIncognito Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Hey Journey. We are in the same state :-) Do it for your own good. it's going to SUCK. Trust us. But, it will get better. It has it's ups and downs. Post here when you're down. Try not to give in. Eventually the downs become fewer. I'm on day 19 and I feel pretty decent, considering. The day I stop knowing what day it is, well then I'll really be happy...lol
Teacher's Pet Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Hey Journey. We are in the same state :-) Do it for your own good. it's going to SUCK. Trust us. But, it will get better. It has it's ups and downs. Post here when you're down. Try not to give in. Eventually the downs become fewer. I'm on day 19 and I feel pretty decent, considering. The day I stop knowing what day it is, well then I'll really be happy...lol Kinda like me! It's like 300...something.... I dunno... 10 months, that's the important thing. And FW... I am so very, VERY proud of you. :) xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo Journey... the first hours are the hardest.... You'll do fine.. You now have friends right here in Jersey! :) BTW.. what part of Jersey are you in? I'm in Bergen County, just outside NYC.... -tp knowing friends keep each other on track:)
agnf666 Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Looks liek my ex is doing no contact to me. Not that I want to call him but I talked ot him after we broke up and he said.. I will call you back and its 4 days later. Yeah whatever. Same Guy no matter if we were in a relationship or not. Glad im out of it. So, I'm on day number 2... woo hoo. The only thing is getting rid of certain things that will be a constant reminder of your ex.
Ormolu611 Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 I am on about day 60 of no contact, but the sense of rejection still stings sometimes. I sometimes can't get past the feelings of betrayal and abandonment. Nonetheless, I am determined to maintain nc for my own dignity. It is exactly these feelings that make me stronger - I do not want anyone who does not want me or appreciate all that I have to offer. I have been going out and genuinely having a good time. I have met other women who definitley have an appreciation for who I am, and that feels good.
Journey1220 Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 I just woke up and I have this anxious nervous feeling, very uneasy. I hate this no contact thing. Im constantly looking at my cell phone to see if she texted me. Wow this really is not an easy thing to do.
Author Shandy Posted April 28, 2007 Author Posted April 28, 2007 Keep up the good work everyone!! I've been reading a lot of break up books recently. Right now I'm reading, it's called a breakup because it's broken. I will briefly share with you guys their seven tips on getting over a break up: 1) NC for at least 60 days. After 60 days, you will feel much stronger and out of the "danger zone". 2) Designate a friend to help you get over the breakup, someone who is patient and can spend hours talking to you. 3) Get rid of everything that reminds you of the ex. Re-arrange the furniture in your room. The point is to make it seem like you're starting over fresh. 4) Get out of the house and do something every day!!! 5) This one I just started doing myself. Leave the house every day looking great. You will feel better when you aren't wearing sweats looking sad. Also the complements and looks from the opposite sex will cheer you up as well!! 6) No backsliding!! 7) It won't work unless you're number ONE!! Take action to improve yourself, take care of yourself. Getting through this tough breakup will build your confidence and character.
Teacher's Pet Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 I just woke up and I have this anxious nervous feeling, very uneasy. I hate this no contact thing. Im constantly looking at my cell phone to see if she texted me. Wow this really is not an easy thing to do. Journey... No one said it would be easy... But it CAN be done. I was a weak-minded guy taken advantage of by an emotionally abusive woman...and I beat her (in spirit, not in body LOL)..... You can beat this too.... keep reading/posting here, you will get great advice. Since we're both from NJ..... let's just say my ex is pretty much a "typical Jersey chick", so you have an idea what I was dealing with (yes, Bon Jovi obsession and all)..... If you want... click on my profile and read some of my OLD threads from last June-September... you can see how tough it was at first.... But please trust us. It DOES get better with time. P.S. Do you play poker? -tp champion of the weak
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