allicat Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 I have been with my husband for 7 years. I love him very much. My problem is that I have never gotten over my first love. He has recently been searching for me over the net. I now can't stop thinking about him and find myself in love with both men. What do I do?
polywog Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Please don't let this wreck your marriage. Most, if not all, relationships get bumpy between 5 and 7 years... it's a proven fact. I don't think your exbf is showing very much character by contacting a married woman. It's also so easy to idealize past relationships; you're not having the trials of daily life together. There were probably things about him that annoyed you that you've forgotten and you are only remembering the good times because something is a bit amiss in your marriage (they take nurturing and work, like maintaining a garden). Check out marriagebuilders.com and see if you get some insight. Talk to a counselor so this is not festering secretly in your heart.
Mr. Lucky Posted April 21, 2007 Posted April 21, 2007 I have been with my husband for 7 years. I love him very much. My problem is that I have never gotten over my first love. He has recently been searching for me over the net. I now can't stop thinking about him and find myself in love with both men. What do I do? I'm going to assume that you haven't seen your ex for 7 years or more. If so, how can you actively be "in love" with someone you haven't seen for the better part of a decade? Some IC would help you to understand what is really going on... Mr. Lucky
mehim Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 you need to forget about your first love, its the past, and concetrate on what you already have and make it work. How about you thinking about it in a good way, something like an ego boost to see him searching for you and thats it. Be strong.
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