loveinlife Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Just feel that Nc is working out for me, but feel unsure of the possible outcome. A little excited but not knowing what will happen gives me a feeling of uncertainty. Anyone feeling this way or can tell me how things worked out after one moves on?
Fun2BMe Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Other than the outcome of helping you to get over and move on from the person you are doing NC with, I'm not sure if you have any other expectations from it?
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 You move on -- meet someone else hopefully a little smarter and a little better prepared -- to have a new relationship with someone BETTER.
ruby_gloom Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 You move on -- meet someone else hopefully a little smarter and a little better prepared -- to have a new relationship with someone BETTER. Or maybe you won't, and you'll be sad, lonely, and miserable for many, many years.
amaysngrace Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 I know what you mean. I'm going through it myself right now. It's sort of like you have this glimmer of hope that what you want to happen, like this person becomes who you wish they were, actually happens. You have these thoughts that you mean so much that they will do whatever it takes to prove how much you mean. That you are the world to them. But reality is if that were true, you wouldn't be in no contact with them. Who they are would've been good enough and wouldn't have put you in no contact with them to begin with. How long has it been for you? I'm on Day Four now, since a new day has happened.
Fun2BMe Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Today marks day 50 of my NC. Yes he calls and emails like crazy, saying all the things he should've before. But I am so over him that at this point the purpose of my NC is to hurt him and make him suffer by not having access or responses from me. I guess there are a lot of different things we can expect from NC.
Author loveinlife Posted April 20, 2007 Author Posted April 20, 2007 I know what you mean. I'm going through it myself right now. It's sort of like you have this glimmer of hope that what you want to happen, like this person becomes who you wish they were, actually happens. You have these thoughts that you mean so much that they will do whatever it takes to prove how much you mean. That you are the world to them. But reality is if that were true, you wouldn't be in no contact with them. Who they are would've been good enough and wouldn't have put you in no contact with them to begin with. How long has it been for you? I'm on Day Four now, since a new day has happened. same with me, its my 4th day of Nc. keep it up, we can do it together. Let me know how you are doing. =) Today marks day 50 of my NC. Yes he calls and emails like crazy, saying all the things he should've before. But I am so over him that at this point the purpose of my NC is to hurt him and make him suffer by not having access or responses from me. I guess there are a lot of different things we can expect from NC. Its hard huh, i feel like making my ex suffer the way i did too. She has been calling but i haven't picked up. Why suffer and keep the negative stuff in our lives when positive things are right at the corner to for us to enjoy. Its really sad how i broke so many girls hearts because i didn't choose them for the reason i still had feelings for my ex. *sigh* I don't want to break anymore hearts and kinda makes me not date or find any new person again, its kinda painful not for me but for the other person to get hurt. Thanks for all the comments. Gl to all you guys/girls! Much love from loveinlife
Icantletgo Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 My heart hurts right now. After yesterdays dramatic texts...he hasn't called me. I am relieved because maybe this is the break I finally can have from him. I can finally heal and move on and not depend on him. But you have to admit, we sometimes love the fact that they come back to us. We love the fact that although they can move on,...they won't let us go. I know it's selfish of them....but I loved it when he didn't want to be alone so he came to me. I know. It hurts right now for me. I see you being stronger and it helps me make it through.
Author loveinlife Posted April 20, 2007 Author Posted April 20, 2007 Good to hear that you had the strength to step up in front of him, that is very couragious of you. Its not easy to let go. My so is still on my mind for an amount of my day. Its not that i will forget about her, it just doesn't give me any benifits to be around. I've been supportive of her emotionally and sometimes financially throughout the who time. Thought i could make her life better but instead has ruined mine by neglecting my own needs. I was too selfless. Should always take care of ourselves first.
krzr Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 she broke up with me august 1st and have been no contact since january 1st now and for some reason this week was real dificult even thou i have been with many girls since the split it reminds me more of her than anything so ive been trying to lay low and stay busy while working thru these feelings as they come up. the pain is gone the hurt is gone but the missing and memories are still there but no contact is helping and it is scary to think that i may never talk to the person that i want to talk to the most in this world ever again. maybe im at the point of letting go and im gripping onto it tighter that might be what this weeks regress was about. but i stayed tuff and didnt contact her even thou she has tried contacting me and my cousin and her mom and brother both have been trying to contact me over the holidays and before.
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