amaysngrace Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 I don't know what to do. ExBF broke contact about an hour ago. He dropped off a CD entitled "lost one" written for and inspired by me. I shut the lights off on him but he left it on the front step. He was on his bike. Meaning he's not behind the wheel which means he's drinking. The song's pretty. Kind of surfy with a strong beat but mostly a sad undertone. Anyway I haven't quite figured out if "lost" in "lost one" is a verb or adjective. I think I should call and say thank you. That's all. Just thank you. And leave it on his house phone not his cell. Just because I think I should say thank you. Is that breaking contact? Should I just do nothing? Would that be rude? Please set me straight, somebody, please. I don't know how this whole no contact thing goes, in fact I never even heard of no contact before I came to LoveShack and saw a billion posts by CaliGuy about it. What should I do?
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 NC is no contact. Even if they contact you -- you do not open the door back up. You remain in NC
Author amaysngrace Posted April 20, 2007 Author Posted April 20, 2007 Thank you. This is what I figured. I thought maybe I should just leave my phone off the hook and go to bed. That song sounds like an ocean of alcohol to me really. It creeps me out.
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Thank you. This is what I figured. I thought maybe I should just leave my phone off the hook and go to bed. You can take the phone off the hook or leave it on -- and if he calls he only hears "click". That song sounds like an ocean of alcohol to me really. It creeps me out. More the reason not to open the door --- not even a crack. It is shut - slammed shut with no room -- no window of opportunity to get back in...
2ndIINone Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 hmmm... I'm a big fan of .... doing the OPPOSITE of what I'd normally do. So... the morally correct thing to do is say thank you.... therefore... the RIGHT thing to do is NO CONTACT!!!!
Author amaysngrace Posted April 20, 2007 Author Posted April 20, 2007 You can take the phone off the hook or leave it on -- and if he calls he only hears "click". More the reason not to open the door --- not even a crack. It is shut - slammed shut with no room -- no window of opportunity to get back in... I hung up on him once already so I could take it off the hook. It's been off the hook ever since and it has to stay there, he's OCD. You're very strong. My mom says men play on my sympathies. Come to think of it my exBF said the same thing about my exH. That my exH was playing on my heartstrings. Hmm...guess he knows how to get at me then, huh? That's messed up. And now I think he's at my house again.
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 And now I think he's at my house again. UGH! -- A drunk on a bicycle plaguing you. What fresh hell is this? Call the cops if you have to -- just do NOT communicate with him at all. Not even to tell him you'll be calling the cops. Any communication will e seen as an invitation -- he's drunk and liable to do anything. PLEASE call the police if he doesn't stop.
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 And by the way -- he is trying to play on your sympathies. Don't buy in AT ALL.
Author amaysngrace Posted April 20, 2007 Author Posted April 20, 2007 I swear I just heard a really loud bang. I think he's in my sunroom trying to get in the family room. This is so messed up.
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 I swear I just heard a really loud bang. I think he's in my sunroom trying to get in the family room. This is so messed up. CALL THE POLICE.
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Please please please --- he is breaking and entering - do not give him slack - who knows what he'll do. He is NOT thinking
Author amaysngrace Posted April 20, 2007 Author Posted April 20, 2007 shouldn't i go downstairs and check first?
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 shouldn't i go downstairs and check first? NO. Let the police come and check it out. You don't even know for sure who it is!! Call 911 now --
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Are you on the phone? -- They'll stay on the line till it is checked out...
Author amaysngrace Posted April 20, 2007 Author Posted April 20, 2007 No worries. I just went and checked. Everything is fine. I turned on the back light. I was afraid he was going to be passed out in the sunroom or something but it's okay. God, my heart is racing right now. And here is another moment when I gotta say WTF!
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 You are not answering. I hope you are on with 911. If I knew where you were I'd be calling right now
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 No worries. I just went and checked. Everything is fine. I turned on the back light. I was afraid he was going to be passed out in the sunroom or something but it's okay. God, my heart is racing right now. And here is another moment when I gotta say WTF! Thankfully it is nothing. Do not make this mistake again -- okay? weirdos do weird things beyond reason. It is not smart to put yourself in the position of being harmed. Better to be safe than sorry.
2ndIINone Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 wow... this is kinda weird.... like something on TV.
Author amaysngrace Posted April 20, 2007 Author Posted April 20, 2007 wow... this is kinda weird.... like something on TV. Welcome to my world! Anyway this guy was like a dream until he turned into a nightmare. All because I treated him like a prince but sometimes he forgot to treat me like a princess and it sorta ruined my fairytale like that, you know? I am in desperate need of sleep. And food I think. I don't think I've eaten today. Ugh...heartache sucks. I wouldn't wish this on anyone.
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Eat something and try to sleep. Do not destroy yourself because he is such a jerk off
2ndIINone Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Anyway this guy was like a dream until he turned into a nightmare.aren't they all? The good ol'... Too Good To Be True scenerio.... Mine treated me like a prince, as she was my princess... but then I made the mistake of opening up to her one day.... and she literally did a 180' less then 24 hours later after pursuing my @ss for years and years. Now she considers herself a princess.... and I think I'm the frog.
Author amaysngrace Posted April 20, 2007 Author Posted April 20, 2007 Eat something and try to sleep. Do not destroy yourself because he is such a jerk off Thank you for your caring. I will eat something in the morning. Right now I'm too tired to eat. But thank you. Anyway, the police would take forever to get here. We have state police where I live, not locals. This guy isn't dangerous only to himself. He'll probably fall off his bike three times on his way home. It happens.
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Thank you for your caring. I will eat something in the morning. Right now I'm too tired to eat. But thank you. Anyway, the police would take forever to get here. We have state police where I live, not locals. This guy isn't dangerous only to himself. He'll probably fall off his bike three times on his way home. It happens. I hope he has skinned everything -- and he gets his genitalia caught in the chain
Author amaysngrace Posted April 20, 2007 Author Posted April 20, 2007 aren't they all? The good ol'... Too Good To Be True scenerio.... Mine treated me like a prince, as she was my princess... but then I made the mistake of opening up to her one day.... and she literally did a 180' less then 24 hours later after pursuing my @ss for years and years. Now she considers herself a princess.... and I think I'm the frog. Well ironically I got an email from some lady today who preaches about dating without drama and she says that when two people get together they are on the same wavelength. But over the course of time the two people grow and if they grow at the same speed then it's a good relationship. But if one person achieves much more growth than their counterpart then they outgrow that person. But then they are more emotionally sound for their next relationship. Sounds like a bunch of psycho-babbly rah rah to me...you?
2ndIINone Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Well ironically I got an email from some lady today who preaches about dating without dramathats as far as i got.... sorry. because dating without drama.... doesn't exist. At least not in my life. Actually, I understand what you're saying.... about growth. But in my particular case, it was nothing more then the 'chase' factor. Ya know.... always want what you can't have, but when you finally get it... (she got me) then ya don't want it anymore. I've accepted it.... learned the lesson and moved forward.... passing my infinite and brilliant wisdom onto others....
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