jlsinphx Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Hey guys. I could use your input here. I went out with this guy from a dating site and we had a good time. It was a low key kind of weeknight date. At the end of the date, he said we should go dancing one night. Two nights later, on Friday, he text messaged me and we exchanged a few texts. I heard nothing, so on Wed. I asked him about his week. He said it was busy, so I left it alone. Then, on Friday morning he sent me a text saying have a good day. Well, I was at work and didn't get it until later in the day, so I responded and we exchanged a few more that night. It has been 6 days and I have heard nothing from him. What is he waiting for? If he is blowing me off, fine, but how do I know?
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Do not text as part of communication in relationships. DO NOT. They call and speak with you or they get a short response. "have a good day" -- gets a response of "thanks". You can't tell tone of voice or anything else that would clarify what is going on. It is a bad move. So don't do it anymore. It leads to these kinds of questions. Chalk it up to him not being interested -- then if he does come out of nowhere you'll be pleasantly surprised. But you should not reach out to him first. It was a mistake the first time so don't do that again.
jerbear Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Sounds young to me with the texting. Honestly, let him call you, and take a lead. Texting works after a few dates or few months. Not after 1 date. Let him call you and ask you out, not him sending you a text then not do a thing.
Author jlsinphx Posted April 20, 2007 Author Posted April 20, 2007 Ok..I wont do it again. The only reason I even did it the first time was because when he was texting me I was kind of abrupt and said have a good weekend after only a few exchanges. I figured he thought I was blowing him off with that.
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Ok..I wont do it again. The only reason I even did it the first time was because when he was texting me I was kind of abrupt and said have a good weekend after only a few exchanges. I figured he thought I was blowing him off with that. Probably a good move to get the texting off the plate by saying at some point during the initial contact that texting is really communication and laugh it off. It will get the point across and you won't be faced with this again. And a good rule is not to initiate contact until a relationship is established.
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