InjuredHeart Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 Long story short..................i live in California and she lives in Greece. We have talked about everyday for the past 2 years and i have visited her there and we got really intimate. The time i spent there was nice, but i was sad that in the back of my mind I knew that this was just a fantasy since she lives so far away. During the 2 years we became very close as expected. We discussed whether one of us were willing to move , but never really answered the question fully. We kinda dodged the question. Anyway, now its come to the point where we have to answer that question since neither one us are getting any younger. After long debates and arguments, we came to the conclusion that neither were willing to move. I would refuse to give up on things hoping something may magically happen. But i think she was more realistic and spoke more rationally. She would tell me how difficult things would be even if one of us happened to move to the others country because of the language, culture, politics...basically everything. I know she loves me and i love her, sometimes in life things arent meant to be. This is so hard for me to accept...since i am very stubborn. I know being friends is the best way to go and still have her in my life, but i just cant seem to get my heart to feel the same way. Should i maintain friendship? What do i do if she finds someone and i feel the jealousy? Sometimes....life just sucks. I wish things were easier and we lived in the same place. I dont know what to do...any help would be nice. Thanks for letting me rant.
polywog Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 Oh! It made my heart ache to read your post! I think that as long as you two keep in touch it will keep your heart yearning for more than friendship, and keep things static... nothing will change, in other words. You will be here, she will be there. My advice to you is to stop being in contact with her for the time being so you can move on to what's possible, love-wise, relatioship-wise. You will both have time to think about the location problem and you will have the (painful but necessary) opportunity to heal and move forward. Who knows what will happen if things get shook up a bit by this? The worst is that your heart can move on. What do you think?
polywog Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 Oh! It made my heart ache to read your post! I think that as long as you two keep in touch it will keep your heart yearning for more than friendship, and keep things static... nothing will change, in other words. You will be here, she will be there. My advice to you is to stop being in contact with her for the time being so you can move on to what's possible, love-wise, relationship-wise. You will both have time to think about the location problem and you will have the (painful but necessary) opportunity to heal and move forward. Who knows what will happen if things get shook up a bit by this? The worst is that your heart can move on. What do you think?
polywog Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 Oh! It made my heart ache to read your post! I think that as long as you two keep in touch it will keep your heart yearning for more than friendship, and keep things static... nothing will change, in other words. You will be here, she will be there. My advice to you is to stop being in contact with her for the time being so you can move on to what's possible, love-wise, relationship-wise. You will both have time to think about the location problem and you will have the (painful but necessary) opportunity to heal and move forward. Who knows what will happen if things get shook up a bit by this? The worst is that your heart can move on. What do you think?
polywog Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 Oh! It made my heart ache to read your post! I think that as long as you two keep in touch it will keep your heart yearning for more than friendship, and keep things static... nothing will change, in other words. You will be here, she will be there. My advice to you is to stop being in contact with her for the time being so you can move on to what's possible, love-wise, relationship-wise. You will both have time to think about the location problem and you will have the (painful but necessary) opportunity to heal and move forward. Who knows what will happen if things get shook up a bit by this? The worst is that your heart can move on. What do you think?
polywog Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 Geez, so sorry for the multiple posts! I was having a hard time getting through and hit "Reply" a few times! Anyhow, you probably read all 3 posts. maybe that's not so bad. Anyhow, sorry....
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