sunshine79 Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 so something is wrong with me...i lately have been trying to find things to be jealous over and start overanalyzing things. let me give an example...my fiance stayed up late last night (normal) and i went to bed because i didn't feel good (i usually sleep on the couch wile he's up and then we go to bed together) i just talked to him and he was up until 130 watching tv and playing on teh computer. first thought...he was talking to someone on there or looking at porn. why do i do this?? i'm sure he was looking at the VT stuff and watching our tivo shows he's behind on. so i'm in a bad mood because i don't know waht he did while i was sleeping... i don't know what my deal is....also he is on his cell A LOT during the day while at work. he just told me taht 6 months ago hsi EX called him...now this girl just wnats him back but he told me he told her he was engaged and we bought a house and she hasn't called back since...so that's nice. i don't know where and why i have these issues about imagining things in my head...like he's going to talk to other girls or find other girls mroe attractive or i think he wants to go out without me and flirt....why do i do this?!?! he hasn't given me any reason to think he'd cheat or anything...i am divorced and maybe this is part of me coming out and shunning off my fiance...i dont' know. we're getting married in 8 months...ugh.. i needed to get that out. any advice or thoughts are welcome! : ))
BeachBlonde Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 so something is wrong with me...i lately have been trying to find things to be jealous over and start overanalyzing things. let me give an example...my fiance stayed up late last night (normal) and i went to bed because i didn't feel good (i usually sleep on the couch wile he's up and then we go to bed together) i just talked to him and he was up until 130 watching tv and playing on teh computer. first thought...he was talking to someone on there or looking at porn. why do i do this?? i'm sure he was looking at the VT stuff and watching our tivo shows he's behind on. so i'm in a bad mood because i don't know waht he did while i was sleeping... i don't know what my deal is....also he is on his cell A LOT during the day while at work. he just told me taht 6 months ago hsi EX called him...now this girl just wnats him back but he told me he told her he was engaged and we bought a house and she hasn't called back since...so that's nice. i don't know where and why i have these issues about imagining things in my head...like he's going to talk to other girls or find other girls mroe attractive or i think he wants to go out without me and flirt....why do i do this?!?! he hasn't given me any reason to think he'd cheat or anything...i am divorced and maybe this is part of me coming out and shunning off my fiance...i dont' know. we're getting married in 8 months...ugh.. i needed to get that out. any advice or thoughts are welcome! : )) Have you been very jealous in past relationships? Since he hasn't given you any reason to be jealous (p.s.- it's a good sign that he TOLD you that his ex contacted him instead of going behind your back and talking to her), I would suggest counseling BEFORE you get married....or your feelings will just get worse. I know how hard it is to feel those things, trust me, but maybe it would help you to talk to someone about your last marriage and help to sort out any problems with insecurity and jealousy that you have. Good luck and congrats on the upcoming wedding!
stillafool Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Wow what is the deal? Nothing is more unattractive than unwarranted jealousy. That will eventually drive him in to another womans arms. Just make it up in your mind that your man loves you. He is not a robot so naturally he is going to see other women who are more attractive than you. This is just a part of life. Even if he admires their looks, he loves you. Maybe you are nervous to get married again and that's whats causing all these unfounded emotions.
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