sunflower1008 Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 My MM and I have had NC for 15 days...I was finally fed up with the "lines and lies". He has tried many times to contact me, but I'm not calling back, nor answering his im's. His birthday is coming up in 3 days...do I wish him Happy Birthday at least? Thoughts???? What would you do??
torranceshipman Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 DO NOT CONTACT HIM! He is probably being a bit smug even now, thinking that you'll cave on his b-day. Don't give him the satisfaction. Just remember how much he lied to you and why you went for NC in the 1st place. And not contacting him on his b-day is a great way of sending an extra message that you are really the strong one here. You should totally be proud of yourself. Keep up the NC, you are doing a brilliant job and whenever you feel the need to contact him...DONT! Vent here instead.
stillafool Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 Absolutely do not call him on his B-day. Keep up the good work. You are on the road to happiness don't let him block your way.
Freedom Now Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 My xMM's birthday came and went without a peep from me. He has his wife to celebrate with.
Tomcat33 Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 My xMM's birthday came and went without a peep from me. He has his wife to celebrate with. My sentiments excatly. If I were you Sunflower I would treat it as and ex-boyfriend you are no longer in contact with. Then again you must determine what you wish to achieve from your current situation if you are 100% ready to move on then don't think twice about letting the day pass. If however you feel that there is any hope for the two of you (and you know best) that would be the only reason why you would do such a nice gesture for him as to contact him to wish him a happy b! But you know the answer.
Island Girl Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 My MM and I have had NC for 15 days...I was finally fed up with the "lines and lies". He has tried many times to contact me, but I'm not calling back, nor answering his im's. His birthday is coming up in 3 days...do I wish him Happy Birthday at least? Thoughts???? What would you do?? NC is NO CONTACT. It is not "no contact except on special occasions". Let his wife throw him a party and celebrate with him. Get on with your life and forget him.
Nyx Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 My MM and I have had NC for 15 days...I was finally fed up with the "lines and lies". He has tried many times to contact me, but I'm not calling back, nor answering his im's. His birthday is coming up in 3 days...do I wish him Happy Birthday at least? Thoughts???? What would you do?? My take on this is not so much to do with no contact at all costs, but about the sentiment behind the message. If he's been lying to you and leading you on, do you want him to have a "happy" birthday with his wife? You probably don't want him to have a bad birthday, but at this early stage you may not be comfortable with the idea of him going out with his wife (or whatever he plans to do) and having a brilliant time without giving you a second thought! I'm assuming if he did think about you, he might not be totally happy if he's lost someone he wanted for whatever reason. Ask yourself if you really believe the sentiment behind the message - if you don't, then are you only sending it to remind him what he is missing on his birthday, or are you doing it in the secretive hope he will respond to you in some way?
pureinheart Posted April 21, 2007 Posted April 21, 2007 Personally sunflower, I would suggest to stay completely away from him....it's like a drug, take it again and your hooked. Search your heart and see if contacting him on his b-day is just a way to talk to him.....
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