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Hey everyone,

 

I know we all have our own problems but I was wondering for a little insight on a situation as I am new to this. Me and my first love broke up approx 8 months ago. She cheated I tried to hang on but the relationship wasnt the same. I did not have the heart to leave her, we ended up hanging out until she met someone else who she is with now. We went thru cycles of talking and getting angry and then not talking. I finally realized not talking anymore is the only way to move on as it is so over. After being with this guy for months she would still call me crying and what not so I guess I was just a sucker. I havent spoken to her in a month and deep down I have this hope she will contact me is that bad? I feel like I should be over this by now and it has me in such a rut. She has been in all my dreams lately it is so strange. Will it just take time to heal, should I go seek help from a therapist, any advice would be great. thanks so much.

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You need to get over this. This gal LEFT YOU....she JUMPED SHIP...she CHEATED on you. What do you want her to do, buy a minute spot during the Super Bowl to tell you YOU AREN'T THE ONE FOR HER???

 

The best thing you can do is cease all contact and start getting out. The only way you're going to find true love, love that hangs in there through thick and thin and doesn't cheat on you, is to open your heart to the experience. As long as this chick is heavy on your mind, you don't have a chance in hell of finding somebody else.

 

She is a DUD and will use you and abuse you if you let her. Chicks like her like to have a guy like you to snap back to in between relationships. Somebody put up a quote recently which I really love...don't know who said it...but it went something like this: "Never make someone a priority in your life who sees you only as an option."

 

Memorize that quote and go in peace!

Posted

Definitely do what Tony says.

 

You need to cut off all contact, it's only delaying your progress of moving on.

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RE:

 

You should the following 2 things, Heynowwww:

 

Ingrain this into your head, because you are your own boss and no one can hold your hand through these type of tough times.

 

(A) Go out and have fun. Meet other women, and enjoy yourself -your freedom. There is nothing chaining you down, now, and you should take advantage of that.

 

(B) You will, someday, have an epiphany and at that moment you will realize that she is no longer resting in your heart, and that there are better women and things to look forward to. Another woman will come into your life, bringing happiness and trust once again. This will take time.

 

You will heal -your heart won't hurt and ache like it used to.

 

Time takes time. Believe in yourself, and have some hope!

 

Live your life, and great things will come your way!

Sand&Water

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