my boyfriend cant stand my mother!

[alize505]

i dont know what to do, and i am so upset. recently me and my boyfriend met up with my parents in califronia for a family trip. i was very excited about the whole thing because it was going to give the four of us a chance to be become closer as a unit. You see, about 6 months ago, i moved from my hometown to about 800 miles away, to live with my boyfriend. it wasnt easy for my mom, since we have always been close, but she has been dealing with it. And she liked my boyfriend and knew him for years so she felt better because of that. well anway, the whole trip was going great up until our last couple of days there. on one of our last days there, my boyfriend wanted to use the rental car, which we were told was in my stepfathers and my boyrfriends name before we got there. my stepfather had arranged it this way, so that we wouldnt have to spend money on a rental car. well it turns out, that my stepfather wasnt able to get it done with my boyfriends name on it, so we couldnt use the car. I am 22, and my boyfriend is 23, so we kind of felt like little kids in the back seat, so my boyrfriend started getting a little annoyed, this is where my mom comes in. She is a teacher so she can be a little overbearing and has a tendency to treat me like a child, so she had a tendency to talk to my boyfriend that way as well. well anyway, he got really annoyed by a comment she made to him about her coming to visit for my birthday, and she epected him to have a party for me, and she expected his family to be there as well. he took this like she thinks of herself as a queen. Like i mentioned before my mother comes across as a little over bearing , and sometimes comes across strong, but she doesnt have bad intentions. well my boyfriend decided to speak to everyone else but my mom for the rest of the trip, which made me and her feel extremely awkward. then he got even more upset when my mother whispered to my step father about something, which made him uncomfortable. well anyway, the rest of the trip with my parents was prety uch ruined, but it was fine once we were alone, but he was really upset and annoyed,and it made me feel horrible, its been over a week since weve been back, and everything has been great in my relationship. the only thing is now my mom is upset and hurt by how he ignored her, and now feels horrible, and now i feel horrible, and i dont want anyone to be upset, and the problem is we live so far that its not like i could invite my mom for dinner to resolve the issue, i just want everyone to get along, and im so afraid to lose either of them i love them both in different ways. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!