Trialbyfire Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 No matter how hard it is, I will go NC to get her to talk to me. Or atleast, increase my chances haha. NO!! Do not go NC for a game of getting her back. She has asked for space. Give her the space that she has asked for. If she contacts you, respond politely. This is called low contact or LC. NC is to heal with. If you go NC, you go all the way and move on with your life. NC is to break an addiction as quickly as possible, although it can be incredibly painful. People have tried using NC as a weapon or tool to get back with someone. We even had one member who ended up needing therapy because they were hoping and wishing the other party would give in and take them back.
frd150 Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 NO!! Do not go NC for a game of getting her back. She has asked for space. Give her the space that she has asked for. If she contacts you, respond politely. This is called low contact or LC. NC is to heal with. If you go NC, you go all the way and move on with your life. NC is to break an addiction as quickly as possible, although it can be incredibly painful. People have tried using NC as a weapon or tool to get back with someone. We even had one member who ended up needing therapy because they were hoping and wishing the other party would give in and take them back. Hey Trial, I have to agree with you on this. I have had conflicting advice given to me about this. Those that are closest to her agree with you and those that know her only thru me say cut the cord if it is ment to be it will and so on. Mike- do you still talk to anyone close to her maybe this will help you get a better read on how to proceed. Be careful though this can backfire. Make sure you can trust the person. Also do not overly involve this person in your situation. Some on here may disagree with doing this and i can respect that because it is risky. In my situation i was lucky. After finding out what i did i was able to think about the situation with a clearer head. Had i done Complet N/C it would have been game over for me. With what i know now and the time that has passed i will be able to move on knowing that i did everything i could if it does nt work out. Work on yourself in the process. Do not obcess (easier said than done i know) but you have to try.
Author MikeC Posted April 19, 2007 Author Posted April 19, 2007 If I tried to pry information, it would backfire. I just know it would happen. I'm not going to risk it. She said she wanted space 15 days ago. I contacted her the first few days. I was in a different mindstate than I am in now. I myself have only gone NC with her for 5 days now. She wanted it from the beginning. Today would have been 5 months together. I wanted to just send a text. But I resist, as always. I made a big mistake yesterday. My friend has her as a friend on MySpace, but I don't. She took me off. Her profile is private, so. I used his, with him there, to look at hers. I saw new pics she took. Some of them looked like she was sad or down. But seeing them made me teary-eyed. After that, vowed I wouldn't look at her profile again. I'm talking to a few other girls. Mostly from MySpace. Keepin my mind busy. Damn, NC really does suck when you still want that other person.
Trialbyfire Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 Hey Trial, I have to agree with you on this. I have had conflicting advice given to me about this. Those that are closest to her agree with you and those that know her only thru me say cut the cord if it is ment to be it will and so on. Mike- do you still talk to anyone close to her maybe this will help you get a better read on how to proceed. Be careful though this can backfire. Make sure you can trust the person. Also do not overly involve this person in your situation. Some on here may disagree with doing this and i can respect that because it is risky. In my situation i was lucky. After finding out what i did i was able to think about the situation with a clearer head. Had i done Complet N/C it would have been game over for me. With what i know now and the time that has passed i will be able to move on knowing that i did everything i could if it does nt work out. Work on yourself in the process. Do not obcess (easier said than done i know) but you have to try. Good advice. Give her space. Do not crowd her. Focus on yourself and strengthen, strengthen, strengthen (emotionally and, physically if you're using the gym to supplement).
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