Guest Posted April 18, 2007 Posted April 18, 2007 I have been having ups and downs with a long distance boyfriend for a while....We had kind of agreed to "do our own thing" for a while and then see how things go when we meet again.. Well the shock came last night while I was browsing this dating site which is not in English (a local site in the country he lives). I was not shocked to see he had a profile on the site, but was devasted to see he had used 2 photographs that had been taken while we were together: One had been of us at a restaurant and he had cut me out, but you could still see some blonde hair on his shirt! The other was one I'd taken of him. then there was a third one of his own. I called him up at work and told him I'd discovered the site and the photos and he said, "I have no idea what you're talking about..I don't remember." So I told him the name of the site and the photos, and again he said, "People can do all kinds of things on the internet" as if to say that he was not responsible for this. "If it upsets you then don't look there," he said. I emailed him the profile page along with my photos asking him if he would mind removing the photos taken during the time we were together, and to please use his own photos for these purposes. Do you think I have reason to be hurt and upset? He wrote back saying I was looking for "nonsense" everywhere and that he thought I was bored and should find something more creative to do. I replied saying: Is it "nonsense" to feel hurt and upset to find out that the man I love(ed??) used a photograph of us for a dating site, cutting out my face, when we were very happy together? Do you have any sensitivity in you? I am so shocked about this I have not slept all night. I just had this wierd gut feeling so I checked out dating sites where he lives. He probably never thought I would see this as it is written in a foreign alphabet, but I managed to navigate my way thru with my limited understanding of his language. Has this happened to anyone else? Even though things with us were on shakey grounds, do you think it is appropriate for him to use these photos on a dating site?
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