Canaboy33 Posted April 18, 2007 Posted April 18, 2007 Broke No Contact and Argued...help !!! Okay..here it is quick and fast...Was in a year and a half relationship with my ex...broke up over communication issues (she stated I never opened up enough which led to sometimes meaningless arguments)..so we broke up in February and were doing the on and off no contact during that time..By April I got real good at not contacting her especially after how cold she would seem, but she texted me 2 weeks ago saying Hi and how hard the break up was for her too..I was vulnerable and do want her back so I replied that I know and agreed to her open invite for coffee...didnt hear from her for another two weeks but texted her two days ago asking why she wanted to go for coffee...she replied that she was missing me and had been "selfish" in not following up (by the way if anyone can explain the "selfish" comment I would appreciate it...anyways,I told her that if we meet we need to hash out what are issues are and not meet just to catch up..she didnt reply until the next day when she said that she didnt know how to take that and that she would call me that night...so she did,last night and I basically played it cool trying to allow her to talk...She said she didnt know what to say (even tho she just said she wanted to catch up) and when I tried to talk to her about the reason why she said she was missing me, she got defensive saying that it was a weak moment and said that she didnt want to get back together..this from the same person who when we broke up and I gave back her key had told me that I'm taking our "break" way to serious and that there is still something there between us!!...so I got frustrated last night and went off on her and told her to never me again ever!!...Just can't understand how she can be so close to me then in an instant be so different..Dont know what to do?? actually I do, but still love her!! Is it done or is there hope?? Help! PS She had also slipped in her conversation with me last night, and mentioned a friend (who I suspected had been involved in counselling her on our situation)...it was a slip on her part and as soon as she brought up her name she immediately changed the subject and got extra defensive...not sure on how this plays into things but can't help but feel that this friend is hindering any progression with us! The ex had before mentioned (while we were together) how this friend went through a similar situation with her current boyfriend and I cant help but feel that she is feeding her a blueprint thinking everyone is the same and will react the same way...and that she,the ex, is buying in to this...does anyone have any ideas on how to handle this?? or better yet is there anything that I can even do!?
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