Aquarian Posted April 17, 2007 Posted April 17, 2007 I'd been with this girl for almost 11 months. We were great together. NEVER had big fights. We always worked things out. We were great together sexually, also. Granted, there were some things she didn't like to do sexually, but I tried to look past that. I don't think that was the problem though... I began looking at other girls in a sexual way. I'd started flirting and seeking. I began thinking I could "find someone more attractive". But I trusted this girl with everything. I knew she would never be unfaithful and would always be there for me, no matter what. Her only downsides were: she was shy in social situations, she wasn't the most attractive girl in the world, but she was very pretty. So now I find myself - a week later - single, and NOT looking. I'm not flirting and not seeking. I don't get it. I miss her. So much. And when I think of my future, I wish I could see her in it. She'd be a wonderful wife and mother. Now, I am still young. 19. She is 18. But I feel that she was (or is) the one. And when you feel that, you don't want to come to terms with having willingly gotten rid of that. What do I do? I want her back. But I don't think I can get her back. Before I broke it off with her totally, we'd taken a break and I'd broken up with her. We got back together for two weeks and then I did this. I think she's had enough. And I don't believe I deserve another chance. But I can't help wanting one. We still talk and it seems like there may be something there... I don't know what to do...
VirtualInsanity Posted April 17, 2007 Posted April 17, 2007 Does she feel the same way? Why do you keep breaking up w/ her?
uRabbit Posted April 18, 2007 Posted April 18, 2007 Does she feel the same way? Why do you keep breaking up w/ her? Because at times I want someone more attractive, I guess. But why? To have a trophy to showcase around? It's something I need to work out before I get into another relationship. And she feels that we both need time, and that if it's meant to be, it will be.
fallendisguise Posted April 18, 2007 Posted April 18, 2007 So are you attracted to her? If not, then that's not something I think you have the power to change. If you are attracted to her, but you want someone more attractive I would ask yourself why and if the answer to that is really all that important. Is it something like you're friends say you can do better or they don't think she's attractive or something like that? If that's the case, who cares if they find her attractive as long as you do. Yeah, you can go out and find some hot bangin' chic, but she could end up not having any qualities that your girl had and then you'd be wanting that. I think she is right. You should take a little time off. Keep in touch, but take things slow. That will give you an idea as to whether or not a really hot girl is that important to you and it will also tell you just how much you really want to be with her. It's natural to want to get back with someone when you think of how great they were and how comfortable things were. So if you give it time, it will allow you to realize whether or not you really want to be with HER or if it's just the relationship you're missing. Also, maybe ask yourself if you felt there was anything missing in the relationship. That's usually what makes people go out and seek something else and you could just be using her looks as the excuse to do that. Know what I mean? Obviously you spent 11 months with her, so why would it bother you now? Are you sure it's not something bigger because you keep breaking up with her?
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