john 07 Posted April 17, 2007 Posted April 17, 2007 My ex and I have been togather for almost 7 years. She broke it off b/c I wasnt changing into a better person. I also didnt give enough lovey dovey stuff to her. A week later shes with a guy I know. how can she get over me that quickly after 7 years??? Or is she not even over me?? If shes not over me why is she with a new guy. I knoe he giving her all the emotional needs and she says shes happy. Is this a rebound, is this just emotional attachment, I dont get it. How can a person move on after 7 years just like that??? very confused.
Guest Posted April 18, 2007 Posted April 18, 2007 sorry John, from the looks of it sounds like she had excuses and theis guy was in the picture before then.
District Posted April 18, 2007 Posted April 18, 2007 i agree with guest up there^ i was in a similar situation, not that i was cheating on my loser boyfriend at the time but i was with this guy for 2 years and i spent the last 8 months trying to break up with him. my heart was already out of it. to my boyfriend the break up came as a surprise but that guy drove me nuts. i felt i was more like his mother instead of his girlfriend but anyways... maybe to your girlfriend this break up was already planned, she just had to scrape up enough guts to break it to you.
AFarAwayPlace Posted April 18, 2007 Posted April 18, 2007 My ex and I have been togather for almost 7 years. She broke it off b/c I wasnt changing into a better person. I also didnt give enough lovey dovey stuff to her. A week later shes with a guy I know. how can she get over me that quickly after 7 years??? Or is she not even over me?? If shes not over me why is she with a new guy. I knoe he giving her all the emotional needs and she says shes happy. Is this a rebound, is this just emotional attachment, I dont get it. How can a person move on after 7 years just like that??? very confused. John, I have these same complaints with my boyfriend, whom I've been with going on 12 years now.. I will say this, it may be fresh and new for you but more than likely, emotionally, she moved on further back then you're aware of, meaning she's had time, waited to see if it got better then finally put her foot down and left. I know it hurts and I'm sorry you're hurting. I hope my answer helps a bit, from someone going through the same thing with her man. I wrote him a letter and we're working on it though. I could just as well get up and leave and not look back but I want to try.
Dubb Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 I think it depends. She could just be caught up in the new of it all. Wait till the new phase wears off and then we will see. She will be stuck with new issues and a relationship to work on. That is when she will decide if it's worth staying involved with the new guy. My advice is to not worry about her but work on you.
LakesideDream Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 Typical tatic. Women usually have a "back up" waiting in the wings to take over when they walk away... for whatever reason. Her excuse was pretty strange though.. I guess the old adage is true. Men chose women and hope they will never change. Woman chose men with a list of things they want to change in them.
Sadcakesleo Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 I feel for you man. My ex left me after three years and it looks like shes going back to her boyfriend she had before me. I feel surprised that she left me but when I really think about it I could see that she probably was out awhile ago. You have to think about the time leading up to the breakups. Were the I love yous said, did u spend the same amount of ime together? was the sex still there? If none of it was like it used to then I believe that she cut out of the relationship awhile back. Unfortunately since I am currently going through the same thing I really don't know what to do either. I CAN tell NOT to get crazy and call her all the time or text her or tell her you love her, it wil only push her away. trust me from my experiences and if you read other threads them to. I know it is tough man but try and be strong.
buffalobill Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 I am going through the same thing. My ex GF and I were together for 3.5 years and then she met this new dude. Her complaint was that i did not wine & dine her enough. I would have loved to do more, but I was saving for a ring and new home for us, and could not afford to do it all. Her new guy of two monthes wines and dines her but I hear that he is running out of money and burning up the the credit cards on her. This is what she equates with happiness. The honeymoon could be coming to and end. Hang tough! If you a good guy to her, she will remember, but her pride may get in the way of getting back together. My question to you which I ask my self everyday is "Could it ever be the same again with this girl? Could you ever repect yourself agian if you took her back?
Sal Paradise Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 My ex and I have been togather for almost 7 years. She broke it off b/c I wasnt changing into a better person. I also didnt give enough lovey dovey stuff to her. A week later shes with a guy I know. how can she get over me that quickly after 7 years??? Or is she not even over me?? If shes not over me why is she with a new guy. I knoe he giving her all the emotional needs and she says shes happy. Is this a rebound, is this just emotional attachment, I dont get it. How can a person move on after 7 years just like that??? very confused. She was cheating on you with this guy, thats how. She's probably been seeing him on the side for weeks or even months. You're better off without her.
leeharvey Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Unfortunately its true, she would have been sleeping with this guy for a while. It was an exit affair. Im going through the same thing right now. My ex was cheating on me for 5 months before i found out, now when i try to talk to her about my heartache she doesn't give a ****, she emotionally was out of the relationship months ago and didn't have the guts to tell me she wasn't happy. Just be comforted in knowing that its very common for women to use exit affairs so you are not alone. Stick with the no contact and start opening your eyes to all the other cute girls that are around that could be much more compatible than you ex ever was. You will be happy again.
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