norajane Posted April 18, 2007 Posted April 18, 2007 Yes but the guy comes back saying, "don't you trust me?" If you do then you have to trust him enough to not do anything stupid right? I don't like having to answer the question. You answer: I don't trust ex relationships because there was some chemistry that brought you together, and you are still very intimate, and that makes me uncomfortable. Please respect my feelings and please spend less time with her and talking to her. Take my EX, he had girls all over. Chatted on IMs, e-mails, in person, ect...list goes on. I didn't like it because they liked him "more then friends." I couldn't tell him to now be friends w/ anyone w/out sounding controlling. I know to many people who r friends w/ ex's/girls. What am I suppost to do, not date them? Put restrictions? Tell them they must stop all contact when them? Doesn't seem fair because the relationship might not last & I made him end friendships. It's confusing.You don't have to tell him not to be friends with people and stop all contact You can ask him to consider your feelings and ask him to minimize the time he spends chatting with other women out of respect for your relationship. If he continues chatting as much as before, if he keeps seeing those other women as much as before, then he's making a choice on what is most important - having his stable of women around. There honestly is no reason why a guy with a girlfriend needs to have so many friend-girls in his life unless he's always got one eye open to lining the next girlfriend up. He certainly doesn't need to devote so much of his free time to them. Does he? Do you devote that much of yourself and your time to ex boyfriends?
Author VirtualInsanity Posted April 19, 2007 Author Posted April 19, 2007 Listen to your gut. Your ex sounds like the type of guy who enjoyed the ego stroking of having multiple women wanting him. You'll find that many of these guys have self-esteem issues and are only biding their time before they "trade up" or go beyond the boundaries of what's decent. Consider yourself lucky that you got away. Yes he LOVED it! We'd be talking & all of a sudden they would butt in & he let them. Me I was like "helloooooooo!!!"
Author VirtualInsanity Posted April 19, 2007 Author Posted April 19, 2007 You answer: I don't trust ex relationships because there was some chemistry that brought you together, and you are still very intimate, and that makes me uncomfortable. Please respect my feelings and please spend less time with her and talking to her. You don't have to tell him not to be friends with people and stop all contact You can ask him to consider your feelings and ask him to minimize the time he spends chatting with other women out of respect for your relationship. If he continues chatting as much as before, if he keeps seeing those other women as much as before, then he's making a choice on what is most important - having his stable of women around. There honestly is no reason why a guy with a girlfriend needs to have so many friend-girls in his life unless he's always got one eye open to lining the next girlfriend up. He certainly doesn't need to devote so much of his free time to them. Does he? Do you devote that much of yourself and your time to ex boyfriends? Makes sense & no, I don't devote ANY time. That is why I started this thread. I have hard time understanding how people can & want to.
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