almostthere Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 My friend and her bf went out this weekend. They both got smashed. Her normally very loving, attentive, respectful bf turned into something she never saw coming. he has always made her feel like he only is attracted to her. He changes the channel when Girls Gone Wild comercials come on and wont watch 30 seconds of a hot chick when Spike shows that. She does the same in return for him. But...when they got home she wasnt feeling well and went to bed and passed out. he stayed awake and rented Girls Gone Wild and then some other porn which he watched for about 20 minutes then went into the bedroom woke her up for sex. She found out about it the next day and was crushed. he swears he doesnt know why he did it and that he loves her and doesnt feel the need to see anyone else naked but her. But yet he still did it. Luckily, he was drunk and that makes it easier but she is now questioning the motives behind it. Why would someone who never does this...do such a thing? What should i tell her to make her feel better? Could he really have turned into someone he is not? or did being drunk give him the courage to rent the movie he always wanted to see?
Enema Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 It's hard work maintaining the act that you don't ever want to see hot chicks around your girlfriend. Alcohol makes it even harder and when drunk he did what he wanted to do. What can you tell her to make her feel better? Easy: There's nothing wrong with him looking at porn, it has nothing to do with the relationship or her. She needs to accept it as normal, harmless fun and not let her insecurities damage what appears to be a fine relationship.
Lezbean Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 Ugh, I feel sorry for the poor guy. Jesus Christ he can't even watch commercials. She needs to stop being so jealous and insecure. Those are ugly, ugly traits. So what if he watched porn and got a little randy. At least he went in and made love to her. The girlfriend sounds like a needy, spoiled, jealous insecure baby.
Author almostthere Posted April 16, 2007 Author Posted April 16, 2007 Well...its not her. She finds it odd as in all the other relationships porn has never been an issue and many men have been open with who they find attractive and that has always been ok with her. HE is the one who chooses to be this way around her. She is hot and she knows it. She cannot walk into a bar and not get hit on by men and women all the time. She has a good head on her shoulders and she has a healthy ego. She has always thought of him as insecure (as he always told herhe was) and has been working hard for two years to make him feel great about himself, which she has done and continues to do so. The point was is that it was so out of character for him. She was wondering if there was an underlying issue, like unhappiness, or something. I did talk to her a few minutes ago and things are going great again. Seems it brought them together. She was joking and saying at least now she can watch guys gone wild and not feel guilty. She even asked him to join her.
Author almostthere Posted April 16, 2007 Author Posted April 16, 2007 You know...I just read what i wrote... What if the reason he looks away from beautiful women is because of his own insecurity and he doesnt want to make her feel the way he feels if she were to look at another attractive man? he has never said anything like that but i find that interesting..... And...when she first started dating him she found this behavior odd and asked him about it and he said its just the way he is. She never says anything either way about this behavior anymore. She just accepts it for him being him.
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