DanielMadr Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 Men and women are equal but different. A relationship is like a balanced scale. When one person takes/gives too much, the scale becomes unbalanced and sooner or later...falls over. This ends the relationship. So when one puts out a weight named sex, then...... You know there is the problem....you say your weight named sex is 1kg but for your partner it has 3kg. And you state that you are equal so it is 1kg b/c his weight named sex is 1kg. And you have a problem. You are equal on paper but it doesnt work in real life.
Trialbyfire Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 So when one puts out a weight named sex, then...... You know there is the problem....you say your weight named sex is 1kg but for your partner it has 3kg. And you state that you are equal so it is 1kg b/c his weight named sex is 1kg. And you have a problem. You are equal on paper but it doesnt work in real life. Equal but different. Btw, by the time he's my partner, the weight named sex equals 3kg per person... When commitment equals 5kg on my side and 1kg on his side, you can bet the scale will crash and burn. Hand me that can of gasoline and the lighter please.
DanielMadr Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 Equal but different. Btw, by the time he's my partner, the weight named sex equals 3kg per person... When commitment equals 5kg on my side and 1kg on his side, you can bet the scale will crash and burn. Hand me that can of gasoline and the lighter please. And thats why we have dominant males. They approach you, they kiss you and they take the lighter out of your hands. Little girls shouldnt play with fire;)
Trialbyfire Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 And thats why we have dominant males. They approach you, they kiss you and they take the lighter out of your hands. Little girls shouldnt play with fire;) That's why dominating males shouldn't try to put down intelligent females who can see beyond the condescension...
Author SouthernT Posted April 19, 2007 Author Posted April 19, 2007 That's why dominating males shouldn't try to put down intelligent females who can see beyond the condescension... LMAO!!! :lmao: Sorry Daniel, you deserved that one. You give people a pretty hard time on here too. And you talk about me......you're the "unbalanced Budha" too. lol..
David Lewis Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 Some men feel the same way. Avoiding objectification is a concern for both sexes. Sweetscarlet wrote: This makes it sound like a bartering agreement, not a relationship and when women hear that kind of talk, they run. Women don't want to feel like they are exchanging their body for something or have to compensate when not exhanging their body for something. This makes women feel like objects.
David Lewis Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 If a guy's batting 1 out of 1000, time to step up his game. Topper wrote: a4a, Now that is the difference between men and woman. A woman could say ask a guy for sex only and out of 100 times she might get turned down once. If a guy did that he might get one yes out of asking a woman for sex thousand times. The rest of the time he would be getting at best " Your disgusting" or a slap on the face.
Topper Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 You know I have had to rethink this whole question. I have ask woman just to sleep with me! No I didn't get a kick in a rather tender area. Yes it did work! the key here is Alcohol! I was honest direct and a bit drunk. She was honest direct and maybe even more drunk. Of course one or the other or both of you might wake in the morning thinking Oh my god what did I just do!
Green Posted April 19, 2007 Posted April 19, 2007 Look I answered your question, the question your really trying to ask and you got all high and mighty on me. Men dont only want sex thats the pure and simple truth because if thats all they wanted every women would be a sex slave and we'd sell and trade you like living property. No what people really want is to live a life thats comfortable and enjoyable and that they feel apart of. If your looking for a person in this world to meet you and in the very begining proclaim I'll always be there for you, and have it turn out to be the truth Im sorry but you'll never have that. Your bonds with people will grow over time, I'm sorry you keep getting rejected
Rewind Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 looks have nothing to do with being in a relationship or not. Half the people I see are gross and yet attached..beggers can't be choosers you know lol. And yes sometimes men and women alike just want to get laid. And it might that be the person per say and all the things wrong with them..it could be you just don't want a relatinship at that point in time or anything serious. And yes of course all guys want sex..and I don't think it matters what the women looks like bc some guys treat women as just another wet hole so what's the difference.
sweetscarlet Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 I agree. When she stated she wants connection and he offers none, its hit&run case or he needs intimacy of other kind to open up himself. In most cases its hit&run (he doesnt find her attractive enough to date her) and should be avoided. I really don't get this part you say about how he doesn't find her attractive enough to date her. First of all, in the example I gave, they ARE dating. But even if they weren't and it was a one-night stand, it still does not mean that he didn't find her attractive enough to date her. Let's look at this from a different perspective...... Maybe...just maybe...he has problems getting close to people. Or maybe he has problems when a woman is too nice to him. Or any number of reasons. It alarms me though that you base his behavior on HER attractiveness. When I hear that, red flags are waving all around and sirens are going off. That is a viewpoint that you need to really put some time into figuring out for yourself. I really, really recommend it. Woman's pace is a problem. Women expect men are mind readers. Non verbal signals are hard to decode....there is too much acting, pretending and CONFUSION especially if woman has that problem not being sure if she should be asexual or sexual or whatever. Do you copy? No, not really. If a man tries to go further and a woman discourages him, pushes his hands away, moves farther away from him, tells him they need to slow down or tells him "no", then that's not very hard to decode. She might want to still cuddle with him though. In fact, she DOES want to still cuddle with him because if he doesn't want to cuddle after she says no, she's going to think that all he wanted was sex. But then the guy thinks that she still wants to cuddle/be close so she must be giving me the go-ahead. WRONG!!! This is where the miscommunication comes in. It seems that some guys think that being close means being close all the way and that's not what women think. So if you're saying that things are confusing to you then just pay attention to what I'm saying here and it shouldn't be confusing anymore.
Author SouthernT Posted April 20, 2007 Author Posted April 20, 2007 I really don't get this part you say about how he doesn't find her attractive enough to date her. First of all, in the example I gave, they ARE dating. But even if they weren't and it was a one-night stand, it still does not mean that he didn't find her attractive enough to date her. Let's look at this from a different perspective...... Maybe...just maybe...he has problems getting close to people. Or maybe he has problems when a woman is too nice to him. Or any number of reasons. It alarms me though that you base his behavior on HER attractiveness. Sweetscarlet....thanks. This a very good point. And I think some men take off because they know that the girl standing in front of him WOULD be good for him and he know's deep down that he can't (or doesnt want to) reciprocate. So it's not always a case of HER attractive enough to date. And thats were my frustration comes from with some of the men on this thread. They assume that this guy didnt find me "attractive" enough to date instead of saying maybe the guy has issues within himself right now. Its not always HER issue/fault. And on the other hand, YES I will admit that if you keep doing the same things and you keep getting negative results....then YES it is time to step back and do a self-assesment.
sweetscarlet Posted April 21, 2007 Posted April 21, 2007 Sweetscarlet....thanks. This a very good point. And I think some men take off because they know that the girl standing in front of him WOULD be good for him and he know's deep down that he can't (or doesnt want to) reciprocate. So it's not always a case of HER attractive enough to date. And thats were my frustration comes from with some of the men on this thread. They assume that this guy didnt find me "attractive" enough to date instead of saying maybe the guy has issues within himself right now. Its not always HER issue/fault. And on the other hand, YES I will admit that if you keep doing the same things and you keep getting negative results....then YES it is time to step back and do a self-assesment. Please don't go assuming it's your attractiveness. Just take a look at all of the supermodels and actresses who have men leave them. Is Heather Locklear unattractive? Do we think the problem is with her or do we think it's with those husbands she picks. Looking at the two husbands she's had....call me crazy but I'm going to go with the husbands being the ones with the problems....... But it would be ridiculous to say that they left her because she wasn't attractive enough. And not only that, it's such a sexist thing for a man to say. But this doesn't exactly get you off the hook though...... You...like Heather....might be picking a certain type of man. I'm not saying that you do, but it's possible--- and THAT is definately something that I would look further into if I were you.
DanielMadr Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 I really don't get this part you say about how he doesn't find her attractive enough to date her. First of all, in the example I gave, they ARE dating. But even if they weren't and it was a one-night stand, it still does not mean that he didn't find her attractive enough to date her. Let's look at this from a different perspective...... Maybe...just maybe...he has problems getting close to people. Or maybe he has problems when a woman is too nice to him. Or any number of reasons. It alarms me though that you base his behavior on HER attractiveness. When I hear that, red flags are waving all around and sirens are going off. That is a viewpoint that you need to really put some time into figuring out for yourself. I really, really recommend it. You date guys, you find unattractive? I dont thunk so. We can debate what part of attractivness is more important for men like personality or looks. For the record....its looks in ratio approx. 7:3 . When he doesnt want to date you....he thinks you are not pretty enough FOR HIS PERSONAL TASTE or he things you are too bitchy or he has some major issues like testicles made of teflon or whatever. Bottom line is he doesnt find you attractive enough ro date you. He can find you attractive enough to shag you though. And thats a situation of hit and run. No, not really. If a man tries to go further and a woman discourages him, pushes his hands away, moves farther away from him, tells him they need to slow down or tells him "no", then that's not very hard to decode. She might want to still cuddle with him though. In fact, she DOES want to still cuddle with him because if he doesn't want to cuddle after she says no, she's going to think that all he wanted was sex. But then the guy thinks that she still wants to cuddle/be close so she must be giving me the go-ahead. WRONG!!! This is where the miscommunication comes in. It seems that some guys think that being close means being close all the way and that's not what women think. Yeah that is called confusing behaviour. You have no boyfriend then but a little CUDDLE-BIaTCH. In my experience when a girl is that confusing, its better to move on, b/c a guy ends up in two categories: 1) 'All he want is sex' 2) 'Why doesnt he want to have sex with me?' That girl doesnt know what she wants and yet she wants to keep a control. Its like Alabama redneck driving a car in Shanghai.
DanielMadr Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Please don't go assuming it's your attractiveness. Just take a look at all of the supermodels and actresses who have men leave them. Is Heather Locklear unattractive? Do we think the problem is with her or do we think it's with those husbands she picks. Looking at the two husbands she's had....call me crazy but I'm going to go with the husbands being the ones with the problems....... But it would be ridiculous to say that they left her because she wasn't attractive enough. And not only that, it's such a sexist thing for a man to say. But this doesn't exactly get you off the hook though...... You...like Heather....might be picking a certain type of man. I'm not saying that you do, but it's possible--- and THAT is definately something that I would look further into if I were you. Those models negate their beauty with their repeling personality. They can be very bitchy, non-flexible with no integrity and it is partly b/c they are in demand. She has 10 other men waiting for her. Sexist but true. World works like that. You can join femi nazi and try to brain wash people or you can play accordingly. To ease your worries....you can be attractive enough for other men or he can have some issues. Its a good excuse but dont count on it everytime. Once you admit you are not the most attractive person in the world like your parents and grand parents told you, your life will be more easy and mature.
DanielMadr Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 LMAO!!! :lmao: Sorry Daniel, you deserved that one. You give people a pretty hard time on here too. And you talk about me......you're the "unbalanced Budha" too. lol.. Sure Im not over-weight, castrated intelectual made of gold. And Im happy Im not "balanced". Im a Man and happy with it. If I need a balance I pick up a Woman.
DanielMadr Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 That's why dominating males shouldn't try to put down intelligent females who can see beyond the condescension... Intelligent females? I wonder why some women have the need to state they are intelligent. B/c its not that common trait? Be aware...intelligence is not attractive trait. Wisdom, smartness and emotional stability is. Being intelligent alone is defined as being structured (being lost in the labyrinth of ones own brain)
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 All I want is sex??? I can say honestly sex is a heavy part pf my mindset. I imagine me doing nothing more than pleasing a woman sexually. Ramming into her hard from behind as she moans and pants. As she claws my back deep when I'm on top. As a ravage her against the wall standing up. As I grunt like an angry caveman fighting for his last meal. As I bite her on her throat with her flesh in my mouth. I feel good because it is a relase for me. Hopefully for her to feel good as well. But sometimes all that passion and emotion. You do want to feel for somebody else. Men catch feelings to, were' just loathe to admit it. lol. It's scary for a man to fall in love because when he does he is open and that scares him. But sex shouldnt be viewed at like just an animal act by people. Men can seperate sex and love. When it's sex it's good, but when it's sex and love it's great.
AFarAwayPlace Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Intelligent females? I wonder why some women have the need to state they are intelligent. B/c its not that common trait? Be aware...intelligence is not attractive trait. Wisdom, smartness and emotional stability is. Being intelligent alone is defined as being structured (being lost in the labyrinth of ones own brain) After reading all this thread, I do agree with your thoughts on this subject, Daniel, you're very down to earth and realistic and tell it like it is. All I want is sex??? I can say honestly sex is a heavy part pf my mindset. I imagine me doing nothing more than pleasing a woman sexually. Ramming into her hard from behind as she moans and pants. As she claws my back deep when I'm on top. As a ravage her against the wall standing up. As I grunt like an angry caveman fighting for his last meal. As I bite her on her throat with her flesh in my mouth. I feel good because it is a relase for me. Hopefully for her to feel good as well. But sometimes all that passion and emotion. You do want to feel for somebody else. Men catch feelings to, were' just loathe to admit it. lol. It's scary for a man to fall in love because when he does he is open and that scares him. But sex shouldnt be viewed at like just an animal act by people. Men can seperate sex and love. When it's sex it's good, but when it's sex and love it's great.Wow, that was hot. Anyway, I don't think all men just want sex. I think it's just a few bad apples in both genders, spoil the bunch. I know some men who come across very primal and tough but deep down, if they'll let you in, they have sweet, emotional sides they do seem to like a woman to acknowledge, at least in my experience. I don't think it's fair to lump them all in one group.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Thanks for noticing the hottness AFAP. It's true some guys are like that tough but soft deep down. Well let me rephrase that I think soft is too pansy. Let's say tough but warm.
Salicious Crumb Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 All I want is sex??? I can say honestly sex is a heavy part pf my mindset. I imagine me doing nothing more than pleasing a woman sexually. Ramming into her hard from behind as she moans and pants. Doggy style doesn't provide any direct contact with her clitoris....and I think if you ask most women, and I certainly can't speak for them, they don't like doggie style as much...and for that reason plus a lack of intimacy. They want to see your face.
whichwayisup Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Doggie style is good when a woman NEED that good thumping (No cervix punch though please!) It's pure sexual heat, animalistic almost - And SC is right, it isn't as intimiate as face to face is. Doggy style doesn't provide any direct contact with her clitoris. True, but a woman can balance herself on one arm or use pillows to prop herself up, that gives her a free hand.
Trialbyfire Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Intelligent females? I wonder why some women have the need to state they are intelligent. B/c its not that common trait? Be aware...intelligence is not attractive trait. Wisdom, smartness and emotional stability is. Being intelligent alone is defined as being structured (being lost in the labyrinth of ones own brain) Yup, I am intelligent. Any man who feels threatened by this, need not apply. How tragic for me...
DanielMadr Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Yup, I am intelligent. Any man who feels threatened by this, need not apply. How tragic for me... Not so intelligent guys are maybe theratened...I wonder why would they. The smarter ones see it as 'cry out of frustration' - lame excuse. Its like guy running around telling everybody he cant find a girl b/c he is so moral. In fact he is stuck up, stubborn, self-centered, cocky, insecure coward.
Trialbyfire Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Not so intelligent guys are maybe theratened...I wonder why would they. The smarter ones see it as 'cry out of frustration' - lame excuse. Its like guy running around telling everybody he cant find a girl b/c he is so moral. In fact he is stuck up, stubborn, self-centered, cocky, insecure coward. Whew, glad to hear that intelligent guys aren't threatened by this because those are the types of men I find incredibly sexy. The ones that are comfortable with their own intelligence, enough that they don't need to use mysogynistic aka player patter, in their attempts to dominate women.
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