honeybees28 Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 okay this is going to sound stupid and immature but i really have no clue what to do about my "ex" on myspace. (i almost wish i didnt have one.) i want him back dearly, in time. we broke up almost 2 months ago after a three year relationship. (his doing) i am still his #1 on myspace, and yet it hurts me to continue to have him on my friends list even though i love him. i am very torn. i dont want to continue to "check" on him... because its just making my healing slower... but yet if he sees that he is no longer on my friends list.. would that not push him farther away? i dont really want to do that. i need advice for this dumb little issue.
Adick Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 Yeah really, delete him from your friends and you will pop right off his #1. Problme solved
Author honeybees28 Posted April 16, 2007 Author Posted April 16, 2007 did you even read my post, or just the title? can you maybe explain your answer of why i should delete him? how will this have a positive effect on my situation? (being that i am still hoping for his return)
Ssheena Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 Hmm.. how can you "heal" and also still want him back? How about if you delete your entire myspace account? myspace is EVIL! If you take him off he can still see your page and you can still see his, so that's not going to solve anything. Did you change your status to "single" from being in a relationship? Did he? If he broke up with you, what makes you think that he is going to return? And why would you want him back? How about if you just make your profile private - delete him first. I really, really, really HATE myspace.
Adick Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 I did read the post. But if he broke it up, he broke it up. You pining away for a hopeful reunion is not productive. You too need to move along. He has. I do not think he consciously has kept you at #1--maybe he does not check it that often, or it just never crossed his mind.
tikster Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 this may not apply to your situation, but my boyfriend broke up with me (with bs reasons) and wanted us to be "good friends". i thought that we could make this work because "oh, we just broke up because of difficult circumstances, but we still love eachother" (super sarcasm) as the week went by i noticed him relacing me with this other girl. i saw his happy photos and change in status. i confronted him and then immediately deleted him and even though im curious, the fact that i can't see his happiness without me while i fell so low has helped soo much. i don't kno where my sanity would be right now if i had the ability to look at his profile. like i said, your situation may be different, trust me i kno its hard, but you should do it for yourself. if he wants to, he has other ways of contacting you (in fact, at this point, if he was decent he would contact you in person or by phone) or if anything just take him off your top list so u don't see him when u sign on and try not to go on myspace too often. get distracted
New Hope Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 Yes I agree myspace is the root of all evil....NO CONTACT HIS ASS...delete him from your friends list!!! what he does is none of your BUSINESS, just like what you do is NONE OF HIS BUSINESS,,so stop checking on him, remove any traces that reminds you of him....you need time to heal!! vanish on his ass, practice being aloof and apathy...distracted yourself trying new hobbies, start being busy..(treat him like a friend when he calls you dont call back right away give it a day or two or even longer, this rule only applys for every three times he calls!! do not contact him from your behalf at ALL!!)..no contact him for a month or longer, no txt, no emails, aim, no msn no nothing...date date date other people, keep light and fun...life to short to deal with bull****..u dont need someone to be happy, they only enhance it...with time u'll heal...remember will all come back just give it time, who knows within that time frame u meet someone much better or even want him back!! the fear of lost stops you from gaining something much greater...
Author honeybees28 Posted April 16, 2007 Author Posted April 16, 2007 i guess by keeping 'my space' available for him to see... somehow makes me sure that he will be able to see me.. see my new pictures.. see what he gave up.. it will be a reminder? otherwise.. he moved 3 hours away for a new job.. and CANNOT see me via any other means. out of sight out of mind? i dont really want that.. i want him to be reminded of who he left..
lorr Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 i guess by keeping 'my space' available for him to see... somehow makes me sure that he will be able to see me.. see my new pictures.. see what he gave up.. it will be a reminder? otherwise.. he moved 3 hours away for a new job.. and CANNOT see me via any other means. out of sight out of mind? i dont really want that.. i want him to be reminded of who he left.. You can put up all the pretty pictures that you have of yourself on myspace, but it won't make the slightest bit of difference to him whatsoever. He dumped you remember, so don't think that a picture of yourself is going to automatically let him see the light. Move on and be productive. Stop wasting your time on sh*t*y myspace.
New Hope Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 Forget him! he'll know what he lost! but gave it time....don't put to much focus on myspace is not worth it...just move on with yourself and not worry about wither he gonna look at ur page or not..u know he is going to...just worry about yourself and whats important to you..
2ndIINone Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 Hmm.. how can you "heal" and also still want him back? How about if you delete your entire myspace account? myspace is EVIL! If you take him off he can still see your page and you can still see his, so that's not going to solve anything. very true.... EVIL! I still believe Tom created the Top 8 to create drama and trouble in our lives. 90% of people use it as a dating site anyway... 5% for attention... 4% are afraid to admit it.... 1% for band/music purposes. Top 8 is nothing more then a way to F' with peoples minds and play games... You're better off deleting YOUR account. Out of Sight, Out of Mind? Hah! You delete your site.... he'll come calling. Guaranteed. But you don't want him anyway.... he broke up with you. He knows what he had/has... just by looking at your site. If you want him to miss and remember what he had, then delete your account OR block him if your Myspace means that much to your social life.
EricOnTheWeb Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 Hmm.. how can you "heal" and also still want him back? How about if you delete your entire myspace account? myspace is EVIL! If you take him off he can still see your page and you can still see his, so that's not going to solve anything. Did you change your status to "single" from being in a relationship? Did he? If he broke up with you, what makes you think that he is going to return? And why would you want him back? How about if you just make your profile private - delete him first. I really, really, really HATE myspace. Ssheena,you took the words out of my mouth lol...Myspace is really F#%#$ EVIL! Delete him and make your myspace private or get rid of it. If you keep it up all you're going to do is keep checking if you've slipped down from #1 on his friends list...You WILL drive yourself mad....Just get rid of it.
EricOnTheWeb Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 very true.... EVIL! I still believe Tom created the Top 8 to create drama and trouble in our lives. 90% of people use it as a dating site anyway... 5% for attention... 4% are afraid to admit it.... 1% for band/music purposes. Top 8 is nothing more then a way to F' with peoples minds and play games... You're better off deleting YOUR account. Out of Sight, Out of Mind? Hah! You delete your site.... he'll come calling. Guaranteed. But you don't want him anyway.... he broke up with you. He knows what he had/has... just by looking at your site. If you want him to miss and remember what he had, then delete your account OR block him if your Myspace means that much to your social life. Exactly! delete your account and watch the emails from him starting to pile your inbox....guaranteed hes a lookin in your myspace. Myspace=EVIL....Second11None....attention,bands,dating!! LMFAO!!
kel30 Posted April 17, 2007 Posted April 17, 2007 I just wonder how many relationships MY SPACE have destroyed! I'm not saying break ups would not happen in some cases eventually but...come on, this site IS so evil that it shouldn't exist! Honeybees....since I stopped checking my evil space account (which I don't miss it at all - I keep it for music purposes), my 'ex/still-date" started contacting me again. I guess your guy will pursue the relationship if he really wants to.But if it's meant to be over, I guess there's not much we can do....I'm in the same situation as you are, I just don't waste my time anymore! Be strong and DON'T check it as often, you'll feel better after a week!
2ndIINone Posted April 17, 2007 Posted April 17, 2007 Myspace is like a 24hr nightclub where everybody's guard is down... with no covercharge and everyone's own V.I.P section. Too much temptation... I just wonder how many relationships MY SPACE have destroyed! I'm not saying break ups would not happen in some cases eventually but...come on, this site IS so evil that it shouldn't exist!it played a big part in ruining a 9 year friendship I had with someone... she knew I had feelings for her and used pictures and the Top 8 to get certain reactions outta me.... eventually it worked... so I just deleted my account. We no longer talk.
Guest Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 I totally agree that myspace is THE evil and that it ruins relationships. I was in a relationship with this guy I had really strong feelings for. He was always checking his myspace on my computer and sometimes forgot to log off. This resulted in me getting into his account and inbox just to confirm messages from other girls I didn't want to see. I know it doesn't justify my actions, but why would anyone hide things like that from the person they are in a commited relatinoship with?! Myspace is not healthy!!!
iknowyouknow Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 I am in exactly the same situation as you...I know it sounds so trivial when you explain it to other people when you ask for help. I'm still in his top friends, when we first broke up he removed me but a couple of months ago put me right back at the top for some reason, but if I leave him on mine it just makes it too easy to check up on him with one click of the mouse. And I also think if he hasn't removed me does it mean he still has feelings for me? I think the easiest thing would be just to delete your myspace account, but I know thats sometimes hard because why should you delete your page, with your friends and photos on it, because of him....Its a catch 22 situation
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