soulseeker Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Anyone ever turn a one night stand or semi-one night stand into something more? More sex, a relationship, friendship? And, if you had a ONS and the sex was really good, would you necessarliy want to see that person again?
alextop30 Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 I am kinna interested what everyone gonna say to this - never had the one night stand - I was offered but I cannot immagine sleeping with a girl - absolutely no emotional attachment I kinna feel like you are using the person merely as means to an end which is immoral if you really think about it. I dont know if I ever will have the one night stand but do other people think that sex with emotional attachment is better the one night stand....
KKLULESS Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 For sex to be at its best, you must be insome kind of love with that person. emotionally attached with them. A one night stand is like a means of quick physical gratification... and this is where it ends. Like eating a lot of junk when you are ravenous and could eat up an elephant, uncooked!
Author soulseeker Posted April 15, 2007 Author Posted April 15, 2007 Yeah. I guess I dont know if what I had was technically a ONS. It was the third time we hung out, but it had always been in a group setting. All three times though, we talked alone together for almost the entire time. So it's not like I knew NOTHING about him. It was one of those times when you meet someone and it seems like you were meant to meet for some reason. Sparks, whatever. Anyway, thing is I have never done this before. I am 29 and this is the 3rd guy I have had sex with. The 1st where I wasnt in a serious relationship. And of course, now I like him more. And the sex was really good, really good. In the morning we had sex again. And it was really good. The whole situation felt really natural, it wasnt akward like I assumed a sitation like that would be. Then he asked for my phone number. How long do I give him to call before I write this off as just sex? And, would it be wierd for me to hang out at his house if he didnt invite me? He lives with my really good friend's bf and they have people over almost every night. Please help.
alextop30 Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Ok this is me with the so much experiance that you will laugh- I am kidding not that much experiance. If I was in the one night stand and didnt want to see you again was just for that night sex I probably will not call at all! But if I did really like you and it was not just sexually based I like you - I will pretty much call if not the same night or next day - if I am not sure but I did enjoy your company I call day after the next after I thought it over - clear my head from feelings. If it was just for the sex and I want more - same night will show up at ur door. I hope this helps - again hoping that someone else gives u advise too coz I dont have as much experiance as I want to in this field.
Author soulseeker Posted April 15, 2007 Author Posted April 15, 2007 Thanks Alex. Anyone else? I appreciate it.
chill chic Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 Anyone ever turn a one night stand or semi-one night stand into something more? More sex, a relationship, friendship? And, if you had a ONS and the sex was really good, would you necessarliy want to see that person again? here I have a true story for you... I met this guy one night, strikingly attractive so of course I wanted to get his attention. I stared at him as I walked by, he saw me and hung up the phone on whoever he was talking to as we locked eyes...so he invited me to his place for a party so I have no idea, but I followed him to his place yes very naive of me, but I guess I was in la la land. Anyway..he invited some other people over, had fun, drank, and then they left after awhile, and he wanted me to stay. So I did...and he asked me if we could have some of our own fun, and I told him that he'd think I was a whore if I slept with him the first night I met him. he told he wouldn't...but yah yah I'm sure he would say anything. So..we did our thing, we actually fell asleep in each other's arms and I woke up, with a hangover of course, and he asked for my number, then called my number and said he'd call me. Then I left. Later that day, he called me to see if I wanted to go out for coffee, but I was with my parents so I said I couldn't at the time. Then a few days later he called again, and then our non-commital, jealous issue, wishy washy, every week or weekend flings lasted for a year and a half until he had to move away. We said we loved each other once, but still nothing came out of it. I'm not sure if it was because he wasn't originally from here and wanted to move back home someday. But that's what ended it. And that was over 6 months ago that he moved. And it's been the hardest thing to get over I will tell you that. So my suggestion...make sure you're committed to someone that you are being intimate with...it's not worth the emotional stress
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