Woggle Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 A friend of my wife just found out that her husband is cheating on her with some Britney Spears look alike with maybe 2 live brain cells.. Now this woman looks 10 times better than Britney Spears and is a genuinely good women. She always praises her husband and would do anything to make him happy but he doesn't seem to appreciate it at all. He lost attraction to her and was tempted by some bimbo. Why does it seem that people of both genders who treat their mates well only have it blow up in their face? Does anybody appreciate when they something good anymore these days? This is why despite all the crap I talked in the past few days I truly will appreciate my wife. It is not easy to find somebody like this. We both promised to each other last night that neither one of us would ever do something like this to each other.
Pink Amulet Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Very few people die thinking it was an absolute pleasure staying with one person their entire life. And even fewer can say they left their wives for a Britney Spears look-a-like (we are talking pre-shaved head, panty-wearing, wholesome/sexy girl next door Britney right?). Anyway, it was his decision, or as Britney would say his "perogative" *roll eyes*, I am sure he will regret it when she can't figure out how to turn on the stove!
lindya Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 One day your wife will cheat on you I'm trying to work out whether I should imagine this being said a) As an "I detect a certain marital smugness in your pity for this woman...cut it out" warning booming Goddishly from the sky, or b) Inside a speech bubble emanating from a malicious sprite's mouth as it stirs a large pot of bubbling excrement. Perhaps Touche can assist with the visuals now that she's met you. Touche - where are you?
Author Woggle Posted April 15, 2007 Author Posted April 15, 2007 Of course it is pre-crazy Britney but still his wife is ten times better. I never got what was so great about Britney anyway. The fact she even became a star speaks volumnes about our culture.
alphamale Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 We both promised to each other last night that neither one of us would ever do something like this to each other. I find this hilarious....its like two high schoolers saying they'll love each other for ever and ever. No one knows what will happen tomorrow or 10 years down the road.
burning 4 revenge Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 I'm trying to work out whether I should imagine this being said a) As an "I detect a certain marital smugness in your pity for this woman...cut it out" warning booming Goddishly from the sky, or b) Inside a speech bubble emanating from a malicious sprite's mouth as it stirs a large pot of bubbling excrement. Perhaps Touche can assist with the visuals now that she's met you. Touche - where are you? LOL What Woggle has to understand is that women hate men. One day he will grow up and understand that they have evil natures and that their own pleasure can only be obtained through our pain. This is the legacy of feminism. I'm just trying to help out a naive and idealistic kid.
lindya Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 LOL What Woggle has to understand is that women hate men. One day he will grow up and understand that they have evil natures and that their own pleasure can only be obtained through our pain. This is the legacy of feminism. I'm just trying to help out a naive and idealistic kid. Let the boy alone, b4r. Yes he'll learn of the calculated vindictiveness of my gender, of the ways in which they hate your gender. Sure, one day that happy-go-lucky freckle-face is going to scrunch up with a sudden and sharp disappointment. I know he'll experience the grim satisfaction of ensuring that our spite and venom ricochet straight back into our own hearts. That those harsh lessons and bitter victories will bring with them a granite resolve to never gaze into another pair of eyes with anything beyond contempt and hostility. There may well be trouble ahead, but while there's moonlight, and music, and love and romaaaaaance....
norajane Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Why does it seem that people of both genders who treat their mates well only have it blow up in their face? Does anybody appreciate when they something good anymore these days? This is one of the most gender-neutral, non-vitriolic posts you've written, Woggle. I'm glad to see that you can recognize there are good women as well as good men, and bad men as well as bad women. Niether gender has the market cornered on bad behavior. As to the answer to your question, I think some people are broken and selfish and never try to correct that within themselves - they just go through life feeling entitled to whatever they want regardless of how it affects other people. And I think those who had the good things come easily to them often do not appreciate it as much as they should.
Trialbyfire Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Woggle, I like the phrase "good woman". It describes a basically decent woman instead of an idealized one where they are expected to be perfect or they get pushed off an imaginary pedestal. Both genders have a subportion that would cheat. There are those of us who would never do it for whatever reasons, be they practical or emotional.
Touche Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 I'm trying to work out whether I should imagine this being said a) As an "I detect a certain marital smugness in your pity for this woman...cut it out" warning booming Goddishly from the sky, or b) Inside a speech bubble emanating from a malicious sprite's mouth as it stirs a large pot of bubbling excrement. Perhaps Touche can assist with the visuals now that she's met you. Touche - where are you? I'd say it is closer to the second option.
IpAncA Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Of course it is pre-crazy Britney but still his wife is ten times better. I never got what was so great about Britney anyway. The fact she even became a star speaks volumnes about our culture. It doesn't matter what his W looks like. He's needs weren't being met and he found someone else who would. I'm so tired of people saying that well if my W looked that like I wouldn't cheat. Yeah freaking right. It doesn't matter how good looking they are. Needs are needs.
Touche Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 It doesn't matter what his W looks like. He's needs weren't being met and he found someone else who would. I'm so tired of people saying that well if my W looked that like I wouldn't cheat. Yeah freaking right. It doesn't matter how good looking they are. Needs are needs. I agree with you on the looks part but not on the matter of needs not being met. In my view, that's a cop-out as well. No one has all of their needs met all of the time. So that's just not a good reason to cheat. If someone's needs are consistently not being met and they are more unhappy than they are happy with their mate, then they should LEAVE them..not cheat on them.
IpAncA Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 I agree with you on the looks part but not on the matter of needs not being met. In my view, that's a cop-out as well. No one has all of their needs met all of the time. So that's just not a good reason to cheat. If someone's needs are consistently not being met and they are more unhappy than they are happy with their mate, then they should LEAVE them..not cheat on them. Never said it was a reason to cheat and yes I agree, not everyone will get their needs met. BUT the main ones SHOULD. At least that's the way I see it. Need (s) always seems to pop up somewhere. I don't think that's the case for everyone but a good chunk is.
Trialbyfire Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Ba..da...bing Touché. Dead on. Cheating is personal selfish choice. Relationship needs are the responsibility of both individuals which is a completely separate issue from the cheating itself.
Touche Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Ba..da...bing Touché. Dead on. Cheating is personal selfish choice. Relationship needs are the responsibility of both individuals which is a completely separate issue from the cheating itself. Thanks, Trialbyfire. And sorry, IP I guess I misunderstood what you were saying. I thought you were saying that he was justified in cheating because his "needs" weren't being met.
IpAncA Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Thanks, Trialbyfire. And sorry, IP I guess I misunderstood what you were saying. I thought you were saying that he was justified in cheating because his "needs" weren't being met. No. Seemed like the focus was on this women's looks and being good. Appearently that didn't keep this guy from cheating. That's all I was trying to say because IMO looks are not enough. Maybe I'm reading this wrong.
Curmudgeon Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Actually, B4R. I think it's YOU who hates men. That's why you can't act like one.
Touche Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Actually, B4R. I think it's YOU who hates men. That's why you can't act like one. Nah..he's an equal opportunity hater. He hates women and men alike. I believe he's stated that he even hates kids. He might hate animals as well but I'm not sure. I have a feeling he might like poodles though.
Author Woggle Posted April 15, 2007 Author Posted April 15, 2007 Looks are only a small part of it. She never nagged him, never whined if he wanted to spend time with friends and genuinely cared about his happiness. She is a genuinely good woman that treated him like gold and he turned around and betrayed her in the worst way. How can a man cheat on a woman like this? He had it so good and he threw it down the drain for some bimbo. I guess he will learn his lesson when he finds out it is damn near impossible to find another woman like her.
whichwayisup Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Sounds like a case of he took advantage of how good he had it at home and doesn't appreciate what he had in a wife...And selfishly wanted a taste of "other side of the fence"...
Trialbyfire Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Some people never appreciate what they have until it's gone. He will regret it.
whichwayisup Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Or maybe she'll take him back, depending on how willing he is to show how much he regrets his dumb choice to cheat on her and fix himself AND go to marriage counselling with her. Wog, do they have children?
OceanBlue Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 Looks are only a small part of it. She never nagged him, never whined if he wanted to spend time with friends and genuinely cared about his happiness. She is a genuinely good woman that treated him like gold and he turned around and betrayed her in the worst way. How can a man cheat on a woman like this? He had it so good and he threw it down the drain for some bimbo. I guess he will learn his lesson when he finds out it is damn near impossible to find another woman like her. Just remember that this is your interpretation based on an outsider's point of view. Many people were shocked when my M ended because the view that everyone had was that we had a perfect life. What he did was wrong - no doubt, but perhaps in his point of view, his M and his W are not what you see. Treating him like gold sounds great - but maybe he really wanted to be treated like platinum.
reservoirdog1 Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 We both promised to each other last night that neither one of us would ever do something like this to each other. Yeah, my XW and I promised that once, years ago... didn't work out too hot.
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