Guest Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 My relationship is somewhat shakey because of current issues, I was hoping someone could look at it with an outsiders eye and give me some advice. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year, and have been friends for about 5 years before that. We're really close, never fight (disagree, yes, but we've never really fought), and are both 100% committed to one another. However, next fall I am going away to college, and this is causing some issues. He is 2 years older than I am, and went away to college before we were dating. However, he dropped out after one semester, and his mom said she'd never pay for his schooling again. He now lives at home, works for minimum wage at Petsmart and is trying to save up enough money to get an apartment. Issue 1: He's completely jealous that I'm going to a university. It is the most exciting thing in my life right now, but I can't talk with him about it because it upsets him. He feels like a failure since he has no schooling. Issue 2: The school I'm attending is about 4 hours away from my hometown (where he lives). I'm nervous about the distance. I'm not sure why, since I totally trust him to stay committed and not mess around, and I know he trusts me. Issue 3: My parents despise him because of his status in society as a minimum wage, blue collar worker. His status doesn't even bother me, but my pressure from my parents to start dating someone who isn't "worthless" is overwhelming. I'm trying to get him to convince his mom to let him go to school again, but he won't even try because he's afraid she'll kick him out of the house if he tries. I guess I'm just asking for help. How can I convince my parents that he's not worthless? How will he feel when I'm actually at school? Will the jealousy ruin us or will the distance get there faster?
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