Guest Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 First off, let me say that I am not a kid but a grown woman in her 40's who has a significant amount of relationship experience. But I am very confused about this situation and am hoping that someone can shed some insight. About 2 months ago, I began seeing this man and for the few 2-3 weeks, things were very good. It was very obvious that he was interested in me. I would go so far as to say that he was falling for me. He spoke of things we would do in the future, i.e., places we would go, etc. It was developing into a lovely romance and I was enjoying it quite a bit, as was he. Then he suddenly pulled back. We still saw each other, but his moods were up and down and talk about future activities was curbed. I asked him about this and he replied that he gets depressed at times and when he does, he just wants to stay home and be alone. He has no energy for anyone or anything. He said that he sometimes he is the guy he was when we first started dating but at other times he is very depressed. I have known him as an acquantance for over a year and I suspect there is truth to this. However, it's hard for me to understand what has happened emotionally. It seems and feels that he has shut down emotionally and this makes it very difficult for me to know how or whether to proceed. For what it's worth, I do not believe that there are any issues of him seeing someone else. I am just trying to figure out whether this is something I should consider riding out or if he has had a change of heart about me but simply doesn't want to end things just yet.
KKLULESS Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 I would rather suggest that you do not drive him over he edge and lose hin totally. Whenver he wants to build a concrete cocoon around him, be it so. Let him know that u are a call away, in case he needs you. do not force him to comunicate during these periods.. My guys would enter ino such doleful phases during our courtship. Durin the initail days, I would find it difficult to connect to him and breach the gap.. In fact the more I tried, the worse it got. One fine day, by self-prudence.. I just let him handle it and.. bingo, thngs were better...But pls do not let ur life stop here. Go out... the world is round, it never ends... more so specially if you havent committed yet!
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