xelo Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 i met this gal recently , just call her miss "A". and we could click well. and after that i met her again. and i found her really sweet and lovely. She is good looking too. but most of all, she has a good sense of humor and we always enjoyed our dates . So one night we had sex and the day after i told her that i had an appointment with other gal , called her miss " B" . miss B was friend of mine that i know she likes me and i canceled the meeting previously because i want to meet miss A. I told A abt that, just to be honest with her. And i told her that i was not feeling sure to see B , because i just had slept with her , i feel like i am cheating on her and i like "A "a lot ... i even thought of just cancelling the appointment with B. To my surprise, A was so calm and relax and just listenned , didnt try to stop me .She even suggested me to call the other gal. So, here i am a lil confuse, she is sooo sweet. Really sweet and smart gal. i keep on thinking about her and like her a lot but why she was so easy going and it seemed it was not a prob for her at all for me to see other gals ? am i just a friend for him ? a fling ? please give me idea .... is it possible that she is seeing other guy ?
KKLULESS Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 I have questions: 1. If a gal behaves like th way she feels, guys call it jealousy, insecurity and over-possessiveness. 2. When she takes things like a guys would have taken, cool... not strings attached kind, they think she is taking light ultra lightly and is possibly having a fling?????????? why is this???? There could be some reasons: 1. She is indeed the kind of a gal who takes life as it comes...very practical 2. She is feigning that 'it is cool'... because she does not want to drive you away, by coming across as a very possessive tyep of a person. 3. She could have been thro such episodes before, and she knows that if u really like here, then come 'B', 'C'. etc.. you know where to return
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted April 17, 2007 Posted April 17, 2007 She is secretly hoping you do the right thing and cancel your date with miss B.
Sand&Water Posted April 17, 2007 Posted April 17, 2007 RE: Where shall I start Mister Xelo? I am not here to plainly criticize or demean you in any way but there are very blunt mistakes you -and her -did. (A) You slept with her too early on into the courtship. Why the rush? Not the best first impression. (B) Since you already slept with her then what do you expect. Nothing. Don't set unrealistic expectations. © She is only being nice to you because: 1. That is her personality and 2. She doesn't want to cling to you, then realize she's fallen for you, then get hurt sometime down the road. (D) The chances of her seeing someone else is quite high -especially after the sudden influx of hormones. I wouldn't be surprised if she just dropped off the face of the earth -or just simply faded out of your life. My Advice: Go on another date with her -and this time talk to her. You should discuss the situation, your/her feelings, and where you want to take things. Sand&Water
kdark Posted April 17, 2007 Posted April 17, 2007 Go on another date with her -and this time talk to her. You should discuss the situation, your/her feelings, and where you want to take things. This is the advice I would stick with too. Get your feelings out in the open on another. Only time will tell if you were just a fling, or if she is really into you.
xelo Posted April 18, 2007 Posted April 18, 2007 I have questions: 1. If a gal behaves like th way she feels, guys call it jealousy, insecurity and over-possessiveness. 2. When she takes things like a guys would have taken, cool... not strings attached kind, they think she is taking light ultra lightly and is possibly having a fling?????????? why is this???? There could be some reasons: 1. She is indeed the kind of a gal who takes life as it comes...very practical 2. She is feigning that 'it is cool'... because she does not want to drive you away, by coming across as a very possessive tyep of a person. 3. She could have been thro such episodes before, and she knows that if u really like here, then come 'B', 'C'. etc.. you know where to return hi all, thanks for your response.. just an update.. i know i made mistake.. but i am really trying to figure out things... ok.. i did meet the other gal (B ) , because i didnt want to disapoint B and when i went out with B i was missing A badly. the day after, i chat with A , and A was asking how my date was. So i said it was fine but i told her that i missed her while i am with B. i know i sounded like a jerk. But i didnt touch B . i couldnt get A out of my mind. i dated B earlier than A but since i met A , i found A is so attractive . She caught my attention from the first time i met her. Anyway, after i told A that i met B , and i told her that i want to slow down with B . A was acting cool and she suggested me not to make B down. i was kind of frustated to explain to her that the reason why i want to take things slow with B because of her. I like her more. So i told her . She said it is sweet and she was calm. i know it is good to be calm, but her reaction made me confuse and worry. few days after, i met her again. I told her how much i like her and she kissed me and she said she likes me too. I tried to know more about her and i always asked her about her life , her work, her love life before me.. or whatever...but i always ended up the one who was talking about my life. i didnt know how she turned the situation , became i was the one who explains things to her. I try to communicate with her every other day , but i am afraid it will chase her away. i am still curious if i am someone for her.. Sometimes i looked at her and the way she hold me ,the body language, i knew she likes me but i dont know if she likes me as much as i do . What should i do ?
someone_here Posted April 18, 2007 Posted April 18, 2007 u like A but u still went out with B , u even told A about that. Put your self in her shoes . I think she was hoping you know what you suppose to do but she didnt want to say it out to you. U seem trying to please everybody and you want to get both or even all. I should tell you, you wont get all of them. If you keep on doing this, i can see for sure, you will hurt one or some of them , even A and i think by telling A that you have another date , she already made up her mind . That's why she could suggest u to go with B. She was disapointed. JMO.
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