suzie sweet Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Hubby and i been seperated for almost 2yrs and have a child together, He dosnt want to meet anyone else, still cares for me deeply and says he will be there for me forever, he helps me with money still enjoys family life together and still has sex with me, but he is so desprate for our divorce? he reckons it`ll make him feel better like the burdons been lifted(from the past), Why is this? i dont want the divorce but he swears everything will stay as it is now and nothing will change, Help me guys what shall i do ? xx
waitingforlove Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 That sounds really strange. Has he explained to you why he wants so badly to get a divorce? Honestly, I think it sounds like he has issues on his own -- unless he has a good reason that will explain why he wants a divorce, if he's STILL having sex with you after having separated for two years and still claiming that he cares about you! But for sure you should start pretending that you don't care. Stop begging for him to reconsider. Just ask why, and whatever answer he gives, say "okay." Then start moving on. Stop having sex with him and see what happens. Good luck!
Curmudgeon Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 You've put your life on hold for someone who still wants sex from you but at the same time wants to divorce you? Why?!?! My first thought is, who else is he "just" having sex with and at what risk to you? My second thought is, why are you letting his cakeman behavior keep you from, perhaps, finding and ending up with someone who truly values you? Oops! Sorry! That's three questions. If you're not in counseling I would certainly suggest it.
Author suzie sweet Posted April 15, 2007 Author Posted April 15, 2007 That sounds really strange. Has he explained to you why he wants so badly to get a divorce? Honestly, I think it sounds like he has issues on his own -- unless he has a good reason that will explain why he wants a divorce, if he's STILL having sex with you after having separated for two years and still claiming that he cares about you! But for sure you should start pretending that you don't care. Stop begging for him to reconsider. Just ask why, and whatever answer he gives, say "okay." Then start moving on. Stop having sex with him and see what happens. Good luck! He said he will feel better in himself once we are divorced, his examples were,He will enjoy taking me out so he can introduce me as the x wife, He wont take me out now as hes worried that tounges will start to wag people thinking were getting back together (even though we all go out as a family cant see the diffrence to be honest), He even said we can all go on holiday too. I know he has not slept with anyone else 110% sure, he is a good man and he dosnt tell lies
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 It sounds to me like he cares for you, and is attracted to you still and feels some obligation toward you but simply doesn't want to be married anymore. He wants to have you in his life, and be able to live as single as he likes. Don't be terribly surprised to find out that he does have another woman in his life. I expect he is keeping it on the down low until the divorce, and then can present her as a "new" girlfriend when in fact he's been with her for a while. I know in some states dating during separation can complicate the divorce.
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