tanbark813 Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Cuz if he was really, really into her, he'd initiate alone-time dates with her. You can't really get to know someone in all group situations. Word. That's the biggest tip-off.
Author SouthernT Posted April 13, 2007 Author Posted April 13, 2007 Alcohol can be pretty misleading. Have you seen each other in sober state? Maybe he is playing it safe. Thinking when you are not ready to have sex with him, you dont want to date him either. You ask him out and see. I dont drink and neither does he. Thats one thing I really like about him. Neither one of us smoke or drink. I'm ready to date him and do the sex thing afterwards. But somehow we have to reach a common ground somehow.
DanielMadr Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 So you can have sex with him, but that will not make him suddenly decide that he wants a relationship with you. Guys do not work that way. True but on other hand its easier to dump woman who had no sex with us. If a guy is not total jerk...with sex there comes a bond. But its safer your way. It's already clear that he doesn't want a relationship, because regardless of what you told him about casual sex, I think he at least would have initiated a kiss, or at least a date, on his own by now. Assuming he is good with women and he is not afraid to risk. It seems he is afraid to scare her off. So it might singifies he likes her. Maybe. I'm 30 years old, dear, and I've dated them all, all types of men with all types of intentions and behaviors. And I can tell you right now this guy is not interested in your personality, or even friendship so much. Yeah like girls want to be friends with man they find attractive:rolleyes: Please dont separate body and soul. She is not some bimbo. Of course personality doesnt play so important role so early....he doesnt want her to be mother of his children in this phase. It's an exciting challenge for men to get women to sleep with them, especially if it's a woman that gives up her own opinions to do it. He would walk away with nothing but a big head, because you gave it up without him committing to you. Then he'll be off looking for the next challenge. If you can prove any of this wrong, let me know, but it's not likely. This is BS. Men who see sense of life in banging quantity of chicks they are not that interested in go for easy targets. Most of guys are just happy for a chance. Skilled man go for women who they find attractive and want to live with them. Only mass killers love challenge or some kind of attention manattentionwhores who cant take "defeat". Find a guy who really likes you as a person and wants to spend real, quality time getting to know you!!! You are wasting your time with this guy and he's letting you. Dont go there. You are a WOMAN. Body and Soul. Once you start to seperate it, you will have problems.
DanielMadr Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 It is a good sign for a guy to bring her around his buds...however it could also just be a show-off thing, to show that he can get the hot chick, or to prove that he's not gay, if he is in fact gay and is trying to hide it. But I mostly think it's mostly just to stroke his ego. Cuz if he was really, really into her, he'd initiate alone-time dates with her. You can't really get to know someone in all group situations. You are totaly wrong. If man find a woman attractive, more so he has even urge to showing her off....he wants to spend rest of his life with her. Believe me. Unless she is total psycho.
DanielMadr Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 I dont drink and neither does he. Thats one thing I really like about him. Neither one of us smoke or drink. I'm ready to date him and do the sex thing afterwards. But somehow we have to reach a common ground somehow. To be sure. Ask him out and you will see. You sort of rejected him and he plays it safe probably. When you tell a guy you want to take it slow, you are implying you are not so sure about him....sort of rejection. The same feeling you had when he said that about 1 month of no kissing. It hurted didnt it;) You wanted to slow it down to your pace....you are calling the shots then. Ask him out and HINT him that its OK to take it to his hands now.
Author SouthernT Posted April 13, 2007 Author Posted April 13, 2007 It is a good sign for a guy to bring her around his buds...however it could also just be a show-off thing, to show that he can get the hot chick, or to prove that he's not gay, if he is in fact gay and is trying to hide it. But I mostly think it's mostly just to stroke his ego. Cuz if he was really, really into her, he'd initiate alone-time dates with her. You can't really get to know someone in all group situations. ALL of his friends are FEMALES. I've met at least 10 different girls in these group settings. There has only been one guy friend that I've met or ever heard him talk about.
Author SouthernT Posted April 13, 2007 Author Posted April 13, 2007 To be sure. Ask him out and you will see. ...Ask him out and HINT him that its OK to take it to his hands now. How the do you ask a guy out? (Forgive me, I've never dated) You mean ask him if he wants to go hang out? And I thought that I gave him the "HINT" that its Ok to take it to the hands on level when I asked him for a kiss a couple of days ago? Remember his response was "Wow! U R amazing! Why should I kiss you?" (as I stated in my previous post) And not only that, he asked me to email him a picture and I did. He sends me a text saying "sexy picture. wanna get naked?" (him) "lol..are you serious?" (me) "depends..it's dark, rainy and I'm alone" (him) "well I would love to see you. But nothing sexual would happen. But I wouldnt mind being held"(me) "Held?? Yuk! I hate cuddling...lol"(him) In my opinion, I've already given him the "GREEN LIGHT" to start hands on. It's like he expects to bypass the "pre-sex" stage and jump straight in the sac.
DanielMadr Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 How the do you ask a guy out? (Forgive me, I've never dated) You mean ask him if he wants to go hang out? And I thought that I gave him the "HINT" that its Ok to take it to the hands on level when I asked him for a kiss a couple of days ago? Remember his response was "Wow! U R amazing! Why should I kiss you?" (as I stated in my previous post) And not only that, he asked me to email him a picture and I did. He sends me a text saying "sexy picture. wanna get naked?" (him) "lol..are you serious?" (me) "depends..it's dark, rainy and I'm alone" (him) "well I would love to see you. But nothing sexual would happen. But I wouldnt mind being held"(me) "Held?? Yuk! I hate cuddling...lol"(him) In my opinion, I've already given him the "GREEN LIGHT" to start hands on. It's like he expects to bypass the "pre-sex" stage and jump straight in the sac. It is weird. How old are you? You and him? Ask him out....'Hi. Im going to have a coffee there and then...wanna join me for a chat?' You never dated...hmm. If he is overly sexual in your conversations....I suggest you should forget him. It signifies a jerk aka insecure boy who need sexual intercourse to boost his fragile ego.
Author SouthernT Posted April 13, 2007 Author Posted April 13, 2007 It is weird. How old are you? You and him? Ask him out....'Hi. Im going to have a coffee there and then...wanna join me for a chat?' You never dated...hmm. If he is overly sexual in your conversations....I suggest you should forget him. It signifies a jerk aka insecure boy who need sexual intercourse to boost his fragile ego. We are both 27 years old. Yes he is very sexual in our conversations. But never tries anything.
LoveLace Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 That's ignorant of him to say yuk, cuddling, ew,...he could care less about what you want or need to make you feel good, loved, cared for, etc..and weather his friends are all females or not, he still hasn't initiated any kind of a date or one-on-one time to get to know you as a person, etc, in his mind if he's alone with you it better be for having sex. This guy is a 1st class ass and he is not into you at all what so ever unless you plan on screwing him. I'm sorry to be so blunt but you deserve 100 X better than this jerk-off for a guy. Any more contact with him is only stroking his ego, he is not going to grow to like you in a romantic way or relationship way. For every time you make conversation with him it's only making his head bigger. You are only prolonging this pointless game he's playing. Believe me you could find plenty of other guys who are not like this and won't play with your head and will respect you a lot more than he does. You need to completely cut him out of your life..or he might eventually start pretending he likes you more just to get you in bed, and you'll feel like a fool if you fall for it, only to have him dis you after. Please, save yourself the B.S. and move on with a quickness!
Mary3 Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 He likely has a 4 inch penis... Or he's sexually inexperienced or suffered a sexual trauma of limp~ness and the girl was not too kind. Or he's a total virgin and is terrified of showing you his willie....
Author SouthernT Posted April 16, 2007 Author Posted April 16, 2007 That's ignorant of him to say yuk, cuddling, ew,...he could care less about what you want or need to make you feel good, loved, cared for, etc..and weather his friends are all females or not, he still hasn't initiated any kind of a date or one-on-one time to get to know you as a person, etc, in his mind if he's alone with you it better be for having sex. This guy is a 1st class ass and he is not into you at all what so ever unless you plan on screwing him. I'm sorry to be so blunt but you deserve 100 X better than this jerk-off for a guy. Any more contact with him is only stroking his ego, he is not going to grow to like you in a romantic way or relationship way. For every time you make conversation with him it's only making his head bigger. You are only prolonging this pointless game he's playing. Believe me you could find plenty of other guys who are not like this and won't play with your head and will respect you a lot more than he does. You need to completely cut him out of your life..or he might eventually start pretending he likes you more just to get you in bed, and you'll feel like a fool if you fall for it, only to have him dis you after. Please, save yourself the B.S. and move on with a quickness! Well everybody, I can officially say that after this weekend...I'm cutting this guy OFF period. I talked to him earlier this week and he said he wanted us to do dinner or something sometime this week. So of course I got excited because he was finally going to take me out. (on the inside..he never knew how happy I was)...Anyhow...Friday roles around and of course no word from him. I send him a text Friday night (Knowing good and well he was going to give some B.S. excuse.) So my text said "hey, did you still want to do something?" His response (at 9:30pm).."It's raining...I just woke up. Maybe tomorrow" So saturday roles around and he doesnt bother to call or text. So...there it is......I get now. If there is ONE thing I learned...by NOT having sex with him...I found out that he had no real intention on finding out who I was....I get now...I never had sex with him...but it still hurts a little.
nicki Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 This is a good thing, SouthernT! Ouch, he's not the good guy you were hoping for. The good news is that you saw it early, and paid attention to it. He treats ALL women like this because he is a LOSER. It's not you, it's him.
DanielMadr Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 He likely has a 4 inch penis... Or he's sexually inexperienced or suffered a sexual trauma of limp~ness and the girl was not too kind. Or he's a total virgin and is terrified of showing you his willie.... Uh, you are mean. Somebody dodged your sexual advances?
Mary3 Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 Uh, you are mean. Somebody dodged your sexual advances? Dodged mine ? lol. Hardly . Just so you know there is nothing wrong with virgins. Everyone needs to learn sometime I prefer a larger over a smaller but everything is workable..
DanielMadr Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 Dodged mine ? lol. Hardly . Just so you know there is nothing wrong with virgins. Everyone needs to learn sometime I prefer a larger over a smaller but everything is workable.. There is high suicide rate already. Its better to watch ones words. Im sure 90% of penises are longer than your middle finger and thicker than your thumb, so you can be happier with a man than on your own....unless you go the cucumber way of course
LoveLace Posted April 16, 2007 Posted April 16, 2007 I'm happy for you Southern T because you know you deserve to be treated better than that. I once dated a guy that only used me for sex but everything else was broken promises, like this guy did to you about dinner. So yes stop it before it really starts. And like nicki said it's likely that he treats all women this way, it isn't you that's the problem. Just think of all the girls naive enough to let him go even further with them. You are not one of them!
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