Emotional24 Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 I don't understand what's going on...we are on a break but have agreed we're still together and won't go around with other people. Its been just over a week since I've talked to him on the phone. I haven't tried calling him since 5 days ago...just a text a couple days ago asking if he'd like to hang out tonight, to just have fun together...never mentioned anything about the break. he hasn't even acknowledge my text by replying with a no, or saying he's busy...I got nothing. he still has his myspace account saying he's in a relationship. He told me he doesn't want to be single, he's still in love with me but is sick of the arguing so isn't sure what he wants. He says there's no one else but I can't help my mind from wondering if that's the case. I feel like with him not even trying to call to say hi and with him completely avoiding me, that he wants to get out. He's acting like we actually broke up and is keeping me out of his life. If that's the case I just want him to at least tell me that instead of leaving me to wonder. Should I call him to ask or just keep avoiding him until he contacts me??? I just don't understand what's going on. If another week goes by should I just try to get a hold of him via phone or text and let him know I got the hint and figure out when to get my stuff???
Guest Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 Go out tonight, enjoy hanging out with friends, flirt, etc. Don't call him. He's 'not that into you.'
Tormented Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Should I call him to ask or just keep avoiding him until he contacts me??? I just don't understand what's going on. In most cases, I advocate N/C. But in THIS case, I think you should call him (even if this is the last call you ever make to him), and ask him what, exactly, is his true intention? If the two of you agreed to break up, make a clean break, then you would know what to expect, although it would hurt. But being left on a limb not knowing what's going on...if you should hang in there or begin the process of healing is much more painful. The fact that he told you he still loves you, doesn't want to officially breakup...just wants to take a break from the "arguing" has left you completely in the dark as to what to do. Not good. He OWES you an explaination. If he wanted out, then he should grow some gonads and tell you so. To leave you in limbo is completely selfish and he needs to come clean so you can get on with your life. If it were me, and after a few "ignored" messages, I wouldn't hesitate to call him and demand some answers. He owes you that. But try to prepare yourself for the possibility that he wants to cut ties. It will hurt, no doubt. But at least you will know one way or the other and begin the process of healing so that you can get on with your life. And if that's the case...just remember, there's a lot of us here to help you through. ~T~
shakespearesgal Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 I agree with tormented. He is being uber-immature. My guy's break up was full of questions and such, but at least he broke up with me. This guy hasn't even had the decency to do that. If and when he tells you it's over, then do NC; but until then, you have every right to demand an explanation. These guys sometimes take the "space" thing a little too far, and they forget there is another human being putting her life on hold while he selfishly avoids the issue. Just my two pennies ...
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