Strip clubs and Cheating

[Topper]

I have never cheated on my strip club never! OK there was that one time in Las Vegas but I was drunk and and and ... so lonely

[dropdeadlegs]

I have calmed down now but this morning after reading that board all night I was ready to go to war with the female gender. I don't mean to be so hurtful to the women on here but I feel it is better to vent to people I don't know rather than taking it out on my wife or somebody else.

Sure it's better to vent here than to take your gender war out on someone you actually care about. But....why do you read that stuff it it sets you off so badly? I do this LS stuff all the time, but I rarely visit those particular threads because I don't feel that I have much to contribute. I can say "don't cheat, it's horrible to do, end your marriage" etc. till I'm blue in the face but I don't think anyone would listen.

 

I suggest staying on the threads that are more positive to your wellbeing.

 

On another note, the boards might be tilted to seem that more women than men cheat because I think more women will make posts of that nature and more men deal with it themselves. I could be wrong, I'm making assumptions in this area. As I said, I don't go there much.

[JackJack]

Glad you feel better. However, I really feel you should take a break from these boards for a bit. If you feel the need to vent or start to get mad, maybe take up kick boxing to take your frustrations on, and continue to talk to your counselor to vent.

[rainfall]

Can somebody explain this hypocrisy to me?

 

If a man goes to a stsrip club or even so much as looks at an image of a naked woman he is a dog and a cheater and has no respect for his woman. Even if he is just having some fun with the guys he is wrong.

 

If a woman cheats on her husband and has sex with the other man she is entitled to do it and is a liberated woman going after her happiness. She is only doing what men have done for years and her man has no right to be angry about it.

 

Is it just me or is this a blatant double standard and the height of hypocrisy?

 

Cheating is wrong whetner it is a man or a women doing it. The only women who defend cheating on the ones who are doing the cheating. Just like if a man is cheating he will defend it till the death.

[Woggle]

I am feeling much better now. I really need to stay off that board and the feminist boards because they get me riled up. I think that no matter how good a woman is there is always something in the back of my head that keeps from trusting her and I need to work on that. I have been betrayed by pretty much every single woman I have trusted so it it is not an easy to trust a woman right now. That is not my wife's fault but walls don't come down that easy.

[Pyro]

This seems to be how most women think and am trying to find out why.

 

Most women in your life. Again for the billionith time, stop generalizing.

[burning 4 revenge]

It actually has very little to do with my mother. I actually thank my mother for breaking the illusions about women that most men have. Her abuse prepared me for this world. I just see very few females that are trustworthy at all and it makes me wonder if I am just being a fool for trusting my wife.

holy misogyny batman

[lindya]

I have been betrayed by pretty much every single woman I have trusted so it it is not an easy to trust a woman right now. That is not my wife's fault but walls don't come down that easy.

 

Woggle - if I spent time thinking about it, I have been betrayed, let down and used by countless people. The most common form of betrayal, for me, always involved outsiders using me to become a part of something they perceived as being a cool group to be part of. In schooldays, I often put myself on the line by supporting unpopular people....but the moment there was a falling out over some principle or other, I'd discover that their loyalties lay with the group they were so thrilled to have finally become a part of. I bet you just about every person reading this will say "That's me too! I was always that person who gave the outsider a fair go, only to later feel let down by them and their desperation for group validation."

 

What's that about? I think it's about us claiming some kind of ownership over other people when we perceive ourselves as doing something positive for them - or going out of our way for them. Believing that because we went out of our way for that person, they owe us something (eg loyalty) in return.

 

People do sometimes let you down, because that's part of the weakness and imperfection of humanity. If you're a genuinely strong person (as opposed to one who presents a tough facade) you accept that. You don't let it prevent you from being happy and successful, because you know that whether or not people you've helped out in the past will be there for you when it counts you'll be absolutely fine. You might hope that your partner doesn't walk out of your life, but if they do you'll cope. I realise that's not a popular or romantic way of perceiving situations - but no partner or friend comes with a cast-iron "no cheating/betraying" guarantee. Are you going to spend a lifetime railing against that state of affairs, or are you going to focus on doing what you can to make the relationship a happy and successful one?

[Trialbyfire]

Healthy interactions versus co-dependencies. Enjoying versus needing.