Woggle Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Can somebody explain this hypocrisy to me? If a man goes to a stsrip club or even so much as looks at an image of a naked woman he is a dog and a cheater and has no respect for his woman. Even if he is just having some fun with the guys he is wrong. If a woman cheats on her husband and has sex with the other man she is entitled to do it and is a liberated woman going after her happiness. She is only doing what men have done for years and her man has no right to be angry about it. Is it just me or is this a blatant double standard and the height of hypocrisy?
IpAncA Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 If a woman cheats on her husband and has sex with the other man she is entitled to do it and is a liberated woman going after her happiness. She is only doing what men have done for years and her man has no right to be angry about it. Don't see how she's entitled. It's wrong IMO.
JackJack Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Where did you get this info about strip clubs and cheating? I hope this is not something you just thought up and are going off on a tangent about Woggle. Do you believe that the thoughts on this issue are true?
Author Woggle Posted April 13, 2007 Author Posted April 13, 2007 Where did you get this info about strip clubs and cheating? I hope this is not something you just thought up and are going off on a tangent about Woggle. Do you believe that the thoughts on this issue are true? This seems to be how most women think and am trying to find out why.
IpAncA Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Maybe it's a revenge thing. I've never heard of women going out and doing that for the hell of it.
littlekitty Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 This seems to be how most women think and am trying to find out why. And you surmised that how exactly?! From what I've seen on this forum, most women do not agree with cheating be it by a women or a man.
JackJack Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 This seems to be how most women think and am trying to find out why. OK. But, how do you figure its most women's way of thinking? And I would have to disagree that from what I have read on here, that its the way most women think.
CaringSoul Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 I do not believe going to a strip club is cheating, I beleive what each individual does there might constitute cheating. If you are single and not in a committed relationship do what you want. If you are married or have a steady BF/GF relationship it would also depend on what the two adults think. I am telling you from my experience communicate about it and you can both decided what consititutes what.
Author Woggle Posted April 13, 2007 Author Posted April 13, 2007 And you surmised that how exactly?! From what I've seen on this forum, most women do not agree with cheating be it by a women or a man. Just look at how many women on here are having affairs and see nothing at all wrong with it. I was on the women's infidelity board all night last night and the way those women think is sick but I bet if their husband went to a strip club they would change their tune.
IpAncA Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Have you asked them over there if they would mind their SO's going to one?
JackJack Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Just look at how many women on here are having affairs and see nothing at all wrong with it. I was on the women's infidelity board all night last night and the way those women think is sick but I bet if their husband went to a strip club they would change their tune. Woggle, you will come across women and men who feel a certain way about something. Like thinking cheating is ok, or justified depending on whats going on in their situation etc, but NOT ALL, women or men for that matter feel that way. I think you read to many negative things. And these women that feel this way are probably so hurt or in denial at that point, that its probably not even how they really feel, maybe it comes from anger/hurt/bitterness and they haven't got past that point yet.
littlekitty Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Just look at how many women on here are having affairs and see nothing at all wrong with it. I was on the women's infidelity board all night last night and the way those women think is sick but I bet if their husband went to a strip club they would change their tune. And just look at how many women on here see it as completely wrong. You've tainted your own views by sitting on the infidelity board all last night!! Of course if you sit there reading all that for long enough you can easily decide 'all women are like that'. But it's not the truth of the matter. And yes, I have no doubt they'd be up in arms if their husband when to a strip club! It's not really for me to comment on their morality. I certainly don't agree with it though.
Author Woggle Posted April 13, 2007 Author Posted April 13, 2007 Maybe being on that board all night has something to do with it but let's just say it is a good thing I am at work right now and not home with my wife. I could barely look at her this morning.
PandorasBox Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 And just look at how many women on here see it as completely wrong. You've tainted your own views by sitting on the infidelity board all last night!! Of course if you sit there reading all that for long enough you can easily decide 'all women are like that'. But it's not the truth of the matter. And yes, I have no doubt they'd be up in arms if their husband when to a strip club! It's not really for me to comment on their morality. I certainly don't agree with it though. LK took the words right out of my mouth. I second this.
PandorasBox Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Maybe being on that board all night has something to do with it but let's just say it is a good thing I am at work right now and not home with my wife. I could barely look at her this morning. Woggle, maybe you should take a break from this board for awhile then. I think if you need to talk or vent I completely understand why you would remain on here, nothing wrong with that. But if you feel its doing you more harm than good right now, then give all boards a break. Why could you barely look at her? Do you think she feels the same way as these other women you have been reading about? I don't think thats fair to her Woggle.
IpAncA Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Maybe being on that board all night has something to do with it but let's just say it is a good thing I am at work right now and not home with my wife. I could barely look at her this morning. Why? Don't take this out on her. Does she agree with those women?
Author Woggle Posted April 13, 2007 Author Posted April 13, 2007 Woggle, maybe you should take a break from this board for awhile then. I think if you need to talk or vent I completely understand why you would remain on here, nothing wrong with that. But if you feel its doing you more harm than good right now, then give all boards a break. Why could you barely look at her? Do you think she feels the same way as these other women you have been reading about? I don't think thats fair to her Woggle. It's not even so much this board but a link to a boad that Gunny keeps posting. It has me looking at all women with suspicion and it makes me wonder if all the love stuff my wife tells me is just crap.
IpAncA Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Woggle stop going over to the other board and stop questioning your own W. That's not fair to her.
melodymatters Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 C'mon woggle ( slap) snap out of it !!! Your going to the " bad place" again where you think all woman are out to hurt you, including your poor wife who has done NOTHING to lose your trust !!! Eileen Wournos ( sp) was a woman...and a SERIAL KILLER, does that mean because I and your wife are also woman, we must be serial killers ? You need to go back to therapy hon, and maybe take a logics class
littlekitty Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Maybe being on that board all night has something to do with it but let's just say it is a good thing I am at work right now and not home with my wife. I could barely look at her this morning. Woogle that's crazy?! Why are you doing this to yourself? And more importantly why are you doing this to your wife? Do you want to wreck your marriage? I agree PB that you should stay off the board (or that one at least). Your making yourself believe something which isn't true.
Author Woggle Posted April 13, 2007 Author Posted April 13, 2007 I will cool off by the time I get home and that is why I vent on this board. This board will porbably end up saving my marriage if she doesn't cheat on me first because if I didn't have this place to vent I would take it out on her. Last weekend when we had our blowup it was because she caught me in one of my moods before I had a chance to cool off.
IpAncA Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 You need to learn to chill your moods. And regardless of this site being your vent you shouldn't IMO take it out on her at all.
littlekitty Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 I will cool off by the time I get home and that is why I vent on this board. This board will porbably end up saving my marriage if she doesn't cheat on me first because if I didn't have this place to vent I would take it out on her. Last weekend when we had our blowup it was because she caught me in one of my moods before I had a chance to cool off. Have you stopped therapy? I think you need to continue. These issues obviously haven't gone away. It's not fair that your 'moods' effect your marriage in this way. You seem to get so caught up in these things/feelings against women in your own mind, and then it takes you a while to get it out of your head and back into the real world. And you still think she's going to cheat on you?! I mean, why would she marry you if that's what she wanted? She'd just stay single?!
Author Woggle Posted April 13, 2007 Author Posted April 13, 2007 Have you stopped therapy? I think you need to continue. These issues obviously haven't gone away. It's not fair that your 'moods' effect your marriage in this way. You seem to get so caught up in these things/feelings against women in your own mind, and then it takes you a while to get it out of your head and back into the real world. And you still think she's going to cheat on you?! I mean, why would she marry you if that's what she wanted? She'd just stay single?! Why does any woman get married? I just keep having these visions of her a few years from now cheating and then giving me the I love you but I am not in love with you speech. Some of the comments on that other board are utterly sickening and it just makes me mistrust all women. It makes me want to be a player and just use women.
PandorasBox Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 After 50 years of marriage with her, and she has not cheated on you, I sure hope you would not still continue to feel that she would. And even if it were to happen, what would your reaction be? For some reason a visual comes to mind such as, you sitting back saying, "I told you so." Or, "See I knew it would happen." Are you just looking for a reason to say, "see told you so?" So your thinking would be justified? Woggle, I just don't understand what it is you gain from feeling this way. Like I said, what are you going to to do 50 years later and it still has not happened? I know, that is probably to far into the future to be thinking, but it was just hypothetical.
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