Frances Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 I check my h email everytime I am near a computer. I am driving my self mad with this. All I want to know is if there is any communication with the OW he had an EA with. There has only been a few since the A ended two years ago so why am I checking it so often? I am afraid that I might miss one and he could delete it before I check. Is there away that I could be alerted if an email is received or sent to her email address from his account?
Impudent Oyster Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 I'm not sure Frances, but if there was a way, and you found something, what would you do? You have to be prepared for that. As incredibly hard as it may be, I think you have to stop focusing on him and focus completely on yourself. Do what makes you happy, try to live as though your life doesn't depend on him, and try to make it so it really doesn't. It can't be about him, and who he is or isn't emailing. He doesn't deserve that.
outofdarkness Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 I check my h email everytime I am near a computer. I am driving my self mad with this. All I want to know is if there is any communication with the OW he had an EA with. There has only been a few since the A ended two years ago so why am I checking it so often? I am afraid that I might miss one and he could delete it before I check. Is there away that I could be alerted if an email is received or sent to her email address from his account? I understand what you're going through completely...I can't check my H's e mail b/c he "says" that he only has a work address and won't give me the password..He doesn't get on this comp. so I have no way of knowing...I wish I could check it..then mabey I'd have more proof...RE: The alerts..you can type in certain key words if you have any sort of parental controls on your comp...or keylogger might do it...but yes, there is a way...
Enema Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 You shouldn't be checking his email. Either you forgive him for the A and you try to work past it, or you get rid of him. If you're going to constantly be spying on him, you're doing neither of you any favours. You may as well have just broken up with him.
Trialbyfire Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Two years is a long time to mistrust someone. There is a way. You can setup your outlook so that a copy is automatically forwarded to a separate email address from a specific sender, while still retaining the original in the current address. I can't remember which option it is but use your help feature to locate the wizard.
Author Frances Posted April 13, 2007 Author Posted April 13, 2007 You shouldn't be checking his email. Either you forgive him for the A and you try to work past it, or you get rid of him. I have not forgiven him for the A. 9 months is a very short time to come to terms with what he did. I want to know for sure that it is completly over before I think of forgiving him.
Author Frances Posted April 13, 2007 Author Posted April 13, 2007 Two years is a long time to mistrust someone. I only found out about the EA 9 months ago. There is a way. You can setup your outlook so that a copy is automatically forwarded to a separate email address from a specific sender, while still retaining the original in the current address. I can't remember which option it is but use your help feature to locate the wizard. I will try that. Thanks Its just that I am spending far too much time on this and I want to stop. Today I did find an email from a female [FONT="]scientist [/FONT]inviting him to Italy to do some work with him and thought is this for real? or is he starting something else. He is not, as later he rang me and told me about it and asked me would I like to go with him.
kepners Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 paranoia! listen outlook will only work if u have the account details to set it up ie his account details plus he must have to use it for it work with out us having to check - otherwise u will continue to check all the time - same as before. keylogger checking email blah blah blah... there are lots you can do even install spyware on his works pc to track everything or track his car, or track his mobile for his movements, or hire a PI... ok on and on it goes... if he has hotmail you can set it up so that you get sms of all emails... u can set up (the online one to copy stuff) to a new email address... HOWEVER WITH all these he gets proof ur watching him... why watch him> why dont you go and cheat on him!... and you can feel like he did when he cheated on you! NOT GOOD! if u cheat on him,u'll get this miss trust out of ur system with out any fall out - because u'll be even with him! though you could be the type of person who would tell him uv done it. Not thats its bad,but u would only cheat to stop you from carrying on like this other than that, you can try talking to him... but that will result in big fall out... BUT if i know blokes! his MOBILE WILL BE THE KEY to catching the SHARK!!! not EMAIL!!! oops maybe i shouldnt have said that.... K:o
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