anastacia Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 To start off, I'm Canadian. So about two years ago, I told myself that I'd go to medical school in the states and marry a guy there, gain citizenship, I could practice easily and it would be a happy ever after. Last May, things changed. I wasn't looking to be in a relationship, but a friend of mine dragged me to a party, and I met someone . I have dated a lot before but nothing really worked out and I felt that I couldn't 'click' with anyone. Then finally, at age 21, I found someone. Now, we've been dating for one year and we have both a very close friendship and a lot of passion as well. However, next year, he will be going to New York for law school, and I will be staying here in Vancouver for medical school. These cities are 3000 miles apart and so I don't like the idea! Is it unrealistic to think that we will stay together for the four years in our rigorous schooling? We have never been apart for more than a week, so I get nervous. I am in fact his first real girlfriend, and people have told me that it's bad to marry your first significant other... but I hate listening to stereotypes like that. What I'd like to hear is your thoughts and tips I guess!
littlekitty Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Firstly long distance relationships are hard work. Some stand the test, some don't. You can't easily second guess if yours will or won't. But I can tell you that it requires hard work and bucket loads of trust. Personally at 21 I think you are young to be considering marriage. But I suspect this isn't something you'd do until you'd both finished school. If your relationship does stand the test of the long distance, and 4 years, then why shouldn't you marry. There are many people who marry their first significant other and go on to have happy marriages! But again, it's early to be thinking about this issue I think. You have the bigger issue of the next 4 years apart to deal with. Deal with the marriage issue if and when it arises. It's not unrealistic to think that you'll make it through this, but it's also wise to remember that you may not. All you can do is both give it your best shot (if that's what you both want) and see what happens. None of us can see the future and what lies ahead for us. Just take it a step at a time.
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