goodguy123 Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 I went out with a bunch of my friends and I just realized how sad it makes me. I just hate seeing them all with their girlfriends because it makes me miss my ex even more. It just seems like everyone has someone except me. And whats even worse is that their were plenty of good looking girls out but I'm just too shy to do anything. And then I have my friends egging me on to go talk to them and it makes it even worse because then I feel pressured and I won't do anything. I just really miss my ex. It was so much better when I had her there with me.
Enema Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Humans remember good times easier than bad. Try to focus on why you broke up. (god I'm hoping it wasn't one-sided )
2ndIINone Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 I just hate seeing them all with their girlfriends because it makes me miss my ex even more. It just seems like everyone has someone except me. I use to get like this.... then I learned to sit back, watch and listen to the other couples start bickerin', fightin' and arguing... and think to myself.... "Ahhh yes, the single life... I enjoy not having petty fights, drama, not having to answer to someone...." It's always nice to see the guys in the relationships notice a cutie they can't talk to, because they're in a relationship... but guess what? I can. so focus on that next time....
EricOnTheWeb Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 At least you "had" a girlfriend,thats more than I've ever had cause I was so freakin shy. Have you tried talking things over with your ex?...maybe you can get back together. If not,then just take your friend's advice and get together with some of those good lookin girls. It sounds like you REALLY miss your ex though. Try just dancing or something with a new girl,it;ll take your mind off of your ex.
tanbark813 Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 How long ago did you guys break up? If it was recent it will pass. I can relate.
Author goodguy123 Posted April 14, 2007 Author Posted April 14, 2007 Our breakup was very much one sided, and I got my heart completely ripped out. And I've tried everything in the world to get her back, but she won't. Although she still calls me every once in a while, which makes me miss her too, and also confuses me to death. And I wish I could dance with a new girl, but I can't find anyone. I haven't even been able to get a date yet. We broke up almost 8 months ago. But I still think about her constantly. I've never met anyone like her, she was beautiful, nice, funny, and I thought we were meant for each other. I guess it doesn't help if I'm the only one that thinks that though.
searchingforanswers Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 GoodGuy, I can completely relate. When my former fiance broke up with me I was devastated. I would go out to parties with friends and I would have nothing to say. I'd go out to the bars and I would feel very single. It's a really awful feeling and I know how terrible it is to be those situations feeling so alone. Your friends will try and give you advice because they want the best for you. They'll probably have a bunch of stock comments that everyone says about break ups. They don't know what you're feeling or what you're going though. It's different for everyone. The thing is it honestly will get better, but you do have to find a way to meet women. I used the internet. I scoured craigslist and went on a bunch of dates. I didn't really like any of the women I dated, but I had fun being out. After awhile i actually liked dating. My ex left me 4 months ago and I am still very hurt, but you have to keep busy. It's one of the healthier things you can do. Volunteer. Start a blog - personally, this has helped me greatly. It's easy to get consumed with thoughts of how things used to be. I still do it and it I get mad because it reminds me of how wonderful things were when we were together. You have to convince yourself that it wasn't all your fault and that she is missing out. It might also helps if you can reflect on what you've learned through this experience. Contact can be very tricky. I am not a proponent of NC. I don't understand it. However, lingering confusion hurts very much. I wish there was an easy answer for all of this, but there isn't. You'll be ok.
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