MattNZ Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Hi guys, Just thought I would throw something on here to open up the chance to cheer some peeps up. Obviously, a lot of posters on here are currently grieving (including myself) and holding out hope of reconciliation. However, I was just wondering if anyone reading these threads has any happy stories of finding new love when they least expected it? I understand that for a lot of us, it is way too soon and feelings are still very raw but was hoping for at least a small ray of sunshine to show people that with time, life can pick itself up again. Matt
Trialbyfire Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 My happy story is that I think I'm down to one carry-on for baggage. It's still sometimes a fairly large case but it will fit under the seat ahead of me. Previous to this, I think I had one carry-on and two check-in pieces of relationship baggage. It's a good feeling.
Guest Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 I've only had one serious bf and we broke up at the end of January. The breakup lasted through the first week or so of March and then we decided that we were both kind of miserable so we're back together now. Does that count as happy? It made me happy.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 A few years ago, my marriage went right down the tubes. I love my H and he loves me, but not in the way that two people need to love each other in order to stay married. He came to me and let me know that he wanted me in his life, and enjoyed sharing a life with me but that he was not in love with me anymore and was not happy 'in that way', so he asked for an open marriage. For a few months, I was ok (in hindsight I think I was just in shock or numb) while he went and did his thing. We moved into separate bedrooms, and began our life as roommates (albeit friendly ones). After a few months it became apparent that I was lonely and sad. I was in my thirties, chopped off hair, somewhat overweight and have a kid - pretty much three strikes against finding someone. I convinced myself that my life as a sexual being/woman was over and simply accepted that I would be happy as 'mom' and live out my life that way. I still had my H there as my friend and support system, but I was missing out on passion, love, sex, desire, etc. Well, H suggested that I go out some with his friend R, who had divorced a year earlier and was in a similar sad/lonely state as I was. R, H and I had been friends for many years, so I felt perfectly comfortable going out with him and H was all for it. He had moved on and wanted me to move on and find happiness too. Why not with R, someone we both knew and trusted? Well, R and I went out. That first night ended with a kiss. An animalistic, explosive, passionate kiss. A few weeks later, we moved it to the next level. We started out as a FWB situation - both of us were emotionally burned out but sexually frustrated, so a casual situation worked well for us. As time went on, we went from FWB to an actual relationship and now fast forward nearly two years later and I can honestly say that I am happy with this man. I have lost the weight,grew out my hair, I look better than I have in years, the sex is absolutely amazing, and we are in love! Far cry from the whole "my life is over" stage a couple of years ago. I honestly did think I would spend the rest of my life asexual and alone.
Woggle Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 A few years ago my first wife cheated on me which caused us to get divorced. She had broken that trust and to me there was no going back so I filed for divorce. After that I swore up and down that I would never marry again or even commit to a woman and I would just play the field for life but one day walking across the boardwalk I met a woman that caught my eye. After getting to know her I was hooked and today we are happily married. Despite the age difference she is everything I could ever want in a woman.
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