Dadubwa Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 A little backround....I was dating this girl for 18 months; Kara...we broke it off...I've been with another girl for almost 2 years; Jill..about 2 weeks ago we broke it off too... This maybe be easier if I do a little time line thingy... 1) Kara and I haven't talked for about 7 months 2) Kara IMed me one day and told me she still loved me and never stopped. I felt a lot alike 3) 2 weeks later Jill and I broke up 4) Kara and I decided to just be "friends" for the time being and see where things go. 5) Kara still has a boyfriend who she doesn't really love...but cares for 6) Kara and I have been e-mailing each other almost every day for the last week and a half...she's given me her number 3 times (I've kinda been too scared to call). 7) The last 2 times I've e-mailed her it said it couldn't be sent...like she blocked me. I'm starting to really worry...I thought she still liked me? and so what if she didn't we're still like best friends and always have been...why is she being like this? What's going on here?
pelagicsands Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 5) Kara still has a boyfriend who she doesn't really love...but cares for Boyfriend is a lot different to friend. Who doesn't care about their friends?! This is different. Best to try not to think so much about this one. She sounds confused. You will just end up being caught in the confusion.
chaos40 Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 So what does Jill have to do with the story? Story line fill in?
Author Dadubwa Posted April 14, 2007 Author Posted April 14, 2007 I gave up Jill to see where Kara and I could go with things, I suppose I just thought Kara would do the same with her boyfriend, was that a naive?
kimberlyk Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 You "gave up" Jill hoping that Kara would give up her boyfriend? Did you tell Jill the truth about why you two broke up? I am assuming the answer is no since you did not mention that in your post. Look at all the deciept/dishonesty here...this is no way to have a satisfactory and fulfilling relationship with anyone...you can't expect respect from anyone when you don't give respect. Ultimately you're only cheating yourself. I am not sure that you should continue a relationship with either of these women, if anything, get backtogether with Jill, but you have to be completely honest with her at all times. Is it possible that you never stopped loving Kara because you two had contact during the relationship with Jill. Maybe this is why you were never able to love her more than Kara. You never mentioned why you and Kara broke it off. Only you know the answers and you need to sit down and analyze your situation completely, inside and out.
Author Dadubwa Posted April 14, 2007 Author Posted April 14, 2007 You "gave up" Jill hoping that Kara would give up her boyfriend? Did you tell Jill the truth about why you two broke up? I am assuming the answer is no since you did not mention that in your post. Look at all the deciept/dishonesty here...this is no way to have a satisfactory and fulfilling relationship with anyone...you can't expect respect from anyone when you don't give respect. Ultimately you're only cheating yourself. I am not sure that you should continue a relationship with either of these women, if anything, get backtogether with Jill, but you have to be completely honest with her at all times. Is it possible that you never stopped loving Kara because you two had contact during the relationship with Jill. Maybe this is why you were never able to love her more than Kara. You never mentioned why you and Kara broke it off. Only you know the answers and you need to sit down and analyze your situation completely, inside and out. I suppose the only easy way I can put this is like this... 1) I didn't "give up" Jill...her and I were completely different people, we just didn't work well together, different interests, different moral values, different ideas of life pretty much. The total reason we broke up is because she was flying across America to visit her friend who was a guy...alone, and for a week when I hadn't seen her for a very long time.....If I didn't love Kara so much, and thought something was there...than I would have tried harder to make Jill and my relationship work out... 2) I didn't mean Kara would "give up" her boyfriend...but she did keep asking where I wanted to take things and I always said I didn't know, because I really loved Jill....Kara always told me I was too scared to try...but when I decided what I wanted...she seemed to scared to try anything new. 3) Kara and I have decided to take things rrrrrreally slow...we're only talking right now, everything is completely innocent...we're just being friends. That's it....even though we both know we have deep feelings for each other. 4) Kara and I kept contact for awhile...but then for a very very very long while cut off all contact...so that's hard to say. 5) Kara and I broke it off because she was leaving for college, because we both thought that maybe we were too good of friends to continue to date. After all was said and done...we both realized we truly loved each other. Tonight I found out that she had not blocked my e-mails...she's been having issues with her computer ....she also had been busy...and we talked for about an hour tonight and she apologized for having me think she didn't want to talk to me anymore.
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