"It's their loss."

[Trialbyfire]

That's great! It's hard enough admitting it, nevermind immediately doing something about it. Impressive nicki.

[JCD]

That saying, it's their loss, I think is meant to comfort you and help you get over them sooner. It never worked for me because I know that it isn't really their loss because like a poster previously wrote, they have the right to reject you. It doesn't matter if you see yourself as valuable, if someone isn't into you, you can't make them love you by being more valuable or whatever.

[Trialbyfire]

Sorry Lights, I should have explained my definition of self-validation. For me, it means that people require an external validation of themselves. In other words, if someone doesn't care to interact with you, you need to get either their acknowledgement of their loss or some form of current or future approval.

[Lights]

Okay. Thanks for your explanations all.