Salicious Crumb Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 Ok...I understand now what you are talking about...sorry before. Not enough info to go on from your first post. I thought you were talking about dating men who aren't as good looking as the level you expect for yourself....you are comparing them to other guys you have dated, am I right? If so...then ya...its that whole...."I don't have to worry about someone ugly cheating, and if they do....I don't care" thing. It might be a little insecurity coming out...but understandable that you get tired of the flirting.
Author VirtualInsanity Posted April 14, 2007 Author Posted April 14, 2007 Ok...I understand now what you are talking about...sorry before. Not enough info to go on from your first post. I thought you were talking about dating men who aren't as good looking as the level you expect for yourself....you are comparing them to other guys you have dated, am I right? If so...then ya...its that whole...."I don't have to worry about someone ugly cheating, and if they do....I don't care" thing. It might be a little insecurity coming out...but understandable that you get tired of the flirting. Bit of both I suppose. Yes the flirting is unbearable. I can't stand it. Especially when the girls look so much better then me. Makes me question myself. Girls EVERYWHERE & maybe jealously on my end but why do they have to be all over? I know the guys love it too. Who wouldn't.
Author VirtualInsanity Posted April 14, 2007 Author Posted April 14, 2007 Wait a minute... You're saying that because you believe you're ugly, you think "attractive" people won't date you? Was that what you were saying? Do attractive people date ugly people?
monkey00 Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 Do attractive people date ugly people? that depends, who's scale of attractive and ugly are you basing it on? I have no clue how you jumped from attractive and average to ugly, is there a purpose behind that question?
suchislife Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 I don't judge a person by their looks, BUT I know people who do. Right now, I know a guy who is quite nice looking, and when I saw who he was dating, I went... What?! Normally, I wouldn't do that, but I know this guy and I could not get over it! She might be really nice - from what I've heard - she has some issues - regarding insecurity and letting people get close to her. My take on it is that he doesn't want to be close either, because he has the same issues, so it's just someone to date for now. My first love was gorgeous, and not honest. My second love was not attractive to others, but he was brilliant, and had the most beautiful eyes. I loved the second one more... You know, if someone is going to fool around they will - maybe it's easier when you are better looking I don't know. I'm pretty nice looking - but I can't take the drama and don't need the ego boost, and a friend told me once that I don't have the aura of someone who doesn't care if you know my name the next day... I don't really have any answers, I would just date who you want, take your time and you'll find out soon enough. As far as others hitting on your love interest, work on yourself and it won't bother you as much. And, sometimes, when looks fade, weight is gained, etc., people stay together because there is much more there. My looks have changed since I've gotten older, but I take care of myself, and I'm smarter, happier and a lot more fun! If they don't want YOU, then YOU don't want THEM. Keep it simple.
Green Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 Any woman I want Ill go after but I did long ago decide to myself that ugly women are both harder to get and not as rewarding when you get them. Thats atleast the way it is for me. So if I had the choice between hitting on a really hot one or an ugly one and I really needed to get laid that night or in the near future(a week or 2) I would still hit on the hotter one first boom
Author VirtualInsanity Posted April 14, 2007 Author Posted April 14, 2007 that depends, who's scale of attractive and ugly are you basing it on? I have no clue how you jumped from attractive and average to ugly, is there a purpose behind that question? No clue myself. For scale, I surpose one would base it off of what they consider attractive because everyone has different views. I don't really have any answers, I would just date who you want, take your time and you'll find out soon enough. As far as others hitting on your love interest, work on yourself and it won't bother you as much. And, sometimes, when looks fade, weight is gained, etc., people stay together because there is much more there. My looks have changed since I've gotten older, but I take care of myself, and I'm smarter, happier and a lot more fun! If they don't want YOU, then YOU don't want THEM. Keep it simple. Thanks SIL. I will try & work on my jealously. Don't know why the flirting bothers me. Keep thinking someone better looking would come along I surpose. Wow, I'm in a deep pickle & @ 23. Time is running out.
deaconblues Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 Wow, I'm in a deep pickle & @ 23. Time is running out. Yeah, right...you got plenty of life to live, hon. 23 only seems old when you are younger than 23.
pelagicsands Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 Yeah, right...you got plenty of life to live, hon. 23 only seems old when you are younger than 23. I guess it depends how many more years in the asylum.
Author VirtualInsanity Posted April 15, 2007 Author Posted April 15, 2007 I guess it depends how many more years in the asylum. Don't know. I kind of like it at this one. Yeah, right...you got plenty of life to live, hon. 23 only seems old when you are younger than 23. Depends on how you look at it. I haven't lived life in years. Doubt I'm missing anything.
Green Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Hey Im 23 to alway thought you were alot younger listent to my wisdom just go after who ever your attracted to boom. Oh yeah your a woman so just say yes to any guy you are atracted to who is asking you out
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