DOA Posted April 17, 2007 Posted April 17, 2007 EC, GO WITH YOUR GUT FEELING. Actions speak louder than words, so step back and take a really good look at how he treats you compared to what he says or what are in those emails. I tend to think a woman's intuition is really accurate (at least for me, I've NEVER been wrong when I've had a hunch), and at times when I've been suss, yes, I've snooped, it's bad, BUT it also either strengthened/reinforced the trust I had for my boy OR fractured it even more (than it already was, for good reason too!) I've found emails from exs, that when I read, made me cringe and want to cry. And also caught him out in some lies. But when I took a step back, analysed how he treated me and the measures he's gone to to make our relatioship work, I realise that I am TRULY the one he wants to be with. I can see it in his eyes and in the way he holds me, and all our friends can see it too and have reassured me time and time again that they can TELL my bf is totally in love with me just the way he looks at me. So I say, if you REALLY feel very strongly that something fishy is going on, continue to snoop or skim over. If you find that there is nothing there to cause you worry, THEN stop. And obviously, if fishy things continue to carry on, start seriously thinking whether or not this relationship and this boy is worth all the constant insecurity and distrust.
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