shelliezdesign Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 I'm in a ridiculous situation. And I'm an idiot to keep going round and round. Now I believe it's time for NO CONTACT. But it's so hard to do. Been with a guy for 4 years. We were engaged and lived together, but I called off the engagement, had him move out and broke up twice in all that time..but then I go back when he's Mr. perfect nice guy. Why do I break up? He's an alcoholic who becomes angry even with a few drinks...and when he crosses the threshold...he becomes a scary / evil beligerant drunk. He's embarrassed me on many occasions. He doesn't acknowledge his drinking problems...to which he's rolled cars, broke his ankle, lost friends, lost his job...etc. Then within the last year he has not said "I love you" and stopped sharing his feelings with me. So I do my own thing as a way of detaching and he keeps reeling me in with kindness when he's sober. So after months of fighting .... he and I agreed three days ago to finally "mutually" break up. I was fine with it. BUT THEN...he calls me yesterday to go dirt biking (I own a quad). I'm at the point that I need the NO CONTACT rule. He doesn't get it. Why is he asking to do something like things are normal again. He does this all the time. We fight....he never talks it out... I try...he ignores it and resumes life as normal. I've been doing this for the last year and I'm physically and mentally exhausted. I'm weak out of insecurity too. So...am I right... No conact is the only way? I'm ready to be done ....finally.
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