Salicious Crumb Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 When we get together with someone romantically there is always a slight chance they will cheat on you, you cannot trust someone 100%, at least I think it's foolish to trust 100%, there is always a 1% chance that your partner will cheat. Humans are humans. Damn...if I would have had this info in the 90's...I'd have never gotten married.
Author bigblueeyes Posted April 24, 2007 Author Posted April 24, 2007 Let me ask you this if you feel so bad for his wife why would you even have an affair with him in the first place? I just think that if he came to you and said my marriage is over . You would be here all happy and giddy that you got your married man. I think his wife would have something to say about your crocodile tears for her. What can I say? It is not as if I was ever proud of having an affair and if you ask me today, I will honestly say that I havce no freaking clue what I was thinking getting into this whole mess to begin with. But I will admit to being in denial about a lot of things. As to whether I would be happy, I don't think so. The situation has developed in a way where I doubt he and I would be able to overcome so many months of living a lie. Topper, think your input is valid, but don't judge me without knowing anything about me.
Topper Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Fair enough I won't judge. I just see so many woman passing blame and condemnation off on the man. They are not addressing their own responsibility in the Affair. Your last post tells me you are looking at your own actions. I still think your anger is more about not having things go your way. But I will give you the benefit of the doubt here. I have had my own temtations, yet in all the years I was married (18 years) I never let things get to far. Maybe I was lucky.
Author bigblueeyes Posted April 24, 2007 Author Posted April 24, 2007 Maybe, Topper. I take full responsibility for my actions, which is also why I have ended the affair. But life can get very complicated, and fear, uncertainty, doubt can cloud our judgement as can raging hormones and lust mistaken for love. And sometimes the timing for two people just sucks! It ain't easy being green, as Kermit sings, but we all gotta get through life one way or the other. And hopefully we do so with a lot of good memories and few regrets.
Babybird Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Damn...if I would have had this info in the 90's...I'd have never gotten married. I did know this and still did it...twice.
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