bigblueeyes Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 That he thinks he is the last Coca Cola in the desert And for the OW/BS he is
Tomcat33 Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 who needs a coke in the desert when you'll only be doubly thirsty an hour later!
sadbuttrue Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 MM is so worried i will find someone better. he knows he is not the only "coca cola in the desert."
Jinxx Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 MM is so worried i will find someone better. he knows he is not the only "coca cola in the desert." I hope you do find someone better. You deserve that.
herenow Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 I don't drink coke and neither do my kids. I run an anti coke household. Now I could go for a big glass of lemonade. You all know the saying: "When life gives you lemons..."
sadbuttrue Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 I hope you do find someone better. You deserve that. thanks jinxx, me too
kymberann Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 This is not the only problem, they think they can get away with it too and they know they can move on to something else when the gig is up!
frannie Posted April 21, 2007 Posted April 21, 2007 This is not the only problem, they think they can get away with it too and they know they can move on to something else when the gig is up! Isn't that kind of attitude all it the mind..? I mean... how free is a married person to 'move on' to what..? It's the single one who is able to move on... not having the spouse and children and everything else in tow. Yeah... someone can always move on... but to what..? What are you looking for, and what is enough..?
Author bigblueeyes Posted April 21, 2007 Author Posted April 21, 2007 since I started this thread , I am taking the liberty to hijack it. MM and I have been through two D-Days and after the last one, he today told his wife in marriage counselling that it is an open question whether he is staying or leaving her. When he told me, I just flipped and not just because of myself, but also because of his W. I got so angry and asked how in the hell he could put her and me through another round of living in a state of fear and hope and without any certainty. It is so cruel of him, given his W is already devastated from not only finding out about the A, but also that he continued to see me, while pretending to her that it was over (his defence: She never asked whether it was over between us, so I did not tell her) And it just so proves to me, he is lying through his teeth with me and trying to manipulate me into staying with him with fake promises of a future! I told him I was NOT, NO WAY, going to be his accomplice in destroying his wife anymore. It is already enough that we had an affair, but to continue to deliberately hurt another person, is NOT what I am about. I already feel like **** about having an A with her husband. I told he could take all his crap about wanting to be a decent person and shove it. I had no choice but to end it, then and there. I told him that maybe because I did not have the same attachment to him as his W and as much as stake, it was easier for me to see all his bull**** for what it is, adding I wished his W had the balls to also dump his sorry ass!!!! I don't give a flying F*** about all his self-pity anymore. He is hurting people around him so badly and feeling sorry for himself. What a freaking wanker!!!!!
whichwayisup Posted April 21, 2007 Posted April 21, 2007 I got so angry and asked how in the hell he could put her and me through another round of living in a state of fear and hope and without any certainty Cuz he cares about himself most. It is so cruel of him, given his W is already devastated from not only finding out about the A, but also that he continued to see me, while pretending to her that it was over (his defence: She never asked whether it was over between us, so I did not tell her) Cuz he only cares about himself... I told him I was NOT, NO WAY, going to be his accomplice in destroying his wife anymore. It is already enough that we had an affair, but to continue to deliberately hurt another person, is NOT what I am about. I already feel like **** about having an A with her husband. I told he could take all his crap about wanting to be a decent person and shove it. I had no choice but to end it, then and there. I told him that maybe because I did not have the same attachment to him as his W and as much as stake, it was easier for me to see all his bull**** for what it is, adding I wished his W had the balls to also dump his sorry ass!!!! Good for you! You stood up to him and stood your ground. You've said it outloud to him, so now it's time to DO in action what you told him. I don't give a flying F*** about all his self-pity anymore. He is hurting people around him so badly and feeling sorry for himself. I'm glad you recognize this behaviour. He obivously doesn't give much thought to your or his wife's feelings so at the end of the day, why should you care about his? Walk away, let him do what he's gonna do with his wife...Don't talk about it to her, or him just move on and don't look back. Best revenge is live well and get the F out of this unhealthy and f**k'd up situation.
Author bigblueeyes Posted April 21, 2007 Author Posted April 21, 2007 Whichway, just started another thread, which should tell you exactly how I feel about him now. I have never had contact with his wife and do not plan to. She has my number from his mobile phone, but has so far not called me. If she does, I will tell her that there is only two things a woman needs in life - a good hairdresser and a good divorce laywer.
torranceshipman Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 BigBlueEyes...best post ever! I read that and thought, holy crap, what a woman. LOL!...that post hijack was one of the funniest things I've ever read - put a big smile on my face! Well done for kicking that idiot to the kerb!
dropdeadlegs Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 since I started this thread , I am taking the liberty to hijack it. MM and I have been through two D-Days and after the last one, he today told his wife in marriage counselling that it is an open question whether he is staying or leaving her. When he told me, I just flipped and not just because of myself, but also because of his W. I got so angry and asked how in the hell he could put her and me through another round of living in a state of fear and hope and without any certainty. It is so cruel of him, given his W is already devastated from not only finding out about the A, but also that he continued to see me, while pretending to her that it was over (his defence: She never asked whether it was over between us, so I did not tell her) And it just so proves to me, he is lying through his teeth with me and trying to manipulate me into staying with him with fake promises of a future! I told him I was NOT, NO WAY, going to be his accomplice in destroying his wife anymore. It is already enough that we had an affair, but to continue to deliberately hurt another person, is NOT what I am about. I already feel like **** about having an A with her husband. I told he could take all his crap about wanting to be a decent person and shove it. I had no choice but to end it, then and there. I told him that maybe because I did not have the same attachment to him as his W and as much as stake, it was easier for me to see all his bull**** for what it is, adding I wished his W had the balls to also dump his sorry ass!!!! I don't give a flying F*** about all his self-pity anymore. He is hurting people around him so badly and feeling sorry for himself. What a freaking wanker!!!!! Looks like your bigblueeyes are now wide open. Congratulations!
Topper Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 What a self serving post. I Have an idea that you are more outraged at not coming out on top in this love triangle. I'm sure your MM's wife would laugh at your your moral outrage.
Lukkyu Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 The problem with MM is that he would stoop so low as to break a solemn vow to his wife.
Author bigblueeyes Posted April 23, 2007 Author Posted April 23, 2007 What a self serving post. I Have an idea that you are more outraged at not coming out on top in this love triangle. I'm sure your MM's wife would laugh at your your moral outrage. Topper, say what you want. If you think, I was upset about "not coming out on top", you're horribly wrong and have little clue about what it is like to be the OW. All I ever expected from MM was for him to be a man about the situation, and my post is a reflection of my utter dissapointment, when I realised he was not going to be a man about anything. Maybe his wife would laugh at my moral outrage and be happy that her hubby has been dumped. But I am sorry to say that if she stays with him the joke will be on her, because I have no doubt that he will cheat again given the chance. And I am also pretty sure that he would re-start the A with me IF I gave him teh chance. No, she should ask for a divorce and laugh all the way to the bank, if you ask me.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Sadly enough it isn't a joking matter to his wife. Sadly enough he would take you back. Sadly enough he will cheat again, not if given the chance, but he will make his own chance and there are plenty of women who will be honored, atleast initially, that he wants to cheat with them, sadly enough...
Tomcat33 Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 When we get together with someone romantically there is always a slight chance they will cheat on you, you cannot trust someone 100%, at least I think it's foolish to trust 100%, there is always a 1% chance that your partner will cheat. Humans are humans. On the other hand, when a person takes back their cheating partner they are leaving the door right open to be disrespected again. I strongly believe that. We teach others how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves. If we show them that we will put up with anything, they will give you anything. I agree with BBE, I don't think that MW should be laughing much knowing what she knows and can expect.... BigBlue - it's terrific you stood your ground and gave yourself the worth that you deserve!
Author bigblueeyes Posted April 23, 2007 Author Posted April 23, 2007 Just so we are all clear. OF COURSE THIS IS NOT IN ANY WAYS A LAUGHING MATTER! In my reply to Topper, I merely tried to use his/her words to make a point! And I do believe that MM's W would be better of leaving after what he has put her through. That was my main point!
whichwayisup Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 On the other hand, when a person takes back their cheating partner they are leaving the door right open to be disrespected again. I strongly believe that. We teach others how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves. If we show them that we will put up with anything, they will give you anything. And what about OW who keep allowing the MM back into her life? It goes both ways ya know.
Tomcat33 Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 And what about OW who keep allowing the MM back into her life? It goes both ways ya know. I agree. That's why as the OW you give the man an ultimatum and if he is not prepared to act on it you walk and not look back otherwise he will do to you the same thing he did to his W.
Topper Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Let me ask you this if you feel so bad for his wife why would you even have an affair with him in the first place? I just think that if he came to you and said my marriage is over . You would be here all happy and giddy that you got your married man. I think his wife would have something to say about your crocodile tears for her.
Salicious Crumb Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Topper, say what you want. If you think, I was upset about "not coming out on top", you're horribly wrong and have little clue about what it is like to be the OW. All I ever expected from MM was for him to be a man about the situation If he was a man, he wouldn't be in this situation. Same goes for you.
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