Pyro Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 "Testing" is done by both male and female. It is just a way to see if we are compatible with a potential mate, aside from communicating. I don't like using the word "testing", but actions do speak louder then words and you can't just go by someone's word. You have to see some sort of proof.
VirtualInsanity Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 Men do test....but our testing is much shorter and less comprehensive. We also don't obsess about the results as much as women do. So true. Sometimes I call my gf's asking what they think. Turns into a 2 hour debate.
melodymatters Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 exactly alpha, which is neither right nor wrong, simply trying to find a good fit for OURSELVES. Does that not make perfect sense ? Better to find out sooner than later that, say, she doesn't "believe" in oral sex. Don't YOU toss out conversational crumbs to try and get to know a person more ? For example, my ex husband told me that "rednecks don't go down" he had lived in the south for awhile whereas I had not. Once I moved to the south and had a redneck date, i TOTALLY slipped that into the convo, and cheers, ex hubby was wrong, but better to ask than waste time and be dissapointed, don't you agree
VirtualInsanity Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 i want to know why we have to be tested, isnt being a MAN enough? as for testing of course i am being tested, but simply i ur saying a women being on the face of it removed of nasty or ignorant or condesending is a woman testing a man?? do women talk about testing there men>? Do you test women?
amaysngrace Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 I guess I test but it's more for self-preservation more than anything. I play it cool in the beginning and put my feelers out. Is feelers a word?
Author kepners Posted April 11, 2007 Author Posted April 11, 2007 You asked "Do women test men when we start dating?" I answered that. Yes women do. Stupid not to. I already see a test that would be done on you. :laugh: well then its lucky i aint interested and calling you up on it is fun. so stupid not to> what do u mean by that?
Author kepners Posted April 11, 2007 Author Posted April 11, 2007 do i test women? i dont even understand the concept. to me that would be manipulation. i dont know. tested on me, is calling me rude and arrogant blah blah blah, me replying so what thats ur opinion, her saying cool i like that.... that kinda test i dont do. or similar, what would consitute a MALE test please
VirtualInsanity Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 calling you up on it is fun. Fun for you...not for me...I have to answer! :laugh: so stupid not to> what do u mean by that? I test guys to see if we are compatable. If I had any bad experiences & didn't want to re-live them, I test to see if he's like that. Smart move on my end. Stupid to get involved & find out later. Find out BEFORE. Saves drama and being hurt.
alphamale Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 I test guys to see if we are compatable. If I had any bad experiences & didn't want to re-live them, I test to see if he's like that. Smart move on my end. Stupid to get involved & find out later. Find out BEFORE. Saves drama and being hurt. many men & women lie about, or exaggerate, their past anyways. So what are you going to find out? It takes long time to get to know a person fairly well and even then you'll never know them 100%.
Author kepners Posted April 11, 2007 Author Posted April 11, 2007 ok but isnt that why do and say things to get a reaction. i have a friend gemma who freely admits at the end of her last relationship she used to do thiings purely to get a RISE from him. oh and u like me replying then! tell me what games / tests do men play?
Guest Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 i want to know why we have to be tested, isnt being a MAN enough? ? Is it possible that you're gay? It's really easy to pick up the phone and call a woman. None of that gay, wussy texting, waiting for her to text back, etc. It's very simple...if you want to talk to a woman, you pick up the phone and ask her on a date. If you have to post something like this wondering about this stuff it really does make me think you might be gay. sorry but that's the truth.
VirtualInsanity Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 many men & women lie about, or exaggerate, their past anyways. So what are you going to find out? It takes long time to get to know a person fairly well and even then you'll never know them 100%. I analyze people instantly & good at it. Testing for me is natural. Sometimes little things are enough to go on. Huge risk but can't help it.
Topper Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 The man test! How can I find out it those are real or not? Man test #2, I wonder how she looks naked. Man test#3, How much money do I have to spend to get her in bed?
melodymatters Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 ok but isnt that why do and say things to get a reaction. i have a friend gemma who freely admits at the end of her last relationship she used to do thiings purely to get a RISE from him. oh and u like me replying then! tell me what games / tests do men play? Uh, your friend gemma wasn't "testing" at the end of her relationship, she was manipulating, or just being a bitch because she didn't care anymore
Vera_Louise Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 Honestly, the only test that goes up right away when a guy texts and IMs is that does he pass the 'heterosexual' test? Because, well, a man who is into women picks up the phone and calls. I would seriously wonder if a guy was gay if he was texting me and expecting me to reply within X amount of time, and then sits around on a board all agitated about it and wondering what to do. I'm just being honest. Maybe you need to further be honest with yourself and explore your sexuality so you can have the courage to come out of the closet. It's OK to be gay!
amaysngrace Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 Honestly, the only test that goes up right away when a guy texts and IMs is that does he pass the 'heterosexual' test? Because, well, a man who is into women picks up the phone and calls. I would seriously wonder if a guy was gay if he was texting me and expecting me to reply within X amount of time, and then sits around on a board all agitated about it and wondering what to do. I'm just being honest. Maybe you need to further be honest with yourself and explore your sexuality so you can have the courage to come out of the closet. It's OK to be gay! What is this, high school? Everybody has to be somebody else all of a sudden. What's the matter with you lady...two screen names aren't enough so now you need to have three? This place was a lot better before you ever joined under your first name! No offense.
xenonsrt10 Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 if the girl is nice enough, if you fail the test, she will ask you to be "friends" with her. i made the mistake. dont be her "friend".
monkey00 Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 if the girl is nice enough, if you fail the test, she will ask you to be "friends" with her. i made the mistake. dont be her "friend". I dont think there's necessarily just one test. there are many ongoing ones, even if you guys wind up being friends...the tests may even continue to go on. women are much more pickier than men, a woman wouldnt be a woman if she didnt filter out the pulp from the juice. as for testing...women over analyze situations way too much. if you pass , you pass if you fail, you fail...but if a woman was interested in a guy from the get go, there usually should be a chance to redeem yourself as tests are ongoing
DanielMadr Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 Yes they do test. Why? They want to figure out what you are made of. My only problem with tests is When they do it not so subtly a loose respect for them. More tests too early and too heavy signifies she is insecure, mean, control freak, stuck up, bitchy, princess, ego maniac whatever. The best way to deal with it is to shut up, smile and sometimes call her on it. When you get uneasy (nervous, frustrated...)...BOOOM....you are out. Do some P.O.V. escape, evasion and interrogation courses. GESTAPO was walk in the park.
Author kepners Posted April 12, 2007 Author Posted April 12, 2007 i gotta say... the whole gay thing is hilarious! because, ur actually trying to mock me by implying i am gay because thats ment to be instulting and because texting is 'gay' that only gay people text therefore because u text your gay, but then at the end say its ok to be gay. as if to say i wasnt being rude,i am just making a point. sure what ever you think princess, no diff to me. gay, yeah your gay and you eat mud! and shelly from class said she saw you.... HAHAHA i think there are some very good points? one being, why are women choosey and MEN NOT!!!! this is become obvious to me, that men take anything yet women are allowed the luxury of CHOICE!! oh life! HAHAHA
DanielMadr Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 i gotta say... the whole gay thing is hilarious! because, ur actually trying to mock me by implying i am gay because thats ment to be instulting and because texting is 'gay' that only gay people text therefore because u text your gay, but then at the end say its ok to be gay. as if to say i wasnt being rude,i am just making a point. sure what ever you think princess, no diff to me. gay, yeah your gay and you eat mud! and shelly from class said she saw you.... HAHAHA i think there are some very good points? one being, why are women choosey and MEN NOT!!!! this is become obvious to me, that men take anything yet women are allowed the luxury of CHOICE!! oh life! HAHAHA B/C men dont care that much about girls personality. Evolutionary thing I suppose. Men cant get pregnant. Men dont need someone to protect them etc. so they are more benevolent about girls attitude. And women are in demand. On one pretty girl there is one thousand guys. She has to filtre it quick....'next...next...next...interesting...lets see what comes next.....there has to be something even better.....next....oh he doesnt want me, he has to be the biggest fish I ever caughtt...oh he fell in love with me, next......f@ck Im too old....men suck.'
kribby Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 I have only tested men I wasn't sure of... and I wanted surety. When I am confident in a relationship there is no need to test. It is cracked to say but... in my current relationship I am really confident because even though I am not keeping crazy tabs on the guy I know where he pretty much is 24/7 and I know if he doesn't call me back all like instantly he is busy... I know he thinks I am all awesome and etc. (I also know he would beat the a** of anyone who attempted to disrespect me... but that is another story) I know he wants to be with me... desires me... and as he labels it as 'really really likes me'. When you are sure about someone-- there is no reason to test. When we first started dating... I don't even think I tested him then. I didn't go the whole route of-- if I email him at 9am and he doesnt' respond by 3pm this means he doesn't care about me... or if I send him a text at 4pm and if he doesn't respond by 5:45pm then he doesn't want to be with me. I am far too busy, in my own life, to put such ridiculous restrictions on a person. I guess I could segueway into testing him around say... Thanksgiving or Christmas.. maybe I could think... if he invites me to his families dinner then he loves me-- OR I could just talk to him. Testing doesn't really do much for you. I don't want to be someone sitting about trying to divine meaning out of arbitrary action. That's for the crazies. Open communication is ALWAYS better.
Author kepners Posted April 12, 2007 Author Posted April 12, 2007 ahh an now it comes clear... it back to the caveman stuff. protection, good genes money support strength good looks. so basically men have to everything, women have to just be good looking?
kribby Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 ahh an now it comes clear... it back to the caveman stuff. protection, good genes money support strength good looks. so basically men have to everything, women have to just be good looking? OH F*** YEAH! Dude, (I am just joking here) you know when the apocalypse comes what man do you think the hot girls are gonna shack up with??? We are going to go for the tough manly type... not the wussy whatever man. Who else is going to protect us from the mad max(ian) hoards of motorcycle gangs??? It is all about the whole package! And maybe we should be all testing guys anyway-- trying to see if they have a can of whupa** to open up on any person who would dare insult or seek to harm their woman!!!!!!!!! (Educated) Cavemen ROCK!
serial muse Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 a simple question with lots of sub questions, Do women test men when we start dating? If so why do women do it? what purpose does it serve? Have you ever tested a man? why? What happens if a man fails THE TEST? or passes the TEST? IF there is NO test, why do men get put in situations/make it look like your being tested? why do men think they are being tested by women when ur first start going out? i have my own views on this, but i want to here what everyone else has to say and explain how they see things. Hm. Is this a test?
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